The difference in attitude seems like a deal breaker and I'm happy for you that you can civilly agree on that between the two of you.
I had some thoughts about your requirement on wanting to have 4-6 kids though. If you're working to support the family, do you think you can give enough of yourself in the remaining hours of your day when you aren't working to nurture and give love to 5-7 other humans (4-6 kids plus your wife)? I'm assuming here that you agree that it's important that a strong present father figure is an important in the development of raising children alongside having a present mother figure. Plus, factor in some leftover time to nurture YOURSELF (though fitness, hobbies, or whatever) so that you're in a good mental state to be a positive presence to your family too.
Just looking at the math it seems like a person would be spread pretty thin.
I had some thoughts about your requirement on wanting to have 4-6 kids though. If you're working to support the family, do you think you can give enough of yourself in the remaining hours of your day when you aren't working to nurture and give love to 5-7 other humans (4-6 kids plus your wife)? I'm assuming here that you agree that it's important that a strong present father figure is an important in the development of raising children alongside having a present mother figure. Plus, factor in some leftover time to nurture YOURSELF (though fitness, hobbies, or whatever) so that you're in a good mental state to be a positive presence to your family too.
Just looking at the math it seems like a person would be spread pretty thin.