Said hot woman could be trained to take on household duties,trips and activities.I had same issues as you OP, not married yet but in an LTR. Planning to soon thought.
I think what I miss is the dopamine rush of chasing. Going out with different girls during the week, banging, swiping... It's really all female like attention seeking behaviour. It wasn't getting me closer to my goals or to God. The truth is I felt pride and validation that I could do what other guys couldn't. I felt superior and looked down at the incels and even the married 'dad bod' guys. It's really no different than a drug addict needing his fix.
My advice is to avoid good looking girls. Regardless of how compatible or how nice and submissive she seems to be (as in your case). There are multiple issues that we can put aside assuming she's loyal, has a low notch count and actually 'loves' you. The problem is that even then a hot girl rarely pulls her weight In a relationship. She's been programmed by society to not work as hard and still get what she wants. She will be expecting shared household duties, trips, activities, ect. You will be the one that handles finances and you will be the provider.
Here is the secret: find a girl that meets the usual qualifications but who is actually not that attractive. Maybe plain or even lower face wise. Definetly lower than you looks wise. Of course she still needs to take care of herself physically. I am just talking about universal facial attractiveness. Take the hit there. She will work twice as hard while expecting half as much. She will cook and clean. She will free up more of your time. Use that time for your own development: business, networking and praying. Then get kids.
In a traditional society she would be raised to be a hard worker and often they would undertake manual labor. Just like Rebekah who drew water for all the Camels of Abraham's servant(Genesis 24). Showing her Personality of being willing to go to great lengths to serve her future Husband.
She was what we would call a "Hot" Woman. Yet being raised to work hard she showed herself a woman of good character.
But in our current society it seems women are indulged too much.