And you know what the funny thing is? Women need a king to look up to. They need a man to look up to, a superior not her equal. They crave it. They long for it with all their heart and soul, with every fiber in her body and with every emotion she has. If otherwise, she can never feel truly at ease and truly feminine, as that requires trust to give control out of hands to the man. Satan has sadly vilified this Godly hierarchical dynamic in which both the man and woman thrive, feel natural and in their power, meaning and satisfaction (I don't like the modernist word and use of happiness), but 9 out of 10 women will look for this and will usually be utterly open about it when you'd ask them for their ideal man. The social conditioning doesn't erode that underlying foundational structure, but it does put a lot of strain on it in which due to the life experiences, life situation and indoctrination in modern society it is very hard for a woman to submit to a man. And to keep it a stack, I get it logically too from some point: you cannot count on a relationship to have the length that you want it to have, you don't have that certainty as in the past (even though 80% of relationships/divorces are initiated by women who usually jump up to a ''better'' man socio-economically). But the me2 stuff and whole toxic masculinity anti masculinity narrative that's being pushed so ferociously by the global regime does create a lot of increased tension, to the point in which I doubt that besides a religious marriage with both parties virgin and a strong theological/social/community component to it any functioning relationship will be possible in the near future, let alone marriage.
I looked into this in a biblical sense. Some texts that I find helpful below.
I think it is worth to define that look up to means. What do we mean?
In the modernist sense, men have created images of what they should be, always strong, fit, young, bursting with energy, rich, popular etc etc. The bible says nothing about this. (so I think that would be a mistake)
What it says though: "the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband"
And that gives clarity, how does Christ guide us? Christ guides me in wisdom and gives me a shoulder when a need it and a correction when I need it. I need to actively work on my faith to search for it. Faith is an action.
I think it says, that when we men are good christians and relate well to God, we give our women a good example. Why should they listen to us, if we don't listen to God. This is a spiritual connection between man and woman in which we can help them with our wisdom received.
This also means that what I see in many modern relations that the man is caddy or a shopping list for the wive is not right. If we beg to god for a lot of money, the wive will do that of us.
So it's all up to us, how we relate to Christ, is how our wives will relate to us. So we need to get that relation in order above all things. If we ask god for wisdom or his opinion, or wives will ask the same of us, if we ask for forgiveness to Christ, our wives will do the same to us, if we can share our pain with Christ, our wives can do the same with us.
But if we ask christ to be always strong, fit, young, bursting with energy, rich and popular, our wives will demand that from us.
For me a very personal topic, as it is so hard to relate in good way. But I believe it all comes down to our relation to Christ.
And to be honest this what I wrote down here, is all I could ever desire my wife.
So it's all up to us, how we relate to Christ, is how our wives will relate to us. So we need to get that relation in order above all things. If we ask god for wisdom or his opinion, or wives will ask the same of us, if we ask for forgiveness to Christ, our wives will do the same to us, if we can share our pain with Christ, our wives can do the same with us.
Corinthians 11:3
But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:22-33
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, ...
Timothy 2:11-15
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.
Corinthians 11:9
Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.
Proverbs 12:4
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
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