Agreed.One thing I've been trying to do is build the foundational skills/virtues/activities that would make me more joyful and content whether in marriage or single.
Having a strong faith and prayer life, being an active member of the community (church and local communities), being sharp mentally, being strong and fit physically, being emotionally balanced, being sober or at least moderate, improving at my career, learning new things that are useful, fasting, eating healthy food, developing a good work ethic, etc.
There are moments I fantasize or desire to be married, and that is a challenge in my spiritual life. Of course the antidote is not saying "I will never get married," but leaving it up to God and focus on the foundational virtues and skills, I feel a lot more grateful and satisfied than focusing on what I want or feel like I am lacking. Easier said than done, I know, I still struggle but lately it has been better than earlier in the pandemic, when I was really wishing for this.
I have benefitted a lot from focusing on becoming a man worthy of God. I don't know what that will mean for me in terms of marriage or whatever, but it does mean not eating junk, not being lazy, taking care of ones surroundings and appearance, getting enough sleep and exercise etc.
The other thing is how can you expect God to bring you a wife if you cannot stop masturbating to pornography? Is your wife really going to want that?
You immediately give yourself an advantage over 99% other young men if you don't watch porn. No woman worthy of a marriage is going to be happy with a husband who can't stop masturbating to porn. The other benefit is that you gain time to then focus on other things that will give you an advantage such as exercise.
One thing that really helps me a lot is focusing on how porn is an attack on men. It ruins our brains. It's addictive. It makes us miserable and robs us of our vitality. It's clearly an instrument of Satan. If you can get to the point where the thought of porn literally makes you angry at Satan and sad for all the people hopelessly addicted to it then you've made good strides to eliminating it from your life. It's not just a personal battle you are fighting.