That experience is different than mine. The handful of good ex-military men I know, like the second dad I mentioned before, are some of the most self-reliant, self-directed men I know. My second dad is like a dad to his whole town, that strong, reliable, rock-like good guy we all need to look up to.People with military backgrounds usually have a hard time adjusting to civilian life, mainly because in the army, someone took care of them with about anything. They fed them, dress them, gave them everything needed for their service.
And that approach often created in their head mindset "big dependent kid". You just obey us.
And only a few things are worse for a woman than to be married to a childish man, without the ability to take responsibility for himself, her, and their children.