While this (now-banned) member was an obviois troll, I must admit he does have a bit of a point here (quoted passage above).
Far too many men here try and plan/calculate how to find and choose a good wife by whether or not she ticks off your boxes on a list.
There is not enough "romance." God is supposed to choose a wife for you. And it happens mysteriously and spontaneously, not as the end result of your meticulously-planned and calculated system.
I've even seen many men here unironically compare marriage to a business contract, for goodness sake.
I'm not saying all men here have this attitude, but I notice it far too often (especially among the younger unmarried men).