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<blockquote data-quote="Ah_Tibor" data-source="post: 1453113" data-attributes="member: 20190">It's wanting to be perceived as smart, successful, and being a good provider. Most people live in a meritocratic culture (not everyone does, some people inherit wealth but I think there is some drive to make something of yourself regardless) where intelligence = wealth, dumb = poor, even if they say otherwise (most of the hardcore lefties I know are from rich af families).My husband's family is middle-class affluent (engineer and a teacher) but my MIL is money-oriented and often makes snide comments. My husband has been looking for a new job for awhile (COVID-era job hunting SUCKS btw) and he has a certain idea of what a &quot;good&quot; job is because of what has been drummed into his head (and that if his wife has to work even part-time, he's a failure). Yet we live comfortably; we lived most of last year one income, I've been working weekends for a few months to help out with food/gas/extras. My family was poorish growing up but I feel grateful for it as an adult. (He's the second of five children, so while they all got their college paid for, they weren't spoiled thankfully. His parents and siblinga are very comfort-oriented though.)Food/shelter/some savings/occasional extras. My goals aren't extravagant. I'm ready to get pregnant again though lol.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Ah_Tibor, post: 1453113, member: 20190"] It's wanting to be perceived as smart, successful, and being a good provider. Most people live in a meritocratic culture (not everyone does, some people inherit wealth but I think there is some drive to make something of yourself regardless) where intelligence = wealth, dumb = poor, even if they say otherwise (most of the hardcore lefties I know are from rich af families). My husband's family is middle-class affluent (engineer and a teacher) but my MIL is money-oriented and often makes snide comments. My husband has been looking for a new job for awhile (COVID-era job hunting SUCKS btw) and he has a certain idea of what a "good" job is because of what has been drummed into his head (and that if his wife has to work even part-time, he's a failure). Yet we live comfortably; we lived most of last year one income, I've been working weekends for a few months to help out with food/gas/extras. My family was poorish growing up but I feel grateful for it as an adult. (He's the second of five children, so while they all got their college paid for, they weren't spoiled thankfully. His parents and siblinga are very comfort-oriented though.) Food/shelter/some savings/occasional extras. My goals aren't extravagant. I'm ready to get pregnant again though lol. [/QUOTE]

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