I went out on a date last Saturday with a 33yo female (I'm 39), we met on Hinge. We met for a casual dinner at a little spanish tapas place. She let me know at the beginning that she was vegetarian, so I helped us identify a veggie plate, a cheese tapa, a potatoes tapa, and just one meat plate that I said is my favorite and she said I could have. We had some funny banter and convo, but I sensed a conceited vibe about her, plus could tell she wasn't really digging me either. She pulled out her card and offered to split the bill, which I agreed to (I think it's a chump move to pay for a woman if you know you guys didn't connect and there's not gonna be a second date. I always pick up the whole tab if it's gone well and I want to see the woman again). We got up and I politely made casual platonic chit-chat about our weekly errands to run while I waited beside her outside until her uber arrived and said goodbye.
Anyways, 4 days later this morning, she sends me a long paragraph text saying that I "lack manners" because I didn't offer her any of the meat plate, and kept the cheese plate on my side after she'd eaten from it and handed over to me mid-way through the meal and "ate the rest of it with no shame". I am almost certain I offered her more of the cheese plate after I'd had some. I think I may have also even offered her some of the meat, and kept that dish close to the middle of the table. She also said it was "very ugly" of me to split the bill.
So, give your honest feedback guys, were my manners inappropriate? AITH? Is she bitter that I didn't validate her by trying to get a second date? Or just mad that she didn't get a free meal out of me?
I'm gonna be a contratrian here.
I think she digs your shit and is shit testing you. Up the ante and play with her. Send her a text telling her she needs to work harder and if she wants to see you again she needs to work on her manners and pay for the next date. Boom. Tell me how it goes.