You are preaching to the choir. I've been in an 11 yr custody battle for my daughter from my 1st marriage, in the worst State in the whole country for Dads.@Heismightytosave
Reality check: The family court system hates men. Secondly the OP is saying this all happened after spinal surgery, even with insurance that will zap the pocketbook. So how is a man with no money even going to hire a divorce attorney (who may achieve exactly nothing to boot).
And yet, the only reason I haven't won already is that my Ex has parents with very deep pockets.
You can't just roll over and let your kid get taken from you without a fight. And yes, that fight can- and probably should- be done without an attorney for most, at least most of the time. That's one of the big mistakes that I've made in my case- paying an attorney when I shouldn't have.