They are reacting rationally to the MMP (marriage market place). This is something most, if not all, women never get. That's how men approach things - rationally and logically. Not saying women never do, but that your thinking is much more emotional than men's, most of the time.Most young men, in general, ARE frittering. Frittering away their noontime, suppertime, choretime too! (One might say.)
There is a vast difference between a) frittering away your youth; and b) trying to find a wife when you're young, getting thwarted at every turn, and then deciding "Screw it, the women arent interested. I might as well make the best of the situation." Aaron Clarey (and others) makes a living from young men going through scenario (b).
Because of the asymmetry in courtship, where women get pursued and men must do the pursuing, and the fact that most young women will get pursued by lots of men, I don't think women can ever fully grasp how difficult the MMP is for men.