Does anything compare to the buzz of nightlife?

[Investment Bro]

Cool buzz word but I think you’re overlooking the basic fundamentals of/ essentials for happiness:

- a loving/supportive family and friends;
- a strong male presence during formative years; and
- a sense of belonging or worth.

Without those, you’re just going through the motions in life with a weak foundation (identity), effectively rudderless and prone to influence.

If you’re lucky enough to have those essentials, your sense of self and confidence within yourself is more likely to blossom naturally, paying that positivity forward by yourself becoming that strong male presence as you make your mark in the world and eventually build your own family.

While I agree that the first two especially can really help, not everyone has those. Most of what I've been searching for revolves around what each individual person can have, regardless of their circumstances.

Supportive friends though, I cannot agree with you enough on. Having truly good people that push you to be the best that you are a huge part of what makes life worth it.

I agree that having those things in place does make it a lot easier to have a great sense of self confidence, which is why the demise of the nuclear family is also part of the reason we're losing the millennial generation.

 

[Thriller]

Has anyone been in a similar situation and did you ever find something else that lived up to the buzz of nightlife?

Yes.

I've had a long innings enjoying the nightlife all around the world (Berlin, Brazil Carnaval, Colombia, NYC, Paris, Tulum, Thai islands, Moscow, Buenos Aires etc etc etc), and in my opinion the following things far exceed the buzz of the nightlife:
- The buzz of ploughing beautiful women (I'm much more efficient at this by meeting women in daytime situations compared to nightlife).
- The buzz of skiing and snowboarding down mountains up near the heavens (I love adrenaline and speed, this sport releases far more "buzz" chemicals for me than nightlife).
- The buzz of creating a legacy & family (Once I upgrade to more important things in life, then spending time in the nightlife is merely for novelty factor and is not worth the time and health cost)
- The buzz of making money (using all that time and energy I normally used for nightlife and then channeling it into business instead has for me been a much bigger and satisfying buzz).

When serendipity and context is right then I still enjoy nightlife from time-to-time, but nowadays I've reached a point where partying and nightlife serves only the following purposes for me:
- Having boisterous banter, laughter, drinks, birds and vibes with my crew.
- Cultural experience when I travel, going to bars and clubs can be a great way to soak up the atmosphere of a new city.
- The euphoria of listening to amazing music on a next level sound system in a cool atmosphere.

I understand everyone has their own unique perspectives and is at different ages... I'm in the my early 30s... But I've well and truly moved on from nightlife and I don't miss it at all because I get a much bigger buzz from the things which I listed above ^^.

 

[BlastbeatCasanova]

I used to be all about this when I was starting out in college. No worries or real responsibilities, super easy to get a big squad of your friends together, everyone is pumped and in a good mood, maybe some funny stuff happens or some crazy shit goes down that you and your friends can laugh about for years.

Now all my friends are spread out everywhere, I have trouble tolerating all the bullshit and noise of the modern nightlife, not to mention the money and sleep lost.

This might sound lame, but my biggest highs these days are when I write a sick riff or when I get a hot girl naked for the first time.

 

[nek]

Violence...and it's way better...

 

[Windom Earle]

This might sound lame, but my biggest highs these days are when I write a sick riff or when I get a hot girl naked for the first time.

Not lame at all. For me, music creation is one of the most satisfying things i can do for my soul. I would hate to not have that cathartic outlet.

 

[scotian]

I still enjoy nightlife outside of North America, such as going to salsa clubs with a full eight member band playing various instruments where the locals dance with passion rather than some club where a dork plays "sick beats" on a laptop while the locals dance like retarded robots while whacked out on chemical drugs.

 

[jselysianeagle]

^ salsa clubs can be amazing places to meet hotties.

 

[Remington]

I get a pretty big buzz when I reel in a 30 lbs fish, gut/clean it then eat it. Same thing for when I go hunting with friends, take down a deer, dress it then eat it.

I got the same rush when I took down my first buck. One of those moments where you finally see it through your scope and ready yourself to squeeze the trigger.

I was shaking in excitement when I was trying to steady myself before he finally turned for my shot.

Still get that rush whenever I get that next buck, but nothing compares to that first time.

In my experience, it always leads to that first experience.

Could be like surfing my first big wave, shooting my first buck, getting my first threesome, etc.

If you are missing that rush, branch out and try things outside your comfort zone. It will shape you into a better man.

Take what you value, and find something that best suits your desires and follow through with a plan.

 

[uhriginal]

I Like going out with a bitch to Latin clubs

Going out with “friends,” or to any other type of club not so much fun after college. Hate it.

 

[Seeker79]

After I hit 30 going to clubs became a drag. By 11PM I miss my bed and comfortable privacy. I'd rather be snuggled up in bed with a tight body than grinding on her ass in a loud club and buying expensive drinks.

Networking and social events with a few drinks seem to be the best. No loud music, most people are there to meet others, and even if you don't get a romantic connection you can still make business and career connections. These events don't have to be stuffy or transactional either. I attend a lot of volunteer based foreign policy networking events and it's usually full of mid 20s early 30s young professionals and 50/50 ratio. Most people have interesting things to say and are also interested in what I have to say.

 

[rottenapple]

30+ here, nothing better than getting fucked up and hitting a nice place with some buddies, all hyped up, girls eyeing you when you enter, especially when you have the place on lock. With some xtc you are in heaven. The problem I have is finding cool guys who aren't settled down yet to join me.

 

[rottenapple]

And as I wrote this, I am once again getting ready to run solo in an exotic country where I pull around 50% of times I go out. No buddies to offer me back up besides the bottle of vodka to my right. Got some 'The Midnight' on to get that old school vibe, followed by some hard-hitting house music or some 90's gangsta rap. As always I will have to make it happen myself. Got to find that high energy state that girls love combined with my body chemicals after working out and being on no fap.

My biggest worry is not that I'll have a shitty night, but that I might get too fucked up and end up fucking a shady girl with no protection. Whatever, you gotta go search those stories, make those memories, life is too short to go to bed early on a Saturday night!

 

[jselysianeagle]

I love nightlife, but I don't drink and have no need to. I can chug on water all night and still have no problems approaching gals. So it doesn't take a toll on my body like it would had I been drinking hard. I'm done by 1 or 2 am - I think if you don't have a girl on lock by then, you're better off just goin home. Don't see the point in stickin around till 4 am - most remotely fuckable girls usually are taken by that time anyway.

I'm mid-30s too but can pass for late 20s/early 30s so I don't stand out too much, but I also don't hit up clubs full of 18 yr olds as that would definitely make me feel weird. Places I go to have a good mix of ages with plenty of ppl in their 20s, 30s and some even in their 40s. The upscale spots are usually like this, especially in big cities like NYC, LA etc. In the last few months alone I've gone home with girls 10+ years younger than myself.

Generally however, I do prefer lounges, bars, rooftops etc. Clubs get annoying fast.

 

[B-Minus]

Yeah the gym compares to the buZz of nightlife

 

[lunchmoney]

Nightlife was great in my early to mid 20s, before IG/Snapchat really took over and girls spent more time taking selfies than socializing. I feel sorry for those now who think today's nightlife is awesome.

 

[BlastbeatCasanova]

This might sound lame, but my biggest highs these days are when I write a sick riff or when I get a hot girl naked for the first time.

Not lame at all. For me, music creation is one of the most satisfying things i can do for my soul. I would hate to not have that cathartic outlet.

Hell yeah brother, too true.

It's funny that I made that post because last night I went out and had a stellar time. Mostly because we rolled out with my buddy's gf and 8 of her hot friends. Would've been pretty dumb to sit that one out

 

[JackinMelbourne]

I feel sorry for those now who think today's nightlife is awesome.

Some clubs and scenes have become SJW sewers or just straight up low quality shit-fests.

Apart from that, working early and having your shit togeather means that staying up late and getting wasted involves too much risk.

Therefore, I'm also seeking more daytime, early morning and early evening social activities.

p.s. the guys mentioning GYM: doesn't sound like that would replace the social aspect of nightlife and partying...

 

[travolta]

I'm not sure if much can live up to *proper* nightlife. For me there's nothing quite like taking drugs, being with a large group of friends (male + female), and hearing a great techno DJ at a massive club (think Berlin or Amsterdam). I'm talking about when you go out to a club to hear good music, dance and hang out with friends, NOT to hit on a bunch of girls (but getting laid is a nice bonus)

I'm a bit over nightlife because I prefer a healthy lifestyle. Once in a while it's fun if I'm with the right group, but staying up late fucks too much with my circadian rhythm. Lately I much prefer to go out with a girl, fuck her before midnight and pass out. Extreme sports such as rock climbing are more fulfilling for me than staying out at a club until late. Rather wake up at 6am, climb a mountain and smoke a joint afterwards, than stay out until 6am chasing after half-retarded girls. To each his own.

 

[arafat scarf]

There are numerous other sources of enjoyment besides nightlife and some are more sublime, however for me, there's nothing similar in kind.

Only certain venues, and more so outside the USA. Forget VIP, bottle service, and all that gay shit.

I love the excess of stimulation, I love rolling solo or with a cool friend, I love nursing my vodka sodas with lime, I love the sidelong glances, I love the music, I love dancing, I love talking to strangers, I love flirting, I love the anonymity, I love the artificiality, I love taking some slut home when the stars align.

I don't go out often, but when I do, it has a special charge. Sad will be the day when I've aged out.

 

[jbkunt2]

I love going out on the razzle with friends. Always a great time.