I'm really not into confusing or distracting by these comments, but in studying the Old Testament scriptures I always found it curious that so many of the patriarchs had multiple wives and concubines. As christians we are certainly called to higher things, but our culture has been subverted and marriage or becoming a husband or wife is no longer a priority. The reason I find threads like this interesting is because I come from the other side of the commonly referred to (PUA) paradigm, where most thankfully have changed their ways, but from always being the old rvf type or pua guy, or traveler (or all of the above). The society was always the society, I now see (let's say the last 40-50 years), but being orthodox in america I guess during this time didn't easily produce any more matches or connections than you may have otherwise thought - I was the other side of it. I always had my sins, but I didn't focus on any of the player or pua stuff for years, and all that led to was a type of drought or saltiness that you do all this work and so few connections were really possible. Perhaps the small number of potentially suitable women I had were my fault in not capitalizing on, but being a religious person and wanting that for your family limits you in a mostly faithless society. Ehh, perhaps it's good it worked out that way. We don't know what's going to happen this decade and how having a family might, in certain ways, involve far greater pain. Things to think about.