It may also be some sort of expression of masochism. That is, the guy watching someone else bang his wife might enjoy the feeling of being humiliated. I don't know. But the psychologists say that such impulses do exist.
Cuckold Fetish
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Recently another married woman. Late twenties, two kids, had started flirting with me. Sending me nude pictures and talking about getting together.
At first I thought she was trying to cheat on her husband..but they way she send messages...I saw through the storyline and realized her husband is in on it.. He wants to catch her having sex with another guy and she leaves him clues about it.
I think what was said above is right. The man wants to know that that his wife is attracting to other men.
I Don't know what he takes it to the next level and wants other guys to bang..and he doesn't get anything though
At first I thought she was trying to cheat on her husband..but they way she send messages...I saw through the storyline and realized her husband is in on it.. He wants to catch her having sex with another guy and she leaves him clues about it.
I think what was said above is right. The man wants to know that that his wife is attracting to other men.
I Don't know what he takes it to the next level and wants other guys to bang..and he doesn't get anything though
RouteBackwards
Woodpecker
I know I've dated girls briefly, nothing serious, and I banged the broad with other fellas.
There is a particular turn on about knowing that girl is such a slut that she'll take a team, and in my experience, women love the attention, it makes them feel sexy as fuck. I think it's a control thing with very different meanings depending on who is engaging in the situation.
In other words, if you are the one pushing for it to happen, but controlling the situation while you're railing her with other dudes, it's a control thing knowing she'll do whatever you want her to do. With other men who enjoy having an alpha bull or whatever bang their broad, they take pleasure in knowing they have no control, and that's what turns them on.
There is a particular turn on about knowing that girl is such a slut that she'll take a team, and in my experience, women love the attention, it makes them feel sexy as fuck. I think it's a control thing with very different meanings depending on who is engaging in the situation.
In other words, if you are the one pushing for it to happen, but controlling the situation while you're railing her with other dudes, it's a control thing knowing she'll do whatever you want her to do. With other men who enjoy having an alpha bull or whatever bang their broad, they take pleasure in knowing they have no control, and that's what turns them on.
I know a guy that married the first girl he banged. I haven't gotten any updates on him in quite a while so who knows if they're still together.
Anyway this girl he banged...HIS friend banged her first in the backseat of a car, and then this guy banged her second, sloppy seconds. Then they started dating and he put a ring on it.
I know it's not anything to do with cuckold, but goddamn.
Anyway this girl he banged...HIS friend banged her first in the backseat of a car, and then this guy banged her second, sloppy seconds. Then they started dating and he put a ring on it.
I know it's not anything to do with cuckold, but goddamn.
Seamus
Woodpecker
Not to derail the thread, but this has me thinking about weird fetishes more generally. I've never come across any cuckolding swingers or been asked to be a bull (white guys don't exactly fit the BBC stereotype), but I did use to fuck around with a dominatrix in NYC.
I assumed all her customers would be serious betas, but she told me most of them were actually high status dudes, like bankers and lawyers, who would pay serious money just to be spanked and yelled at basically. No actual sex.
I could never quite wrap my head around it.
I assumed all her customers would be serious betas, but she told me most of them were actually high status dudes, like bankers and lawyers, who would pay serious money just to be spanked and yelled at basically. No actual sex.
I could never quite wrap my head around it.
The cuckold fetish does happen, but the cuckold porn videos are exaggerations of what actually happens. Though, I have never personally met a "cuckold" couple.
The true definition of a cuckold is a guy that's oblivious about his wife, girlfriend cheating on him.
I have met swinger chicks, couples, and girls that are out cheating on their husband, boyfriends. Girls like sex.
The true definition of a cuckold is a guy that's oblivious about his wife, girlfriend cheating on him.
I have met swinger chicks, couples, and girls that are out cheating on their husband, boyfriends. Girls like sex.
Seamus said:
From what I understand, a lot of people like to experience a 'role reversal' in the bedroom from their real life. I had a good friend/frat brother in college. No homo but he's the best looking guy I know. He did really well with chicks (obviously) and was a pretty masculine guy, but loved to be tied up and dominated by girls. He wasnt shy about showing off the ropes attached to his bed posts that were there for him for girls to tie him up.
Obviously this isn't always the case, but explains her clientele.
There are theories about it being a dom/sub thing or whatever which seem to have some stock, but my personal idea is it's the forbidden fruit appeal - The cuckold gets off to knowing his wife is an adulteress. It's wrong, it's dirty, and it makes her a filthy whore and the cuckold likes that. It's the same reason we like anal sex just in a much more extreme and exaggerated sense. It's dirty, deviant, decadent and indulgent.
Some folks just need to get creative to get their rocks off. I imagine when you reach a certain level of absolute comfort (and perhaps downright boredom) with a girl then you gotta dig deep to make her seem sexy still.
Some folks just need to get creative to get their rocks off. I imagine when you reach a certain level of absolute comfort (and perhaps downright boredom) with a girl then you gotta dig deep to make her seem sexy still.
Well, the Sperm Wars reason is that thinking about one's wife with another man heightens the competitive impulse inside your own body, thus causing you to be more aroused and produce more sperm for a "sperm war" with the other man. Ofcourse, some people think the author was just a cuckold himself, so it might be circular reasoning.
I'll propose a more extreme theory. We're all familiar with the Dr. Drew/loveline/Freud position that chicks that are legitimately raped/abused will often be rough and degrading sex lovers in their future as some sort of whacked out way of re-living the trauma.
Could cuckoldry be the same thing? Guys that in the past have lost their shit by being cheated on or in a Freudian sense had some outrageously slutty mother and are reenacting that trauma in a sexual way, like the rape chicks?
Could cuckoldry be the same thing? Guys that in the past have lost their shit by being cheated on or in a Freudian sense had some outrageously slutty mother and are reenacting that trauma in a sexual way, like the rape chicks?
We need someone that's actually in a long term relationship as a cuckhold..
To tell us how the really feel.
But those dudes probably aren't on the forum
To tell us how the really feel.
But those dudes probably aren't on the forum
Praetor Lupus
Pelican
I have a cuckold fetish myself.
I like banging the wives of lesser men on camera and posting their names in the local paper. :troll:
I like banging the wives of lesser men on camera and posting their names in the local paper. :troll:
Dr. Howard said:
I don't think we should call someones way of coping with a legit violent rape wacked out.
I knew a girl who did what you are referring to. She was legit raped by a black man when she was a teenager. Shes now a older married (to a white man) mother. An she steps out and sleeps with black men sometimes. I was confused as shit by i but after talking to a mutual friend who is also a psychiatrist, they explained it pretty well. I can't explain as good as they did but it has something to do with putting yourself back in that situation but this time being in control of it... instead of completely out of control as what occurred during the rape. Or for some people reliving the trauma with a different outcome helps them cope, instead of feeling helpless afterwards like when the rape occurred you could say cuddle with the man and feel comfortable when its over instead of like victim.
Real violent rape is a awful thing. And men and women who commit it deserve harsh harsh penalties. I won't fault anyone's method for dealing with going through such a experience. Cause unless you have been the victim of it you don't know what crazy way your brain may come up with to try and deal with it.
Cr33pin said:
besides the language disagreement, that is the theory I'm putting forward. Are cuckold dudes putting themselves in the same sort of situation?
Dr. Howard said:
Thats a good question that would be hard for any of us to answer... Have the husbands been sexually abused at some point, and then they try to relive the abuse through their wife getting rammed with a huge cock?? It just seems so odd to me.
I just can't see it, being a man and letting some guy with a bigger dick then yours ram your wife. I used to enjoy sharing random sluts and side pieces with my boys like I stated earlier.. However I was always the "bull" and in charge, so its kind of different.
In reality this is a very interesting thread cause I can't seem to figure out the mind set behind this kind of popular fetish.