Actions you can undertake to make your wife respect you

Papaya

Crow
Gold Member
To be honest Im not convinced that is good idea but maybe "Hey (Random Dude) I see your friends with (Mrs U K) too. How do you know her?"

As I say Im hesitant to strongly recommend the above as I dont have all the pertinent details ...but its an idea

I would however keep an eye out for any further email receipts
 
I need all the ideas I can get right now. The only other ones I came up with today was demanding:

1. Full access to FB
2. Full access to WhatsApp
3. Full access to Bank statements

Then I thought to maybe just install Kidsguard Pro on her phone at the earliest opportunity instead and see what happens.
 
Christ, what a car crash. Folks, stop marrying strange gold diggers from Third World countries.

It doesn't matter what you find out. You marriage failed already. You don't even know your wife from a can of paint. Your plan is demanding her passwords and installing Kidsguard on her phone. Once you get to that point you've already lost.
 
Unkown_Killa said:
I need all the ideas I can get right now. The only other ones I came up with today was demanding:

1. Full access to FB
2. Full access to WhatsApp
3. Full access to Bank statements

Then I thought to maybe just install Kidsguard Pro on her phone at the earliest opportunity instead and see what happens.


Monitoring her every move is not going to solve the fact that you rushed into marrying a complete stranger from a poor country that most likely couldn't wait to find a western simp to get out of her hell hole.

My only advice for you will be to accept that you made a wrong decision and cut your losses when you still can.

You will loose a bit for sure but it will still be better than in a few years learning that your wife cheated on you, divorce raped you and not see your children.

Marriage is sacred despite what our current culture wants us to believe. You are the leader of the house and it is a huge responsibility. You have a duty to to love and protect your wife and children and raise your children the best you can.

I just don't see you doing that right now given your posts.

So forget about women for a while and focus on building the proper fondations as a man.

Turn to God to face your fears, build true confidence and inner peace and only then will you be ready to take care of a woman and have a family.

God bless.
 
The thing is she has never been that bothered about living in the UK. If there was a way of me earning a reasonable income in the Philippines I would have been happy with that. I was the one who decided to find work in the UK, as I thought it best, and she just followed me with that.

I was just angry at everything today, which is why I came to the conclusion of tracking her every move. I agree, if it comes to that there is no relationship…
 

Deepdiver

Hummingbird
Gold Member
Tracking her every move is proof you do not trust her.

When you lose trust in a relationship then the relationship is over..

Of course you already knew this and came here for confirmation.
 

Papaya

Crow
Gold Member
You need clear facts before deciding on a course of action (do or dont do).

Demanding access is only going to tip her off that your suspicions have been aroused.
 

Zenta

Woodpecker
Gold Member
Another thing to add to the mix - 99% of the time I've had these feelings or suspicions about women they generally turn out to be true. I don't know how TW works but perhaps if you'd like to investigate further to ease your suspicions you could call a (or the) TW branch it was sent to to confirm that the transaction was picked up. Or perhaps it says it in the email already, but either way that would confirm she did indeed pick up money from a random man. Also depending on how desperate you are to really find out more you can always see if her FC account has been active lately or if you want to go full desperate you can make an account on there to search for the man but if you are willing to go that far I'd advise you to cut your ties for your own sake.
 

BlastbeatCasanova

Kingfisher
Hindsight is 20/20, but you shouldn't have reacted in front of your wife. It wouldn't have been a big deal if you weren't on the phone with here but she was witness to you losing your cool and showing some weakness. Women are attracted to a man who can keep a level head and doesn't let the bullshit of the world rattle him, that's why they are always shit testing, to see if they can rattle you and get a reaction. As men we must always be performing, and it's very hard not to slip up and react to some bullshit. Trust me, I've failed at this a lot.

Don't stress too hard about thinking about how she feels about it, it will just make it worse. You should try tackling the issue of why you were so reactive in the first place. Maybe take up meditation, working out, combat sports, something like that. Stuff like that clears your mind, makes you more confident and unfuckwithable and will give you the ability to face shit the world throws at you with an even keel.

Moving forward, try to keep your frame and keep it confident and relaxed with your wife. If she tries to test you or give you shit just try to shrug it off.
 
Why would a 28 year old man go for a filipina. I understand the older guys don't have many options but you can pick and choose in the west. Why are you so intent in having offspring that look nothing like you. This is suicide for white men.
 

Regent

Pigeon
I'm Nigerian so I think I understand a bit of the psychology of the woman you're dealing with. DON'T marry this woman. It will be the worst mistake of your personal life. It WILL not end well for you. She's monkey branching and the first thing she'll begin doing once you bring her over is to look for (in her opinion)," better prospects". There are too many stories similar to what you're about doing, that I know, that ended in disaster for the man.

Don't do it. Don't be a monkey branch for a gold digger from a shithole country. And yes, she will be the best actress you'll have ever met, till its time to bare her fangs.
 

Papaya

Crow
Gold Member
Regent said:
I'm Nigerian so I think I understand a bit of the psychology of the woman you're dealing with. DON'T marry this woman. It will be the worst mistake of your personal life. It WILL not end well for you. She's monkey branching and the first thing she'll begin doing once you bring her over is to look for (in her opinion)," better prospects". There are too many stories similar to what you're about doing, that I know, that ended in disaster for the man.

Don't do it. Don't be a monkey branch for a gold digger from a shithole country. And yes, she will be the best actress you'll have ever met, till its time to bare her fangs.
It helps if you actually read the posts before doling advice


Unkown_Killa said:
A little about me. I am currently in the UK waiting for my wife’s visa to clear so she can join me here.
Nigerian huh?...Isnt a Regent a type of royalty?

So is relationship advice a side gig?
 

joost

Kingfisher
OP, I think you're too (inexperienced) to be contemplating marriage. Dogge this bullet, improve yourself and look for a better girl.
 
Unkown_Killa said:
A little about me. I am currently in the UK waiting for my wife’s visa to clear so she can join me here. I feel though I have been unfortunate lately. I lost my job, essentially due to this Coronavirus outbreak. The day after, I got harassed repeatedly by a group of youths in a car whilst she was on the phone to me. I was yelling at them and very aggressive to them, but couldn't get close to the car and would have got run over if I had tried.

Although she would never say it, I feel like things like this can cause a woman to lose respect for a man. If a boss only makes one man, out of a 4 man team, redundant that is disrespecting him. If a group of youths see a man walking alone and feel the need to shout and throw things at him (albeit with such poor aim they do not even hit their intended target) that is disrespecting him. If these 2 entities disrespect this man why should his wife respect him?

Can someone offer any insight into this situation?
Tell em more about the youths. Do you think you're wife somehow feels that you should have been able to handle the youths?
 
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