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Any former PUAs/Red Pill guys manage to get married and have Christian marriages?
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<blockquote data-quote="PolishCalifornian" data-source="post: 1490308" data-attributes="member: 3430"><p>You're over thinking things far into the future that you have no control over. I'm in my late 30s, I missed a couple of great opportunities for relationships/marriages because I was blinded by the PUA stuff in my early 30s, to be fair I never would have met any of those women otherwise, I had spent the preceding years dutifully going to church and being single for a decade. I've since repented of my sins and gotten back to Christ and I'm much more prepared for marriage than I would have been, despite my regrets. Fortune has found me back in the US taking care of disabled/aging parents for several years but I hope to return to my native EE periodically starting soon to try and find a woman to marry.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I get caught up in the thinking about how old my kids will be if I don't get married until age X or which anniversaries I'll celebrate with my wife and how old I'll be, etc. Forget about it, if you want to make God laugh tell him about your plans. Props to my friends who got married in their 20s and practically have teenage kids now. God-willing I'll be married in my 40s and will do the best I can for my family for the rest of my life, however long God deigns that to be. I see the current "wandering in the desert" as a time of preparation spiritually, physically and financially in order to shoulder the burdens of parenthood in the future. The only time I might consider it "too late" to have kids where your advanced age will be a limiting factor in being part of their life and perhaps even becoming a burden is if you wait until 50+.</p><p></p><p>Replying to the OP, I know a guy who got married recently who had been a dedicated PUA, associated with some of the best-known names. I don't know how strong his spiritual life is, but at the very least it shows how leaving that life behind is possible. We agree that a feeling of disgust with the mechanical PUA lifestyle was a turning point for us. For any guys thinking they can play the field to find that special unicorn to marry, you are wasting your time. The years lost that you could have spent already raising your family are priceless. Don't overrate the importance of what the woman should be like besides basic Christian virtues, it's your job as a man to lead the family in the right direction.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PolishCalifornian, post: 1490308, member: 3430"] You're over thinking things far into the future that you have no control over. I'm in my late 30s, I missed a couple of great opportunities for relationships/marriages because I was blinded by the PUA stuff in my early 30s, to be fair I never would have met any of those women otherwise, I had spent the preceding years dutifully going to church and being single for a decade. I've since repented of my sins and gotten back to Christ and I'm much more prepared for marriage than I would have been, despite my regrets. Fortune has found me back in the US taking care of disabled/aging parents for several years but I hope to return to my native EE periodically starting soon to try and find a woman to marry. Sometimes I get caught up in the thinking about how old my kids will be if I don't get married until age X or which anniversaries I'll celebrate with my wife and how old I'll be, etc. Forget about it, if you want to make God laugh tell him about your plans. Props to my friends who got married in their 20s and practically have teenage kids now. God-willing I'll be married in my 40s and will do the best I can for my family for the rest of my life, however long God deigns that to be. I see the current "wandering in the desert" as a time of preparation spiritually, physically and financially in order to shoulder the burdens of parenthood in the future. The only time I might consider it "too late" to have kids where your advanced age will be a limiting factor in being part of their life and perhaps even becoming a burden is if you wait until 50+. Replying to the OP, I know a guy who got married recently who had been a dedicated PUA, associated with some of the best-known names. I don't know how strong his spiritual life is, but at the very least it shows how leaving that life behind is possible. We agree that a feeling of disgust with the mechanical PUA lifestyle was a turning point for us. For any guys thinking they can play the field to find that special unicorn to marry, you are wasting your time. The years lost that you could have spent already raising your family are priceless. Don't overrate the importance of what the woman should be like besides basic Christian virtues, it's your job as a man to lead the family in the right direction. [/QUOTE]
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