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<blockquote data-quote="Days of Broken Arrows" data-source="post: 565930" data-attributes="member: 4258">&quot;And then he ran out.&quot;This is the key sentence. If he'd have stayed with her the night, she probably would have put it down to bad communication. But since he left, she felt abandoned and it became &quot;rape.&quot;I had a similar thing occur once with rough sex. Thankfully, she didn't cry rape. But instead she called me &quot;abusive&quot; and cut me off for years. The &quot;abuse&quot; she spoke of was about things she had specifically asked for. But there was no reasoning with her about it -- in fact, the more I said &quot;That's what you'd said you wanted,&quot; the more she screamed.When we finally met up again years later, she insinuated the reason she freaked out is she woke up alone and got paranoid about what happened.The moral is that if you're gonna push a woman's limits, don't exit stage left the minute after it's over. This won't be a guarantee she won't freak out later, but will lower the chances of it. What you're doing by staying is re-contextualizing whatever happened. It's the same thing, of course, but not in her mind. If this sounds insane, try to remember that 100 years ago men never expected women to be rational -- that's modern day stupidity. (And no, this doesn't excuse what this girl is doing, it's just advice to young guys on how to avoid humiliation and/or expensive legal trouble.)</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Days of Broken Arrows, post: 565930, member: 4258"] [b]"And then he ran out."[/b] This is the key sentence. If he'd have stayed with her the night, she probably would have put it down to bad communication. But since he left, she felt abandoned and it became "rape." I had a similar thing occur once with rough sex. Thankfully, she didn't cry rape. But instead she called me "abusive" and cut me off for years. The "abuse" she spoke of was about things she had specifically asked for. But there was no reasoning with her about it -- in fact, the more I said "That's what you'd said you wanted," the more she screamed. When we finally met up again years later, she insinuated the reason she freaked out is she woke up alone and got paranoid about what happened. The moral is that if you're gonna push a woman's limits, don't exit stage left the minute after it's over. This won't be a guarantee she won't freak out later, but will lower the chances of it. What you're doing by staying is re-contextualizing whatever happened. It's the same thing, of course, but not in her mind. If this sounds insane, try to remember that 100 years ago men never expected women to be rational -- that's modern day stupidity. (And no, this doesn't excuse what this girl is doing, it's just advice to young guys on how to avoid humiliation and/or expensive legal trouble.) [/QUOTE]

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