Please don't encourage fornication here; I'm making presumptions, but I don't think either you or the 21-year-old are better off with this arrangement.
Are most married couples unhappy?
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As someone who was unmarried for thirty years longer than I wanted to be, being single was rather miserable. Being married now for five years has made me forget about all of those years alone, aimless, frustrated, unfulilled, all things I would expect when being single when I wasn't made for that. Marriage is called the grace of life in 1 Peter 3:7. there is nothing better. God never said it would be a cakewalk but being a single adult just sounds odd to me, and I was until I was 53.
As a single man I don't see how I could have been more unhappy and as a married man I don't see how I could be happier. I am realistic with expectations and that helps.
Agreed.
Takeachance
Sparrow
congrats. How old is she? Do you have kids now? Thanks
RoadKill
Sparrow
See my post in the new member introduction thread. Lots to read on my history and let-downs. Click the link below.
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Hi all, A Catholic from Central Europe here. I have always considered myself a Christian (been baptised an Orthodox) but in my 20s and early 30s I never really looked into Christianity more deeply, it was just a tradition I inherited and accepted. But it really started to become something very...
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I have learned it is to be better to be single, and I will again when I fulfill my fatherly duty of seeing my son graduate high school in seven years.
I've learned:
-All women are crazy, every single one of them
-Never marry a single mom (married a single mom with 3 kids)
-If you have a child, never allow anyone to marry you or get into a relationship until the child is an adult and moved out (I was a single dad after marriage 1 and should have stayed single. It ruined my second marriage)
-Never date until you can be happy being alone. If you do, your happiness relies on the woman and that's too much burden for anyone.
-Choose between being happy and lonely or married/dating with drama and no peace
-The amount of drama in a man's life is directly proportional to the amount of women in his life (of all ages; wife, mom, daughter, step-daughter, MIL, mistress, girlfriend). The amount of drama is exponential if the women live under the same roof as you and multiplied by a factor of four if one or more of the women is between the ages of 11 and 20.
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MovingForward2050
Pelican
A classic case of female hypergamy for your "poor" friend. Her making much more money doomed him. Many wives leave their husbands after their student loans are paid off, or they have graduated from college, with all the costs covered by of course, the husbands.
What was their age difference? And how pretty was she?
That last one doesn't bode well for me, but I got the top ones sorted, at least.
I do wish you luck. Glad you're sticking with it for your son so he has stability.
It really is a horrible deal for guys...
Seems to me there's like a 25% chance it'll end well.
But, I know a few guys who are into their 50's, no wife, no family, no interest to girls...
I think the only way to win is to die young?))
See my post in the new member introduction thread. Lots to read on my history and let-downs. Click the link below.
New member introduction thread
Hi all, A Catholic from Central Europe here. I have always considered myself a Christian (been baptised an Orthodox) but in my 20s and early 30s I never really looked into Christianity more deeply, it was just a tradition I inherited and accepted. But it really started to become something very...
I have learned it is to be better to be single, and I will again when I fulfill my fatherly duty of seeing my son graduate high school in seven years.
I've learned:
-All women are crazy, every single one of them
-Never marry a single mom (married a single mom with 3 kids)
-If you have a child, never allow anyone to marry you or get into a relationship until the child is an adult and moved out (I was a single dad after marriage 1 and should have stayed single. It ruined my second marriage)
-Never date until you can be happy being alone. If you do, your happiness relies on the woman and that's too much burden for anyone.
-Choose between being happy and lonely or married/dating with drama and no peace
-The amount of drama in a man's life is directly proportional to the amount of women in his life (of all ages; wife, mom, daughter, step-daughter, MIL, mistress, girlfriend). The amount of drama is exponential if the women live under the same roof as you and multiplied by a factor of four if one or more of the women is between the ages of 11 and 20.
Yes. Marriage is hell. Especially since Men these days are programmed to behave as women and Vice Versa. If you try to Alpha up your wife she will try to Alpha up you. Best moment in my past 5 years....telling my wife I want a divorce. Forever MGTOW now.
RoadKill
Sparrow
The last one is what I call RoadKill's first law of female drama. When looking back on my life, all the drama I've experienced in my life has one thing in common: females. After two marriages and fathering five children in my life (three girls and two boys), I never had drama with men of any age. Women thrive on drama; it makes them feel alive. I have yet to find a man to prove me wrong. I can honestly say the worst years of my life were living with my wife and my daughter in the same house during her teen years. I had a teen with raging hormones and a wife with postpartum depression. What could go wrong?!
I've had the same experience with the drama. This is especially true with employment. When I worked in an all male environment there was no conflict, backbiting, or of course sexual harassment. When I moved to a 50/50 male to female environment at work it was all drama, everyday. Our forefathers knew what they were doing by keeping women at home.
The problem isnt the female it's the drama itself. Depending on the drama you should ask yourself if you're willing to put up with it/work through it. That's the purpose of relationships. Working through drama and issues. I disagree cause I've had drama with men before (which just makes you a lucky man- in that department) and women likewise, but I've had the best moments of my life with my LTR. I wouldnt trade that for anything, let alone to be single.
She's 31, I am 58, no children but I would like to give her one.
Takeachance
Sparrow
Do it! And congrats. It means she was 26 and you were 53 when you got married right? That’s awesome. Any tips? If I am not being too nosy are you pretty wealthy? May I ask what country she is from? Thanks
There is this little problem of infertility at the moment on my part that is being worked on. Correct on our ages.
She's from the Philippines. If any men desire a woman who wants children this is your place.
I have thought a lot about all of this, even my pastor says the Bible says to be fruitful and multiply so we should try to have at least one child, to which I agree.
I am not worried that I might not be around to see them graduate from college because to me, the majority of the work I'd need to do, along with their mother to raise them to face life as an adult, would need to be installed long before college age.
There is a time crunch but we've been trying for awhile as it is.
Technically we're all wealthy here in America when compared to much of the rest of the world.
We plan on retiring in the Philippines and raise them there which mitigates a lot of the high cost of living.
Er Miqué
Sparrow
Whether you marry or decide to stay alone you're going to regret it anyways. Nothing's perfect in this life. Better to appreciate what you have instead of wasting time wishing for that which can't be done.
You should decide what to do according to what you can stand the most: women and their problems or loneliness. You should also count lust in there if you're a Christian; one of the main reasons for marriage is so lust doesn't overcome you and becomes fornication and all sorts of degeneracy.
You should decide what to do according to what you can stand the most: women and their problems or loneliness. You should also count lust in there if you're a Christian; one of the main reasons for marriage is so lust doesn't overcome you and becomes fornication and all sorts of degeneracy.
I've been married almost 7 years now. Here's my advice:
- Don't get married unless you believe in God, and you belong to a conservative Church.
- Don't get married unless she believes in God, and she belongs or is willing to belong to a conservative Church.
- Don't marry a self-described feminist, liberal, progressive, democrat, or any other similar adjective.
- Don't marry a woman with more than 1 prior sexual encounter (the ideal is 0).
- Don't get married unless you are both in the same socioeconomic class.
- Don't marry an older woman.
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