The general advice above is good.
For some time I was fairly seriously looking for a wife, but also taken with the sess; and the importance of one or the other went back and forth until I was finally gifted the ability to put marriage first and sess on the back-burner. I had a couple of opportunities, in which I could have extracted sess and then taken my leave, but I rejected them. If you are in the same position, of putting sess first or juggling life-long commitment with sess you aren't ready to seek a wife.
Second, I think the best piece of advice I can give is to be very forthright with your intentions and do not let her life desires mould you. Her life desires are irrelevant. I spent the previously mentioned time always holding back talking about my desire, which is for a wife who doesn't work and large family. As outlined in the thread, most women are of the world. They put career and pleasure above family. I allowed these desires of women to shut me down. I'd always mention my desire, but any discussions of the future always revolved around her desires. My desires were generally irrelevant (unless the girl was non-Euro). So put your cards on the table, have no shame and if they walk, then you've filtered out a modern woman and can move on to the next. But at the same time allow them time to come round to you, because the pickings are so slim you're likely going to have some wifing-up.
@Lazuli Waves has a good point on awkward women. These are women who haven't fitted into any of society's pre-packaged doldrums and thus are looking for somewhere to belong. I went on a date with a woman last year. She was Russian but had the behaviour of a French woman, She was ditzy in a more intellectual way and obviously had some issues with interacting in society. One thing she told me is that she went for a job interview and when they asked her a question she blurted out a stupid answer that made her look like an idiot. You could have criticised some thing about this woman, but her femininity was quite tangible, particularly her vulnerability, which is one of the most attractive traits a woman could have. It is very refreshing against the backdrop of battle-hardened or indifferent, floating women. This woman was ripe for male leadership, which would have taken the edge of her awkwardness, which was largely due to her trying to navigate herself around the workplace and dating environment with the mind of a French belle. I took a pass on this as she was older than my target area and I could only feel the desire to extract sex, which I did not want to do to her. But there was far more potential in her than the average woman; and there was something about that vulnerable, flustered French woman energy she had that let you know that there is nothing she would need than her nightly discipline.
And another girl. She was the only Euro girl I have found who didn't want to have a job and wanted to cook and clean. In hindsight I've realised she may have had something like autism, as it seems she has trouble understanding how people may react to her behaviour. She did something stupid and I ended communication. She was petulant at me doing that. I now realised I should have simply disciplined her and see how she took it, which I am sure she would have as she was extremely submissive. I should have at least taken this raw femininity and tried to shape something from it. There's aren't any other oppurtunities you are going to get.
Another observation is that bookish girls seem to have something to work with. They don't fit into the current IG validation culture and may be good ground for planting conservative seeds.
If you are in the modern world you'll be lucky if you get anything other than opportunities to wife up.
Her world view and desires are very important, you're going to be spending a lot of time with her and they will rub off. Now is just not a good time to find a wife, we're in the middle of a transition.
I'm really hoping gen Z girls will start being more aware of things as they age, and that can become the best bet. Millennial girls are ruined, they got the worst of it and are all revolutionaries.