"Cheating On My Husband Made Me A Better Mother"

J.E.

Robin
This is the kind of story you'd hear on Common Filth Radio. There are points at which I cannot stomach listening to, let alone reading such stories. Fills me with disgust and anger. On reddit there is a whole subreddit dedicated to it called r/adultery. You can read some vile and morally twisted stories there.
 
Anyone who puts their self-worth into their sexual attractiveness is doomed to despair as they inevitably age.

I think it was C. S. Lewis who wrote that there was a progression in marriage from mad passion to having kids to watching them grow up and then being grandparents, etc. The idea being that one phase led to another. Those trying to hold to the first phase for decades and decades are not going to end well.

Besides that, rationalization is a powerful force and it can be more subtle than hers. Once saw a protestant book on marriage that was all about how to secretly engineer a divorce if one's spouse was not making them happy. Since not being made happy by one's spouse was a sin (as per that writer), the holy thing to do was to get a divorce to stop them sinning. You know, for their own good. Then go find another spouse and try them out for a while. That is why we need religion that is right where we are wrong, as Chesterton said.
 
Woman claims that cheating made her temporarily happy, and during that happiness, her children were happier as a result. In order to alleviate her guilt, she plied her children with donuts, among other rationalizations.

An old manosphere term that applies here is "rationalization hamster". Once she decided to cheat, she saw everything happening around her as positive to alleviate her obviously painful conscience. Once the extra-marital affairs lose their charm and the divorce begins, I wonder how "happy" her sons will be. Very sad.
Proof that misery loves company. She is/was a miserable woman so she cheated on her husband, making her husband and children (at least temporarily) miserable. Now she’s advocating for so many other fellow mothers and wives to join in!

Complete insanity that this woman sees this entire situation as a win for the family. It’s sad, really, for all of those involved.
 

J.E.

Robin
Where was their father while all this was happening? Sleeping? Reading about one of his conspiracy theories? Watching porn?

He was ignoring me just like he always did. No wonder I was cheating on him.
Today I am in a better mood to read such stories. To cut to the chase: despite the woman being morally reprehensible, I understand why she did what she did. A passive wooden man is chaos personified. The husband is a failure hence his wife became a failure as well - it takes two to tango. My father was passive and only showed action when he got into his rage-fits. A couple years ago my mother told me she never felt safe and secure with my father, she never felt like he was a wall to lean and a ground to stand on. My mother never cheated nor divorced my father, and I commend her for that, because from my experience a passive father and husband renders a family dysfunctional and throws them into chaos. A father and husband is supposed to provide not only protection, but most importantly structure and behavorial patterns to imitate.

It's not for no reason that the word pattern is derived from the Latin patronus (protector, patron) which is created from the root word pater (father, man who leads by example). Man is looked up upon to imitate, if there is nothing to imitate, then all goes to hell and we experience the large scale wordwide consequences first-hand.

We only know the story from the adulterous wife, but if there is honesty in her story then the classic paradigm is again cofirmed, which is: weak man marries whore.

Now, fellow forum members, if you read all that (and I can guess most won't agree with what I'm saying) feel free to hate on me.
 
At the end of the article, there is a brief background about her writing career.


She's 50 years old. Picture is from her Twitter profile.

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Didn't she say cheating help her become a better mother?

I skimmed through a few of her articles. She's a basic middle aged woman who married a man that went bit off the deep end embracing all shorts of crazy conspiracy theories according to her.


Then after she divorced she dated a bunch of men from Tinder. Not surprisingly, she's on anti-depression medication. She describes the type of men she dated. These stood out to me.

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#1: He really does just want to have dinner.​

I once read in a dating guide for women that a gal shouldn’t go to a man’s abode too early in the relationship or he’d get the wrong idea about her. It’s too easy to fall into bed that way and then a man would lose interest.

I don’t know what kind of women that dating guide was written for but it wasn’t written for horny, middle-aged, divorced women like me.

When Josh, 48, asked if I wanted him to take me out for dinner for our second date or for him to make me dinner at his place, I chose the latter. I wanted to jump into the sack.

Once I arrived at his place, I was further pleased to find that not only was he a great chef but he lived in a studio apartment. That meant his bed was in the same room as where we were eating (on the couch).

I thought all we had to do was finish our meal and then move to the bed. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen that way.

He wanted to keep talking after dinner. And keep talking and talking and talking.


Like a perfect gentleman.

I was a horny, middle-aged, divorced woman but not a forward one. I didn’t want to make the first move. But I also wanted to be taken advantage of. Now.

Maybe he got the vibe I was desperate. (I was.) Maybe I had turned him off during dinner. (Desperate, middle-age, divorced woman vibes aren’t exactly attractive.) Maybe he was one of those guys who actually wanted to wait. (Guys get to say no, too.)


I’ll never know because I didn’t stick around to find out.

Pass.

#2: Does he want a hookup or a hooker?​

And yet, some men on Tinder really are only interested in sex. This was the case of Dave, 47, who had no problem going to bed with me early on. The problem with Dave was that sex was all he wanted.

It’s not that I’m against casual sex. But when he kept pushing back our meeting times to later and later, I realized I was just his booty call.

I wanted more out of our fling than feeling like he should be calling an escort for some midnight boning instead of a gal he met on Tinder.

Pass.

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So she can't make up her damned mind. She dumps a guy for not banging her. Then she dumps another guy because all he wants to do is bang her.

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#8: Tall, dark, jobless, and alcoholic.​

Because being out of work does mean having a lot of time on one’s hands, sometimes that time gets consumed by unhealthy habits. This was the case of Shane, 43.

When Shane was employed, his job took him to offshore oil rigs where he spent months at a time away at sea. That tapped into my worst tendencies to chase unattainable men.

So after an introductory date at a cafe, I invited Shane to my place for lunch. He brought along a six-pack, which he immediately cracked open and began to guzzle as I pulled our lunch together.

If I didn’t already see that as a red flag, he also stepped outside every ten minutes to smoke a cigarette.

Once lunch was served, he took a break from smoking but kept drinking as he ate. He was waving that red flag in my face quite wildly now. Still, I wanted to make the most of this date.

After lunch, I invited him to the couch to get to know him better (read: to make out). He was on his last beer by then.

“Hold on a sec,” he slurred then proceeded to stick his hand down my pants into my underwear. When he brought his hand out again, he held his finger to his nose.

“You smell okay,” he said, “so if you want to have sex, that’s cool.”


I could no longer ignore the red flag rippling in the veritable wind. I invited him to leave.

Hard pass.
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So on their second date she allowed some drunk guy to just grab her privates? No self-respecting woman would do that.


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#9: Tall, dark, jobless, and depressed.​

I can further understand how being unemployed might also affect a man’s mental state. Take Ben, 40, whose unemployed status I waived because he actually knew how to write.

We texted back and forth for weeks and he delighted me with his proper use of grammar. He put his apostrophes in the right places, spelled words correctly, and used periods at the end of his sentences.

Swoon.

On our first date, he asked me how I liked being divorced.

“I’m happy,” I said

“Happy?” he said. “Nobody’s happy in L.A. What kind of antidepressants are you on?”

I laid out my spread on the table. Zoloft for depression. Buspirone for anxiety. Klonopin as needed. Who was I kidding? I always needed it.


He was on at least three more meds than I was. I soon learned that was because he was far more manic.

We’d be hot and heavy for a week, and then he’d disappear. And this kept happening until he ghosted me for good.

He broke my flawed heart.

I was passed.
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So she admits she suffers from depression and is sad this guy ghosted her just because he was a good writer? I actually feel sorry for women like her. He prime years are far behind her, and other than her children, she hasn't accomplished anything in life. I can understand why she is never happy and depressed. Feminism destroys another woman.
 

tomzestatlu

Kingfisher
I don´t want to justify her bad behaviour and you can´t just justify cheating, but after reading second article about divorce, he shares big part of guilt about the end of the family. Maybe the biggest, because he just didn´t lead his family and didn´t act like a man.
Those days, my husband spent almost every waking hour on our bed. He was unemployed. He got up around noon, took an hour-long shower, then climbed right back in between the sheets.
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He spent the rest of the afternoon and evening reading about conspiracy theories from the vantage point of our conjugal mattress. After we lost everything in the 2008 financial crisis, he also lost his mind.
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It wasn’t that the sex itself was so awful. It was that we had so many problems, I couldn’t feel close to him.
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Now they were threadbare after being washed so many times. Sleeping on the sheets all these years, fucking on them, my husband laying on them for entire days, refusing to look for work, obsessing over one insane idea after another — the sheets had deteriorated just like our marriage.
 

Blade Runner

Pelican
If I'm 50, I don't think about sex with anything near even 40 year old women. That'll probably be the case when I'm 60, too.

Not only are these women disgusting, they are delusional. The only time I'd be banging a 40 year old woman would be because I was banging her when she was in her 20s. Period.
 

Cervantes

Woodpecker
This woman is incredibly short sighted and selfish. She doesn't care at all about her children. What must it be like to know that your mother did these things and is shameless enough to humiliate herself, her husband and her children in public like this.

I was going to quote some excerpts as examples of how dumb and desperate she is, but I could not do it in a way that wasn't unjustifiably gross and vulgar.
 
Truly unreal what levels of insanity and oxymoronic statements the Marxists try to use to justify their own sense of "Morality", which is obviously no real Morality whatsoever. Always trying to transmute something into some disgusting positivity nonsense.

Everything about Leftists just reminds me of a big pile of vomit, in everything they do, and everything they speak.

They are trying to normalize polyamory in the minds of everyone, especially in the youth, and to make people think this is natural, even when it isn't.
Very well put, Lairofdionysus.
 
Truly unreal what levels of insanity and oxymoronic statements the Marxists try to use to justify their own sense of "Morality", which is obviously no real Morality whatsoever. Always trying to transmute something into some disgusting positivity nonsense.

Everything about Leftists just reminds me of a big pile of vomit, in everything they do, and everything they speak.

They are trying to normalize polyamory in the minds of everyone, especially in the youth, and to make people think this is natural, even when it isn't.
Very well put, Lair.
 

EddieSmith

Chicken
She´s a whore. It doesn´t matter what she thinks. It´s meaningless. The only thing to worry is if she has power to influence normal woman with her bullshit. What she thinks is irrelevant. It´s like a dog speaking. Stay away from her. From her writing. She shouldnt be allowed to influence normal girls.
This is 100% true for slutty women, but also goes for almost half of what normal women say. Not being mean but my life improved when I stopped listening to women on the level of men.
 

Czee

Chicken
I skimmed through a few of her articles. She's a basic middle aged woman who married a man that went bit off the deep end embracing all shorts of crazy conspiracy theories according to her.


Then after she divorced she dated a bunch of men from Tinder. Not surprisingly, she's on anti-depression medication. She describes the type of men she dated. These stood out to me.

*********************************************************************************

#1: He really does just want to have dinner.​

I once read in a dating guide for women that a gal shouldn’t go to a man’s abode too early in the relationship or he’d get the wrong idea about her. It’s too easy to fall into bed that way and then a man would lose interest.

I don’t know what kind of women that dating guide was written for but it wasn’t written for horny, middle-aged, divorced women like me.

When Josh, 48, asked if I wanted him to take me out for dinner for our second date or for him to make me dinner at his place, I chose the latter. I wanted to jump into the sack.

Once I arrived at his place, I was further pleased to find that not only was he a great chef but he lived in a studio apartment. That meant his bed was in the same room as where we were eating (on the couch).

I thought all we had to do was finish our meal and then move to the bed. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen that way.

He wanted to keep talking after dinner. And keep talking and talking and talking.


Like a perfect gentleman.

I was a horny, middle-aged, divorced woman but not a forward one. I didn’t want to make the first move. But I also wanted to be taken advantage of. Now.

Maybe he got the vibe I was desperate. (I was.) Maybe I had turned him off during dinner. (Desperate, middle-age, divorced woman vibes aren’t exactly attractive.) Maybe he was one of those guys who actually wanted to wait. (Guys get to say no, too.)


I’ll never know because I didn’t stick around to find out.

Pass.

#2: Does he want a hookup or a hooker?​

And yet, some men on Tinder really are only interested in sex. This was the case of Dave, 47, who had no problem going to bed with me early on. The problem with Dave was that sex was all he wanted.

It’s not that I’m against casual sex. But when he kept pushing back our meeting times to later and later, I realized I was just his booty call.

I wanted more out of our fling than feeling like he should be calling an escort for some midnight boning instead of a gal he met on Tinder.

Pass.

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So she can't make up her damned mind. She dumps a guy for not banging her. Then she dumps another guy because all he wants to do is bang her.

**************************************************************************************

#8: Tall, dark, jobless, and alcoholic.​

Because being out of work does mean having a lot of time on one’s hands, sometimes that time gets consumed by unhealthy habits. This was the case of Shane, 43.

When Shane was employed, his job took him to offshore oil rigs where he spent months at a time away at sea. That tapped into my worst tendencies to chase unattainable men.

So after an introductory date at a cafe, I invited Shane to my place for lunch. He brought along a six-pack, which he immediately cracked open and began to guzzle as I pulled our lunch together.

If I didn’t already see that as a red flag, he also stepped outside every ten minutes to smoke a cigarette.

Once lunch was served, he took a break from smoking but kept drinking as he ate. He was waving that red flag in my face quite wildly now. Still, I wanted to make the most of this date.

After lunch, I invited him to the couch to get to know him better (read: to make out). He was on his last beer by then.

“Hold on a sec,” he slurred then proceeded to stick his hand down my pants into my underwear. When he brought his hand out again, he held his finger to his nose.

“You smell okay,” he said, “so if you want to have sex, that’s cool.”


I could no longer ignore the red flag rippling in the veritable wind. I invited him to leave.

Hard pass.
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So on their second date she allowed some drunk guy to just grab her privates? No self-respecting woman would do that.


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#9: Tall, dark, jobless, and depressed.​

I can further understand how being unemployed might also affect a man’s mental state. Take Ben, 40, whose unemployed status I waived because he actually knew how to write.

We texted back and forth for weeks and he delighted me with his proper use of grammar. He put his apostrophes in the right places, spelled words correctly, and used periods at the end of his sentences.

Swoon.

On our first date, he asked me how I liked being divorced.

“I’m happy,” I said

“Happy?” he said. “Nobody’s happy in L.A. What kind of antidepressants are you on?”

I laid out my spread on the table. Zoloft for depression. Buspirone for anxiety. Klonopin as needed. Who was I kidding? I always needed it.


He was on at least three more meds than I was. I soon learned that was because he was far more manic.

We’d be hot and heavy for a week, and then he’d disappear. And this kept happening until he ghosted me for good.

He broke my flawed heart.

I was passed.
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So she admits she suffers from depression and is sad this guy ghosted her just because he was a good writer? I actually feel sorry for women like her. He prime years are far behind her, and other than her children, she hasn't accomplished anything in life. I can understand why she is never happy and depressed. Feminism destroys another woman.

Is it even surprising men, high or low value, tend to turn this woman's sexual advances down?

As much as she'd like to believe, men don't just bang everything in sight. Even the alcoholic, drunk off his ass- had an internal struggle just thinking about getting naked with her. That's saying a lot.
 
Woman claims that cheating made her temporarily happy, and during that happiness, her children were happier as a result. In order to alleviate her guilt, she plied her children with donuts, among other rationalizations.

An old manosphere term that applies here is "rationalization hamster". Once she decided to cheat, she saw everything happening around her as positive to alleviate her obviously painful conscience. Once the extra-marital affairs lose their charm and the divorce begins, I wonder how "happy" her sons will be. Very sad.
I’m not fully convinced women have a conscience especially when it comes to this. The hampster can rationalize anything. Kids unhappiness/confusion included. There just isn’t a bottom to modern womyns solipsism.
 
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