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<blockquote data-quote="mjbravo" data-source="post: 1349079" data-attributes="member: 18123">I would also implore you to end things with the other woman and do everything you can to fix your marriage.&nbsp; I hear you regarding a shit marriage. I got into one where it was a massive struggle from the first moment because I didn't pay attention to the red flags that popped up during the engagement.&nbsp; It was horrible.&nbsp; She had been damaged from her own upbringing in a divorced household, which led to an absentee dad and a co-dependent mother.&nbsp; It does irreparable damage.&nbsp; I had terrible thoughts, but I had two little ones, and not once would I have considered ending things for their sake.I know it's a sacrifice.&nbsp; Mine didn't work out as she left me.&nbsp; Now I pray I can be the father and God can grant the grace that they won't end up as statistics.&nbsp; Don't voluntary give up 50% of your child's life.&nbsp; They need a dad and mom all the time.....EVEN if it isn't the healthiest relationship.&nbsp; Meg Meeker is a Pediatrician who has some great books and statistics of this myth that it's better for the troubled parents to split for the sake of the kid/s.&nbsp; Bullshit.&nbsp; Even if she isn't nice, sacrifice yourself for the sake of your child.&nbsp; They have a birthright to a full time mom and dad.&nbsp; Then father them to seek out the marriage and type of spouse you wish you had.&nbsp; And in the meantime maybe you and your wife will come together.&nbsp; Even if not it is worth it for your child.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="mjbravo, post: 1349079, member: 18123"] I would also implore you to end things with the other woman and do everything you can to fix your marriage. I hear you regarding a shit marriage. I got into one where it was a massive struggle from the first moment because I didn't pay attention to the red flags that popped up during the engagement. It was horrible. She had been damaged from her own upbringing in a divorced household, which led to an absentee dad and a co-dependent mother. It does irreparable damage. I had terrible thoughts, but I had two little ones, and not once would I have considered ending things for their sake. I know it's a sacrifice. Mine didn't work out as she left me. Now I pray I can be the father and God can grant the grace that they won't end up as statistics. Don't voluntary give up 50% of your child's life. They need a dad and mom all the time.....EVEN if it isn't the healthiest relationship. Meg Meeker is a Pediatrician who has some great books and statistics of this myth that it's better for the troubled parents to split for the sake of the kid/s. Bullshit. Even if she isn't nice, sacrifice yourself for the sake of your child. They have a birthright to a full time mom and dad. Then father them to seek out the marriage and type of spouse you wish you had. And in the meantime maybe you and your wife will come together. Even if not it is worth it for your child. [/QUOTE]

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