Well this is where the problem started. Night club, more like "good way to start on the worst foot."Met a very charming lady at a night club about a year ago.
This is absolutely unacceptable behavior, and it was unacceptable that you tolerated this. Lots of other people have mirrored this idea, but to state it again, it was completely idiotic to keep going in this situation. That's on you.This man who was decades older, and had just lost his wife, took a liking to my girl and was willing to pay for her living expenses. Naturally, I was taken aback. She claimed there was absolutely no sex involved, even though he wanted it. She seemed quite creeped out by him, but liked him as a friend and the money was to good.
Never ignore this feeling. Clearly everything wasn't perfect if you thought you were digging yourself a huge hole here. Gut feelings exist for a reason, ignore them at your own peril.Everything was perfect, But in the back of my mind, I knew that I was potentially digging myself a huge hole here.
But it's all said and done now. Here's my advice:
YOU CANT SAVE HER. SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE SAVED.
SHE'S DEAD TO YOU. MOVE ON.
She may have had a rough past, but you cannot undo that. She clearly isn't willing to move past it and become the person she needs to be.
You don't hate her, but she just will never be a meaningful part of your life anymore. Sure you have memories, but they are just that, memories. There's no way she can be a part of your life anymore, because she is dead to you. So move on, and become the man you need to be.
I'll also mirror Augustus' advice: You need to pursue God first.