Day 2 Update: Have a date lined up Wednesday night with a trad Queen from a neighboring church. Learning not to be afraid to cold approach & ask for dates; this won’t just fall into our hands. No fap is helping with confidence.
Unreal. Absolutely and simply based. How did this come about? Prayers are being on answered on this very forum. You are making me want to cold approach. How much small talk did you make before you dropped the hammer and asked her on a date? I always found in my secular days women say no to dinner, but yes to drinks or just going straight to the apartment.
Your communication style is fine. The only weird thing was the multiple disclaimers. It comes off like you have anxiety, at least to an American. We are more relaxed and less likely to take offense or read into things, unless you are from a big city or the coasts.
But yea, basically when I say she was unoriginal, on our dates I tried asking her what her values were and what she wanted out of life and she was very short, almost closed off and batted everything I said right back to me. I really feel like I need deep conversation in a partner, and if after three dates we are still just only able to make polite chit chat I felt like there was not much between us. If she would have opened up even a little bit emotionally I would have continued, but all she really told me about herself was a little bit of family gossip and stuff about work and school.