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<blockquote data-quote="griffinmill" data-source="post: 1299231" data-attributes="member: 8444">I'm 41 now.I broke off my only long-term relationship about 5 years ago and don't regret it. I've been single since then playing the field. I'm happy with this because it feels &quot;right&quot; for me. I have never had any kind of urge to have a family. I wish I did though because I realise in the long-term it would be nice to have someone around.In the short term things are fun. Sure, it can get a little lonely sometimes but I find women incredibly hard work. They like drama, they're inconsistent, they have a tendency to suck the joy right out of you, and they can also be domineering. This domineering nature to women is what frightens me the most. I'm an only child and have a streak of independence. You sound like you have one of those rare breeds; kind and submissive. You should not undervalue that.What you must realise is that good, solid relationships are in the minority. You could meet the &quot;perfect&quot; girl tomorrow and be very happy. But what if she cheats? Dies of cancer? Decides to divorce you and take half of your stuff? There are &quot;happy endings&quot; only when you choose to stop the story at a certain point. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal.I think the only way to combat that total boredom in a relationship is to marry someone who's your best friend.&nbsp; But if you've experienced any kind of sexual variety in your life, you'll not so easily be able to resign yourself to mating in captivity. There is no right or wrong answer here.a) Stay with your current partner and be content with total boredom and wish to be with other women. Continue this until you die.b) Break up with your current partner and be happy as a single guy, with your brain playing tricks on you forever about the &quot;perfect&quot; girl you let go.It seems to me your current relationship is on shaky ground anyway. Her finding your other women on your phone is a rookie mistake and leads me to believe you wanted to get caught. It doesn't seem a particularly healthy bonding.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="griffinmill, post: 1299231, member: 8444"] I'm 41 now. I broke off my only long-term relationship about 5 years ago and don't regret it. I've been single since then playing the field. I'm happy with this because it feels "right" for me. I have never had any kind of urge to have a family. I wish I did though because I realise in the long-term it would be nice to have someone around. In the short term things are fun. Sure, it can get a little lonely sometimes but I find women incredibly hard work. They like drama, they're inconsistent, they have a tendency to suck the joy right out of you, and they can also be domineering. This domineering nature to women is what frightens me the most. I'm an only child and have a streak of independence. You sound like you have one of those rare breeds; kind and submissive. You should not undervalue that. What you must realise is that good, solid relationships are in the minority. You could meet the "perfect" girl tomorrow and be very happy. But what if she cheats? Dies of cancer? Decides to divorce you and take half of your stuff? There are "happy endings" only when you choose to stop the story at a certain point. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal. I think the only way to combat that total boredom in a relationship is to marry someone who's your best friend. But if you've experienced any kind of sexual variety in your life, you'll not so easily be able to resign yourself to mating in captivity. There is no right or wrong answer here. a) Stay with your current partner and be content with total boredom and wish to be with other women. Continue this until you die. b) Break up with your current partner and be happy as a single guy, with your brain playing tricks on you forever about the "perfect" girl you let go. It seems to me your current relationship is on shaky ground anyway. Her finding your other women on your phone is a rookie mistake and leads me to believe you wanted to get caught. It doesn't seem a particularly healthy bonding. [/QUOTE]

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