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<blockquote data-quote="Rob Banks" data-source="post: 1349291" data-attributes="member: 12046">OP does not say his wife is “done with the marriage.” He says she is cold and distant, but that doesn’t mean she is done with the marriage.“Done with the marriage” would mean she is filing for divorce (or made it clear she intends to divorce), dates other men, etc. It doesn’t seem that is the case.I don’t think it’s helpful to advise OP to get a lawyer, fight for his money, etc. Him and his wife have a kid together, for God’s sake.If OP does what he can to fix the marriage, then it will possibly be fixed and his kid won’t become a victim of divorce. Worst case scenario, if his wife eventually divorces him anyway, then at least the kid will have seen his father behave honorably and will understand that his mother is the one at fault.“Being taken to the cleaners” (or money in general) should not be the priority here. OP makes 220k a year for Christ’s sake. And his wife makes more than double that!There are plenty of rich kids who grow up to be promiscuous, use drugs, and even commit suicide. Just look at Hollywood.But secular marriages are seen as if they are merely business partnerships. No reason to stay if it’s no longer convenient or profitable. “Till death do us part” is just a formality (kind of like when politicians swear to defend the Constitution). Children and their emotional/spiritual development be damned.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Rob Banks, post: 1349291, member: 12046"] OP does not say his wife is “done with the marriage.” He says she is cold and distant, but that doesn’t mean she is done with the marriage. “Done with the marriage” would mean she is filing for divorce (or made it clear she intends to divorce), dates other men, etc. It doesn’t seem that is the case. I don’t think it’s helpful to advise OP to get a lawyer, fight for his money, etc. Him and his wife have a kid together, for God’s sake. If OP does what he can to fix the marriage, then it will possibly be fixed and his kid won’t become a victim of divorce. Worst case scenario, if his wife eventually divorces him anyway, then at least the kid will have seen his father behave honorably and will understand that his mother is the one at fault. “Being taken to the cleaners” (or money in general) should not be the priority here. OP makes 220k a year for Christ’s sake. And his wife makes more than double that! There are plenty of rich kids who grow up to be promiscuous, use drugs, and even commit suicide. Just look at Hollywood. But secular marriages are seen as if they are merely business partnerships. No reason to stay if it’s no longer convenient or profitable. “Till death do us part” is just a formality (kind of like when politicians swear to defend the Constitution). Children and their emotional/spiritual development be damned. [/QUOTE]

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