ADVICE NEEDED -- GF was potentially a master manipulator

[Joe316]

AKA, you're willing to overlook red flags to FORNICATE with a woman.

As someone here said already, if you want to "help victims", there are plenty of legit channels to do that. Easiest way to do this is through your church (Preferably Catholic or Orthodox, not prot or some cult as your ex gf was)

I used to think this way too, I "felt bad" for broken women and wanted to "help them". But when I woke up and took the God Pill over a year ago, I realized that all I wanted was easy sex/fornicate with these women because broken women are extremely easy and have a high libido(because of past abuse). Please, be truthful with yourself and realize you don't want to help people...you just want to fulfill your lust. You are a complete slave to your passions and you are rationalizing your slavery by saying how "bad" you feel for some girls. Admit to yourself that you are just looking for easy sex because Sex for you is not easy to come by. When the chance to fornicate does come to you, especially in the form of a steady stream of a "relationship, aka a fornication partner, you become that person's slave, but most of all, you become a slave to sin...

Before I took the God Pill I played the role of the "older guy" in a similar story, but due to my already fortified pro-life stance sex never happened. So I just enjoyed the attention and company of a young woman who obviously wasn't single, but I avoided buying her gifts, as the transaction wasn't based on physical intimacy.

However once she figured me out, she quickly moved on. So I can confirm: It's not the "older guy" who desperately wants to get intimate, it's her to gain control. And I can also confirm: Leaving the bedroom out of the story removed 90 % of the hassle. Back then I was just doing what I thought was to the most sensible thing to do with a woman at peak fertility, reducing the probability of an abortion to zero. The notion of sin wasn't even known to me.

 

[Dixie Expat]

You can't be captain save a ho. There's no reward for that.

The occult stuff is not good. She's damaged and will have to find her way to God. No parents is a bad thing. There's not way to spin it as a positive, and it would be bad in the future if kids were decided on... They'd have no grandparents. Do you want a family that's essentially doomed from the start?

Move on. You dodged a bullet.

People are taken advantage of get a warped perception of reality, and they filters through everything they do. It's not something easy to unlearn, and it's usually something that does not get unlearned.

And if you're left asking "who benefits?" with the Sponsor guy. The answer has gotta be: him. There's always an expectation of something in return.

 

[Coja Petrus Uscan]

As Jesse Lee Peterson would say......BETA!!!!!

After, WHAT DA?!?

Let's not over analyze. He wanted to poke her and his willy and beta programming blinded him to her scheming ways. Same story different day.

And a few others.

 

[Viktor Zeegelaar]

I'm sorry dude not trying to knock you here but I see multiple layers of delusion in this.

Met a very charming lady at a night club about a year ago. We spent the evening dancing and exchanged numbers. We spent the following few months casually dating. She seemed very wholesome. Even dare I say it, traditional...

Night club, casually dating... there is a spiritual fallacy that thinks that this has a good chance to lead to a lasting relationship. Why would she want to stay with you and live a calm and peaceful life is she's clearly after the dopamine, the new new new, the things of this world? It's just an illusion dude, it doesn't work. Especially to incorporate the notion of she seems traditional in this.... it seems to me that you're leaning on two legs here, first of all you want to live the material secularistic life, on the other hand you want to have a commited partner and maybe more spiritual depth in your life (although the latter is an assumption). I would invite you to consider the path that you're on and lean more towards Christ, for He is the only one who will bring you peace (and a girlfriend with secular values will only bring you distress...)

 

[lunchmoney]

I witnessed a recent manipulation of a friend by a woman recently whom he met on social media (Instagram) that should be a cautionary tale, as these red flags are shown very early.

He (37, Divorced w a kid) was going out with her (31, never married, no kids) for the second time, as they met the weekend before at a baseball game. The second was supposed to be dinner at a new restaurant in their city, however he was feeling under the weather earlier that day and called her a couple hours before letting her know he wasn't going to make it. According to him, her immediate response was not about his health or well-being, but rather asking him to not cancel the reservation, as she and her girlfriend want to go instead. He said he almost dropped the phone, and then said no, he was cancelling the reservation. It then turned into an issue/compliance test from her on him as to why she could not enjoy the night out with her "girl" at the place the two of them planned to go to. Needless to say, after that interaction, he advised their won't be any future plans.

 

[griffinmill]

With women, it is always very, very important that you trust your gut. Whenever you don't trust your gut it's because your penis is making the decisions for you and you are trying to rationalise staying with the person despite all of the warning signs. If you had met Rebel Wilson and she told you she was in a sex cult and had a sugar daddy, there would be no mental gymnastics needed to justify staying with her. It would be inconceivable. We have all been there, staying with the wrong person, but you're out of it now, which is only a good thing, because she sounds like a truly awful person.