When I read threads like this, I see a lot of back-and-forth from guys. I see a lot of hand-wringing over the evils and injustices of the world, over the foibles, follies, and stupidities of human nature.
This group of people is bad, that group of people is bad, this group is a bunch of fucking assholes, that group is a bunch of fucking assholes.
"I'm mad at Group Y or Group Z because of this or that."
And at the end of the day, when all is said and done, it doesn't amount to dry shit. Trust me on that. Nobody cares. This is something I've learned from hard experience. I wasted a lot of time in my 20s and 30s trying to understand why people think this way or that way.
It was so much wasted effort. Instead of improving myself and finding joy for myself, I allowed myself to be consumed by anger.
No matter what you do, or who you are, some groups (ethnic, religious, etc) are always going to love you or hate you for no reason. You're never going to change it. You're never going to understand it.
And you know what? Fuck 'em. Right up the irons, as Iron Maiden used to say.
Your mission should be focusing on trying to find that country, that culture, that part of the world that SUITS YOU. You need to be looking for your own Poosy Paradise.
Everything else is just wasted effort. One of the hard truths about the world is that it is mostly irrational. Some people just love you or dislike you for those intangible factors. Get over it.
You're never going to change them. Do your own thing and tune out the noise. I wasted a lot of time and effort fighting with the world, but all to no avail.
I left Korea bitter and angry at how the people acted. But you know what? It was my problem. Mine. It was I who set myself up for the disappointment. My immaturity blinded me from taking the right attitude.
Because I wanted them to be like the Japanese. And they are not. Are not.
OK, so what...suck it up. I'll never set foot in the country again if I can avoid it. That much I can say. Someone would have to pay me well to be there.
But I re-directed my energies to finding those countries, those cultures, and those parts of the world that did mesh with my personality and desires.
And so there you have it. There is a limit to what we can control, brothers. There is a limit to everything.
Don't rage against people. Move on. Improve yourself, focus on yourself. Because your time is limited.
A character in Petronius's "Satyricon" speaks this little gem of wisdom, which applies here:
"A bit of sound sense is what makes a man; all the rest is bullshit." [Corcillum est quod homines facit, cetera quisquilia omnia].
Q