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<blockquote data-quote="get2choppaaa" data-source="post: 1350765" data-attributes="member: 17150">OP, sounds like you're doing behaviours out of insecurity and you view women as a way to provide validation for yourself. Doesn't sound like you're mature enough for a seriously relationship. What I am hearing is mostly about her looks ect, and very little about her personality... And your own insecurities and lack of emotional validation from self-love/a relationship with God manifests in the desire to pursue carnal validation.I have been there, as I think many of us have. I am 30, have been married, divorced (not of my choosing), played the field and am currently in an LTR with someone who is very submissive/feminine in attitude/behaviour but also has similar interests (guns, dancing, lifting weights, Pro Trump) and has started going to the Orthodox Church with me. We both also have children from a previous marriages (something I thought I would never be willing to do but has turned out to be very good for both her kids and mine). The goal is always mairrage with children in mind.It took me realizing after my divorce, that I never loved my ex wife for who she was, only what I thought she would be and for her physical beauty. It took me a couple years to get right with my faith, and stop man whoring around so much and look for the right qualities in a woman. I also came to the realization that I don't need female companionship to feel self worth....they are only there to make my life better and to follow as we work together on the Christian walk.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="get2choppaaa, post: 1350765, member: 17150"] OP, sounds like you're doing behaviours out of insecurity and you view women as a way to provide validation for yourself. Doesn't sound like you're mature enough for a seriously relationship. What I am hearing is mostly about her looks ect, and very little about her personality... And your own insecurities and lack of emotional validation from self-love/a relationship with God manifests in the desire to pursue carnal validation. I have been there, as I think many of us have. I am 30, have been married, divorced (not of my choosing), played the field and am currently in an LTR with someone who is very submissive/feminine in attitude/behaviour but also has similar interests (guns, dancing, lifting weights, Pro Trump) and has started going to the Orthodox Church with me. We both also have children from a previous marriages (something I thought I would never be willing to do but has turned out to be very good for both her kids and mine). The goal is always mairrage with children in mind. It took me realizing after my divorce, that I never loved my ex wife for who she was, only what I thought she would be and for her physical beauty. It took me a couple years to get right with my faith, and stop man whoring around so much and look for the right qualities in a woman. I also came to the realization that I don't need female companionship to feel self worth....they are only there to make my life better and to follow as we work together on the Christian walk. [/QUOTE]

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