"Cheating On My Husband Made Me A Better Mother"

Roosh

Cardinal
Woman claims that cheating made her temporarily happy, and during that happiness, her children were happier as a result. In order to alleviate her guilt, she plied her children with donuts, among other rationalizations.
While waiting in line at the market to buy groceries with my two children, my younger son reached to hug me. Pulling my cheek toward his lips, he planted a kiss there.

“What a sweet boy you have,” the checker said as she began to scan our items.

Not to be outdone, my older son helped bag the groceries. The checker gushed more.

I was astonished myself. This was not normal.

Usually, my two sons, aged eight and nine respectively, were getting into mischief. They broke down into tantrums as a daily occurrence. They acted out more than they behaved.

Had my sons changed? Or was I the one who was different?

I had changed. After years of suffering in a miserable marriage, I’d decided to have an affair.


I was no longer the same person. I felt happier than I had in a long time — and that happiness was rubbing off on my sons.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not promoting cheating on one’s spouse as the solution to a couple’s marriage problems. Even back then, I knew cheating was wrong. But being angry and depressed while enduring an unhappy marriage was also bad.

Cheating was but a Band-Aid over the festering wound that was my marriage. Though admittedly an analgesic, my affair did provide a reprieve.

It made me happier, and as a result, my kids became happier, too.


And in that way, cheating on my husband made me a better mother.

My sons benefited from my improved mood.

Think of it this way. I’d been cranky for months on end. Often in a dark mood, I was easily annoyed at the slightest infraction on the part of my sons.

Suddenly, my mood had brightened. I could sweat the small stuff and go with the flow. Of course, my sons reacted to that.

I can only imagine that was the reason why my boys helped push our cart to the car that day at the market. They unloaded the bags into the trunk for me, then got into the car without me having to demand it.

Within minutes of starting our drive home, though, my eldest son’s device ran out of battery. He scooched as far as his seatbelt would allow him across the backseat to where his younger brother was seated.

He wanted to watch his brother’s device  —  but my youngest was none too happy about sharing his YouTube video.

An argument broke out. Whereas a few weeks earlier, I would have screamed expletives into the backseat, I calmly told my sons: “Please stop arguing and just share with each other.”

Something about my peaceful tone — the shock of me not becoming incensed. This stunned both my children into halting their squabble.

My younger son let his older brother share his device. My eldest quietly watched.

All this because of the way I had reacted.

What a difference from how I would have treated this scenario before my affair. Now I felt too content to be angry.

Instead, I beamed good vibes onto everyone. Obviously, my kids were the main benefactors of my cheerier spirit.

At first, cheating did make me feel guilty.

I’d never say that having an affair was a smooth ride. At first, I felt guilty about it. I was terrified my sons would notice a change in me — some evidence of my betrayal.

The first time I slept with my new lover was on an early weekday afternoon. Directly afterward, I had to go pick up my kids from school.

Would my sons smell the deceit on me? Could they see the deception in my face?

My sons noticed nothing. They scurried out of their classrooms, the same as always. Just like any other day, they galloped ahead of me to the car, tumbling inside, and immediately begging me to stop at the donut shop.

On our route home from school each day, we drove right past a donut store. Usually, I had the resolve not to stop. Today I didn’t.

I felt terrible about what I’d just done with another man behind my husband’s back. I felt the powerful need to atone for my sins.

I’d apologize to my sons with donuts, absolved by sugar and fat.

I was much less nervous my husband would discover my cheating. He hadn’t even mentioned the noise since we arrived home.

The boys scarfed their treats. As I wiped the crumbs from their faces, I wished my life was as easy to clean.

I felt soiled  —  and now even worse after filling my sons’ bellies with sugar and fried dough.

I tried to mitigate those feelings by brushing my sons’ teeth as soon as we reached home. If I couldn’t clean my conscience, then I could clean my children’s mouths.

I went after my eldest first. He wouldn’t hold still long enough for me to get the toothbrush into his mouth. Bouncing from the sugar, he shot away from me.

I chased him around the room. By the time I finally caught up to him and managed to brush his teeth, I was too tired to try again with his younger brother.

Where was their father while all this was happening? Sleeping? Reading about one of his conspiracy theories? Watching porn?

He was ignoring me just like he always did. No wonder I was cheating on him.

Still, guilt nagged me. Over the coming days, those feelings eventually disappeared.

I stopped condemning myself so harshly. My shame was replaced with a sense of tranquility and ease.

And my sons ultimately benefited from that.

Before I had an affair, my sons were failing in school.

Before I met my lover, I often received calls and emails from my eldest son’s teacher about how he was disrupting the classroom. My youngest was still unable to read. I believe our miserable home life was affecting both my sons’ ability to sit still and learn.

Once I started having an affair, the disorder in our household quieted. I was no longer so depressed, picking fights with my husband whenever I could. Now I had someone else to occupy my thoughts and fulfill my emotional needs.

For years I’d been unable to give my kids the attention they needed because I was so unhappy. Now I could.


It was only then that my eldest finally stopped acting out and my youngest learned to read.

I’m not promoting cheating, but it did help my family.

I know the idea of cheating on one’s spouse is distasteful to many. I agree — I should have just left my marriage.

But that’s not the decision I made. I had an affair instead.

My real healing didn’t start until I finally left my husband though. He also had problems that he could only recover from after we separated.

But I don’t believe I would have ever mustered the courage to leave my marriage if I hadn’t had the affair.

I had to separate my identity from my husband’s. Cheating drew a line in the sand that defined where my love for my husband ended. It marked the conclusion of our relationship. After that, there was no going back.

Even though my affair was short-lived, during the time it lasted, in its strange way it helped my entire family.

And one of the most important ways it helped us was by making me a better mother.
An old manosphere term that applies here is "rationalization hamster". Once she decided to cheat, she saw everything happening around her as positive to alleviate her obviously painful conscience. Once the extra-marital affairs lose their charm and the divorce begins, I wonder how "happy" her sons will be. Very sad.
 
Truly unreal what levels of insanity and oxymoronic statements the Marxists try to use to justify their own sense of "Morality", which is obviously no real Morality whatsoever. Always trying to transmute something into some disgusting positivity nonsense.

Everything about Leftists just reminds me of a big pile of vomit, in everything they do, and everything they speak.

They are trying to normalize polyamory in the minds of everyone, especially in the youth, and to make people think this is natural, even when it isn't.
 

DanielH

Pelican
They are trying to normalize polyamory in the minds of everyone, especially in the youth, and to make people think this is natural, even when it isn't.
Sexual degeneracy spreads primarily through sexual degeneracy. It is basically a communicable disease spread through internet pornography, premarital sex, and child abuse - which is the main way homosexuals are produced. Sexual degeneracy is always the precursor of societies which collapse due to their sinfulness. Saints such as St. Basil the Great and St. John Chrysostom viewed homosexuality as at least as bad as murder, as it kills the soul instead of the body, but often that as well. And not only that, but it also can spread further from there to other people just like a real disease.

Any youth who may be reading this need to understand the importance of sexual morality.
 
Sexual degeneracy spreads primarily through sexual degeneracy. It is basically a communicable disease spread through internet pornography, premarital sex, and child abuse - which is the main way homosexuals are produced. Sexual degeneracy is always the precursor of societies which collapse due to their sinfulness. Saints such as St. Basil the Great and St. John Chrysostom viewed homosexuality as at least as bad as murder, as it kills the soul instead of the body, but often that as well. And not only that, but it also can spread further from there to other people just like a real disease.

Any youth who may be reading this need to understand the importance of sexual morality.
That's the part that irritates me the most. You know the whole "Live and Let Live" attitude is what has given the Homosexuals so much of an edge and power status in society from the breakdown of Heterosexual relations, and for so many years, people turned a blind eye to this.

Another thing too is that many people are afraid to talk to and admit to others some of the most devious lies, backstabbing, rumor spreading and other things that the LGBTQXYZ community does to heterosexual people, stealing partners from others, pretending to be "straight" for someone to take them away from their partner, etc.

Most people sadly do not realize how these degenerates have stolen our freedom and namely the freedoms away from Everyday Families, Middle-Class people and Heterosexuals. Meanwhile, the rainbow crew have secured for themselves all the best properties everywhere, especially in coastal areas all for themselves, and a lifestyle where they party all day everyday and with all kinds of drugs.

They've conditioned people to just think that "Maybe Men and Women aren't always meant for each other" or that it's White Man's fault or someone else's fault for the decline of the family unit, when in reality these gremlins are benefiting off the misery and destruction they create in their path, left and right.
 

budoslavic

Owl
Gold Member
At the end of the article, there is a brief background about her writing career.
Elle Silver is a former writer for Playboy. She also spent several years right out of college writing for Larry Flynt, the late creator of Hustler. She currently writes about women’s issues for her blog Soccer Domme and relationships for her blog In Vain Asylum. Follow her on Twitter.

She's 50 years old. Picture is from her Twitter profile.

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Didn't she say cheating help her become a better mother?

 

Pendleton

Pelican
At the end of the article, there is a brief background about her writing career.


She's 50 years old. Picture is from her Twitter profile.

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Didn't she say cheating help her become a better mother?

And she is divorced. So I guess "being a better mother" includes destroying her relationship with her husband and no longer having the father in the home with his children.

But at least her work and family responsibilities did not interfere with her extensive Tinder activities. https://medium.com/eros-is-everywhere/13-men-i-met-on-tinder-after-my-divorce-f3e9205ae4db
 

Pendleton

Pelican
I wonder what conspiracy theories the husband was into :alien:
"What? The moon was hollow, a space body created by aliens? (He’d revealed this to me a couple of weeks earlier.) The most recent shooting massacre was fake, a secretly produced government “false flag” to persuade Americans to give up our Second Amendment rights? (I’d been hearing this for two years by then, every time there was a mass shooting.)

Recently my husband mentioned the existence of a secret elite cabal, high in government, that created the feminist movement so they could siphon off the taxes paid by working women.

These conspiracies made me sick to the stomach — and they were now more important to my husband than even our kids."

 
"What? The moon was hollow, a space body created by aliens? (He’d revealed this to me a couple of weeks earlier.) The most recent shooting massacre was fake, a secretly produced government “false flag” to persuade Americans to give up our Second Amendment rights? (I’d been hearing this for two years by then, every time there was a mass shooting.)

Recently my husband mentioned the existence of a secret elite cabal, high in government, that created the feminist movement so they could siphon off the taxes paid by working women.

These conspiracies made me sick to the stomach — and they were now more important to my husband than even our kids."

And you don't even own your own money, what we own are Legal Tender Notes which exist as Debt obligations in the banking system itself rather than Credit, and it's completely owned by the UN. Every Dollar we hold is someone else's obligation rather than a storehouse of value for work performed.
 

Troller

Pelican
Subliminal command:

"Woman cheat on your husband if he reads conspiracy theories".

"Where was their father while all this was happening? Sleeping? Reading about one of his conspiracy theories? Watching porn?"

White pill:


As for the slut. She´s just that. A slut. Stay away from sluts. Through history sluts always existed.

Avoid Immoral Women​

5 My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
listen carefully to my wise counsel.
2 Then you will show discernment,
and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.[a]
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.
7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
and now I must face public disgrace.”
15 Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.[b]
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?[c]
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?
21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

When God realizes it´s what you want and you´ve really taken the right steps for it. He will send you the right woman. It´s what He does.
 

Troller

Pelican
Probably projection on her part. She probably watches interracial or stepson-bangs-stepmom-type shit.
She´s a whore. It doesn´t matter what she thinks. It´s meaningless. The only thing to worry is if she has power to influence normal woman with her bullshit. What she thinks is irrelevant. It´s like a dog speaking. Stay away from her. From her writing. She shouldnt be allowed to influence normal girls.
 
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HighTower

Robin
When you break a whore down to it's most basic form, man or woman, they all want the same thing; one person who loves and cares for them. Problem lays when they already have a spouse who loves and cares about them and cheat none-the-less. Unless a guy wants to unravel this psychology mess to get to the bottom of why this woman is broken to begin with he is better off moving on.

Plot twist. The husband has been dating his wife's best friend, sister, and mother for the past several years and as a result his golf game has improved significantly! We are talking secular marriage aren't we?
 

MKE-Ed

Robin
Truly unreal what levels of insanity and oxymoronic statements the Marxists try to use to justify their own sense of "Morality", which is obviously no real Morality whatsoever. Always trying to transmute something into some disgusting positivity nonsense.

Everything about Leftists just reminds me of a big pile of vomit, in everything they do, and everything they speak.

They are trying to normalize polyamory in the minds of everyone, especially in the youth, and to make people think this is natural, even when it isn't.
I was recently looking at dating profiles on several dating sites and the one thing I noticed is the high number of profiles of women and couples that were looking for people who are into polyamory and open relationships. There were a few that mentioned the trouples relationships. These new relationship arrangements are now becoming more popular. As far as I’m concerned, this signals to me the decline of our society as a whole and this will end very badly for society in the long run. I’m really starting to believe that we are heading towards the end times.
 
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