I agree. I completely understand where Roosh is coming from and it is a great article. Basically you have to have your house in order (in this case, your christian spiritual life) before even thinking about women. However, once you do get your Spiritual life in order, ie pray for half hour to an hour a day, attend church on Sundays, Holy Days of Obligation, first Fridays, First Saturdays, attend Holy Eucharist Hour at least monthly, and your virtue is high etc, what then? Do we hope that a woman appears to us and be wowed by our Zeal for God? As you mentioned, faith without works is dead, and just hoping that a woman will acknowledge our piety and be our future wife almost seems Protestant to me and quiet frankly, the idea that a woman will be "wowed" by our piety doesnt sit well(We must be doing all of that for God as Roosh rightly points out). At some point, we will have to go up to women that we believe are pious as well. I still consider myself a spiritual novice and admittedly, I struggle still with this question, because on the one hand, I agree that in my case, I still have a lot of learning to do in regards to faith. However, I am wary of the notion that a woman will just "appear" to me without me putting any effort in pursuing her...No, i am not saying I do not trust God's plan for me, however, I do believe I have to put ACTION as well in order to complete His plan, not simply "sit back" because I have achieved a certain level of Faith & Virtue. Perhaps once my piety is at a certain level, then this will all make sense to me...for now, I agree with Roosh on the notion that we must be at a certain level in our spiritual lives before expecting women to pay any attention to us. Of course we shouldn't have expected a good woman during our sinful days. Some of us indeed did and proceeded to ruin her...However, "not worrying about getting a woman" say once we are at a certain level of piety is still a hard concept for me to wrap my head around, and perhaps that's a sign I need to continue my learning of the Faith and increase my time in prayer.
This is not really a hypergamy example, but more of high expectations (perhaps too high)
I know of a traditional Catholic woman who is 35 years old and has yet to find a man to marry. Her 36th birthday is in less than a years time and she doesn't seem in a rush at all to find a man... I flat out asked her why she was 35,"traditional" yet not married. From what she told me, she dated a few men over the years. She had an excuse as for why the men she mentioned didnt work out. I wont go into detail but basically, it could be summed up as A) they didnt meet her expectations(which are high for a 35 year old), or B) they wanted to have sex before marriage (she is still a virgin). She also told me that "some men even asked for marriage" but she declined, in one instance because a man did a certain type of work that was "too rural" for her taste. She has no sense of urgency and wasnt worried about her fertility at all, even though she told me she wants MULTIPLE children (at least 3) The fact that she was 35 did not phase her in the slightest. Meanwhile I consider her to be pious and knowledgeable of the faith. I am considering in gently urging her to find a man asap because of her biological clock.
The point of the story is to highlight that some women in these traditional circles may be setting their expectations too high, to the point of their detriment where they end up in their mid to late 30s, still hoping and praying that a man appears in front of them, where the opportunity was literally right in front of them, but they failed to take it. This sort of ties in to my above mentioned response that we must take action and discern when there is a good opportunity. I know this is only one anecdotal story, and I do not post it to ridicule her, but it stuck with me because I consider this woman to be at a high level spiritually, but her expectations are so high, that she is now almost biologically infertile, and has no worry in the world about it. Perhaps she will meet a man soon AND have multiple children by God's grace. However, I think it is best we use our best judgement while acting out God's will, if that makes sense and NOT test Him, say by example in this case, a woman waiting till her biological clock is almost over... If I had a daughter, I would not want her to be 35 and childless (if her goal in life was marriage & not become a nun)
To me, the male equivalent of this story would be that a 25 year old woman presents herself to us, we get to know her, etc. She is pious, attends church weekly, etc etc. However, you find out she had "fun" in college, and perhaps has a notch count in the teens, maybe a tattoo or two and SOME debt. Because we now expect virgins without tattoos and 0 debt, we may just overlook this woman and wait till we find the "perfect" or "ideal" woman, ie a virgin, 18-22 age range and impeccable. If we put these high and unrealistic expectations in our heads, we will find ourselves single for a very long time.
Looks like I rambled alot, but if anyone has any similar thoughts or stories to share, please do so.