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How to "date" as a Christian
Here's an excellent video which provides a template for Christian men to date with the intention to marry.





If you want more detail, I recommend these lectures: http://orthodoxinfo.com/praxis/frjosiah_...oss06.aspx

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RE: How to date as a Christian
Great video, his advice can definitely apply to Catholics as well

One thing I'm trying to understand in the context of dating in the church is how much you should get to know her before you formally start dating her? How do you walk the line between making your intentions of a serious relationship clear and not coming on too strong?

Its still relatively recent that ive become more involved in the church, and I'm still trying to leave behind learned habits from casual dating. Especially with balancing being aloof and showing interest.

Is the right approach just making small talk with various people in the community, and after some time if a single woman sticks out to you, then you start asking for blessings from family, priest, etc?
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RE: How to date as a Christian
I think around 4:20 is really good advice, don't start "dating" until you are "ready to do business." Towards 5:15 is also good in his pointing out that marriage is really a managed thing that is public and communal, if right done and understood --- so "get permission before you start". I think the further the culture got individualized and less "arranged" marriages became, the worse off everyone got on average. Of course, the longshot "soulmate" foolishness only served to hurt all those who thought everything was possible, or at least women with pie in the sky notions that only were attempts of satisfying hindbrain hypergamy.

Fr. Josiah is always worth listening to, and considering.

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RE: How to date as a Christian
(02-14-2020 05:09 PM)Cortés Wrote:  Great video, his advice can definitely apply to Catholics as well

One thing I'm trying to understand in the context of dating in the church is how much you should get to know her before you formally start dating her? How do you walk the line between making your intentions of a serious relationship clear and not coming on too strong?

Its still relatively recent that ive become more involved in the church, and I'm still trying to leave behind learned habits from casual dating. Especially with balancing being aloof and showing interest.

Is the right approach just making small talk with various people in the community, and after some time if a single woman sticks out to you, then you start asking for blessings from family, priest, etc?

A problem is you often won't know much about a new girl you just met. That makes it difficult to get the proper blessings from the beginning when you don't even know if you really want to court her. You may still need more information about her personality, background, faith, etc.

One potential option is to add a brief friendship period before beginning an official courtship. You tell a girl that you would like to be friends with her, and if you believe there is a match, you will ask her to enter a courtship. This friendship period can be short, maybe 1-3 months. You can meet once a week over tea. If it's not a match, you amicably go separate ways. If it's a match, you then receive the proper blessings to begin courtship. I have tried this on one girl, and we didn't make it out of the friendship stage, but it ended without any drama or heartache.

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RE: How to date as a Christian
I thought dating was originally a homosexual activity?
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RE: How to date as a Christian
About a dozen Orthodox friends were at his event yesterday, sounds like a good time but without too much matchmaking success from the initial reports. Just remember to be discerning, fellas. Behavior is always more important than words when it comes to whether someone truly lives the way they say they do (and Father Josiah would be the first to point that out).

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RE: How to date as a Christian
Prager U video recommended in the talk



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RE: How to date as a Christian
(02-15-2020 01:35 AM)SantoDom Wrote:  I thought dating was originally a homosexual activity?

For those who are secular, it helps to use their terms to start building understanding. Courtship is what Father Josiah really speaks off and what this really is.

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