Are most married couples unhappy?

GWYW2015

Woodpecker
Orthodox
Utter nonsense. Single and lonely only falls to women who aren't in a bonded relationship with men by 45 or no kids. They realize now that their next 40 years may be excruciatingly hollow. They have to work for the rest of their lives and almost no attention from men.

Men on the other hand at 40 can still provide their gender roles, resources and security. Plus if you aren't tied down by the family court or marriage, you can explore the world and still attract far more attention. Just stay in shape and have your money right.

And yes most married couples are unhappy. They are by far more depressed than a single man. Happy wife, happy life is such a big joke.
As someone who was unmarried for thirty years longer than I wanted to be, being single was rather miserable. Being married now for five years has made me forget about all of those years alone, aimless, frustrated, unfulilled, all things I would expect when being single when I wasn't made for that. Marriage is called the grace of life in 1 Peter 3:7. there is nothing better. God never said it would be a cakewalk but being a single adult just sounds odd to me, and I was until I was 53.

As a single man I don't see how I could have been more unhappy and as a married man I don't see how I could be happier. I am realistic with expectations and that helps.
 
As someone who was unmarried for thirty years longer than I wanted to be, being single was rather miserable. Being married now for five years has made me forget about all of those years alone, aimless, frustrated, unfulilled, all things I would expect when being single when I wasn't made for that. Marriage is called the grace of life in 1 Peter 3:7. there is nothing better. God never said it would be a cakewalk but being a single adult just sounds odd to me, and I was until I was 53.

As a single man I don't see how I could have been more unhappy and as a married man I don't see how I could be happier. I am realistic with expectations and that helps.

congrats. How old is she? Do you have kids now? Thanks
 

RoadKill

Sparrow
Maybe share with us what you've learned? How would you pick better, in retrospect?
See my post in the new member introduction thread. Lots to read on my history and let-downs. Click the link below.


I have learned it is to be better to be single, and I will again when I fulfill my fatherly duty of seeing my son graduate high school in seven years.

I've learned:
-All women are crazy, every single one of them
-Never marry a single mom (married a single mom with 3 kids)
-If you have a child, never allow anyone to marry you or get into a relationship until the child is an adult and moved out (I was a single dad after marriage 1 and should have stayed single. It ruined my second marriage)
-Never date until you can be happy being alone. If you do, your happiness relies on the woman and that's too much burden for anyone.
-Choose between being happy and lonely or married/dating with drama and no peace
-The amount of drama in a man's life is directly proportional to the amount of women in his life (of all ages; wife, mom, daughter, step-daughter, MIL, mistress, girlfriend). The amount of drama is exponential if the women live under the same roof as you and multiplied by a factor of four if one or more of the women is between the ages of 11 and 20.
 
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I just want to update the OP almost a year later to say one of the two friends that I thought was in a more stable marriage with a SEA woman is now getting divorced by her now that she has her green card solidly locked in. Looks like he was played from the start. From what I heard from another friend she wanted a better man who could give her more. Give her more? My friend already had given her his hand in marriage, bought a house of her choosing to be able to have enough rooms to bring her family over(which I found out that his wife wanted to move to somewhere like Florida shortly after buying the house because she didn't like it), and generally treated her well going along with everything she made him do. He never had a good job and was planning to goto school after she finished her school but I guess that was another ruse to lead him on by her part. Becareful who you trust out there. He is keeping the house but I do not know the details, but very surprised at that, she made much more money than him by doing nails at her family business so perhaps she felt sorry for him.

The other one who shares the same nationality of his wife remains in a happy marriage and it puts a smile on my face every time I see them.

A classic case of female hypergamy for your "poor" friend. Her making much more money doomed him. Many wives leave their husbands after their student loans are paid off, or they have graduated from college, with all the costs covered by of course, the husbands.

What was their age difference? And how pretty was she?
 

kel

Ostrich
-Never marry a single mom (married a single mom with 3 kids)
-If you have a child, never allow anyone to marry you or get into a relationship until the child is an adult and moved out (I was a single dad after marriage 1 and should have stayed single. It ruined my second marriage)
-Never date until you can be happy being alone. If you do, your happiness relies on the woman and that's too much burden for anyone.

-The amount of drama in a man's life is directly proportional to the amount of women in his life (of all ages; wife, mom, daughter, step-daughter, MIL, mistress, girlfriend). The amount of drama is exponential if the women live under the same roof as you and multiplied by a factor of four if one or more of the women is between the ages of 11 and 20.

That last one doesn't bode well for me, but I got the top ones sorted, at least.

I do wish you luck. Glad you're sticking with it for your son so he has stability.
 

barrythecyborg

Kingfisher
I knew when they passed those marriage rape laws it was a divorce attorney's dream come true. We as men are caught between a rock and a hard place. If we get married we could lose everything, if we stay single we will never have anything.

It really is a horrible deal for guys...

Seems to me there's like a 25% chance it'll end well.

But, I know a few guys who are into their 50's, no wife, no family, no interest to girls...

I think the only way to win is to die young?))
 

andy dufresne

Kingfisher
See my post in the new member introduction thread. Lots to read on my history and let-downs. Click the link below.


I have learned it is to be better to be single, and I will again when I fulfill my fatherly duty of seeing my son graduate high school in seven years.

I've learned:
-All women are crazy, every single one of them
-Never marry a single mom (married a single mom with 3 kids)
-If you have a child, never allow anyone to marry you or get into a relationship until the child is an adult and moved out (I was a single dad after marriage 1 and should have stayed single. It ruined my second marriage)
-Never date until you can be happy being alone. If you do, your happiness relies on the woman and that's too much burden for anyone.
-Choose between being happy and lonely or married/dating with drama and no peace
-The amount of drama in a man's life is directly proportional to the amount of women in his life (of all ages; wife, mom, daughter, step-daughter, MIL, mistress, girlfriend). The amount of drama is exponential if the women live under the same roof as you and multiplied by a factor of four if one or more of the women is between the ages of 11 and 20.

Yes. Marriage is hell. Especially since Men these days are programmed to behave as women and Vice Versa. If you try to Alpha up your wife she will try to Alpha up you. Best moment in my past 5 years....telling my wife I want a divorce. Forever MGTOW now.
 

RoadKill

Sparrow
That last one doesn't bode well for me, but I got the top ones sorted, at least.

I do wish you luck. Glad you're sticking with it for your son so he has stability.
The last one is what I call RoadKill's first law of female drama. When looking back on my life, all the drama I've experienced in my life has one thing in common: females. After two marriages and fathering five children in my life (three girls and two boys), I never had drama with men of any age. Women thrive on drama; it makes them feel alive. I have yet to find a man to prove me wrong. I can honestly say the worst years of my life were living with my wife and my daughter in the same house during her teen years. I had a teen with raging hormones and a wife with postpartum depression. What could go wrong?!
 

Lionheart

Sparrow
The last one is what I call RoadKill's first law of female drama. When looking back on my life, all the drama I've experienced in my life has one thing in common: females. After two marriages and fathering five children in my life (three girls and two boys), I never had drama with men of any age. Women thrive on drama; it makes them feel alive. I have yet to find a man to prove me wrong. I can honestly say the worst years of my life were living with my wife and my daughter in the same house during her teen years. I had a teen with raging hormones and a wife with postpartum depression. What could go wrong?!
I've had the same experience with the drama. This is especially true with employment. When I worked in an all male environment there was no conflict, backbiting, or of course sexual harassment. When I moved to a 50/50 male to female environment at work it was all drama, everyday. Our forefathers knew what they were doing by keeping women at home.
 

JamalH

Pigeon
When looking back on my life, all the drama I've experienced in my life has one thing in common: females. I never had drama with men of any age. Women thrive on drama; it makes them feel alive. I have yet to find a man to prove me wrong.
The problem isnt the female it's the drama itself. Depending on the drama you should ask yourself if you're willing to put up with it/work through it. That's the purpose of relationships. Working through drama and issues. I disagree cause I've had drama with men before (which just makes you a lucky man- in that department) and women likewise, but I've had the best moments of my life with my LTR. I wouldnt trade that for anything, let alone to be single.
 

GWYW2015

Woodpecker
Orthodox
Do it! And congrats. It means she was 26 and you were 53 when you got married right? That’s awesome. Any tips? If I am not being too nosy are you pretty wealthy? May I ask what country she is from? Thanks
There is this little problem of infertility at the moment on my part that is being worked on. Correct on our ages.
She's from the Philippines. If any men desire a woman who wants children this is your place.
I have thought a lot about all of this, even my pastor says the Bible says to be fruitful and multiply so we should try to have at least one child, to which I agree.
I am not worried that I might not be around to see them graduate from college because to me, the majority of the work I'd need to do, along with their mother to raise them to face life as an adult, would need to be installed long before college age.
There is a time crunch but we've been trying for awhile as it is.
Technically we're all wealthy here in America when compared to much of the rest of the world.
We plan on retiring in the Philippines and raise them there which mitigates a lot of the high cost of living.
 

Er Miqué

Sparrow
Whether you marry or decide to stay alone you're going to regret it anyways. Nothing's perfect in this life. Better to appreciate what you have instead of wasting time wishing for that which can't be done.

You should decide what to do according to what you can stand the most: women and their problems or loneliness. You should also count lust in there if you're a Christian; one of the main reasons for marriage is so lust doesn't overcome you and becomes fornication and all sorts of degeneracy.
 

FactusIRX

Kingfisher
I've been married almost 7 years now. Here's my advice:
  • Don't get married unless you believe in God, and you belong to a conservative Church.
  • Don't get married unless she believes in God, and she belongs or is willing to belong to a conservative Church.
  • Don't marry a self-described feminist, liberal, progressive, democrat, or any other similar adjective.
  • Don't marry a woman with more than 1 prior sexual encounter (the ideal is 0).
  • Don't get married unless you are both in the same socioeconomic class.
  • Don't marry an older woman.
Follow those rules, and you'll have a fighting chance. Anything else, and you're in for a bad time, partner.
 
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