Ending a relationship to make money abroad

[Geronimo]

I met this great girl who I have been seeing for almost 4 months, developing into a good relationship.

The place I am currently in has zero career opportunities for me and the cost of living is expensive. Before I met her I was already planning my move.

I already have everything setup abroad, I would just have to finish up here and leave.

Last few days I have been reconsidering my move because of her. I am obviously not going to disclose the details to her now, but I already know it will be impossible for her to join me there. Logistically it will not work out. So it would mean the end of a possibly great relationship but a great financial gain. I also won't be doing a long distance relationship.

Any inputs?

 

[Rob Banks]

Is she a good woman who you would like to be the mother of your children?

As Roosh put it in his latest article, you should look for a woman who is "a virgin who worships God and shuns pre-marital sex (oa repentant woman who has confessed her past sexual mistakes)." Does the woman you're seeing fit this criterion?

If so, I would not be so quick to let her go. Money is, by definition, replaceable. A good woman is not.

 

[Augustus_Principe]

Is she a good woman who you would like to be the mother of your children?

As Roosh put it in his latest article, you should look for a woman who is "a virgin who worships God and shuns pre-marital sex (oa repentant woman who has confessed her past sexual mistakes)." Does the woman you're seeing fit this criterion?

If so, I would not be so quick to let her go. Money is, by definition, replaceable. A good woman is not.

I would second this. Do you see yourself having a future with her? Her having your children? The fact that you are already considering dumping her for a career change tells me no. You've most likely already had sex with her, have gone on numerous dates and sleepovers and just see her as a notch count and someone to spend time with to not be bored. But I could be wrong.

 

[Rob Banks]

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Before I met her I was already planning my move.
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Last few days I have been reconsidering my move because of her. I am obviously not going to disclose the details to her now...

I just re-read your post.

So you when you met her you already knew you were moving but you didn't mention it to her? Was she aware that this was only a temporary relationship for you, or was she under the impression that it would be long term?

If she is aware that the relationship is temporary but slept with you anyway, then she probably isn't marriage material. And if she is under the impression that it is a long-term relationship, then I have to say that a major deception like that doesn't seem like the best way to start a relationship with your future wife and mother of your kids.

Either way, I have to agree with Augustus that it seems like, to you, this woman is just another notch who you enjoy spending time with but aren't too serious about.

When I said "I would not be so quick to let her go," I meant that only if you saw her as your future wife and mother of your kids. If you just see her as a "great girl" but you don't intend on staying with her forever or starting a family with her, then you should consider moving on and taking the career opportunity. There's no use in wasting her time or yours.

 

[Geronimo]

Yes I was already carefully planning my move before I met her but i see a great future with her so that's why I'm reconsidering my plans abroad. Only thing I'm concerned about is Financials if I cancel my plans and letting a potential long term quality woman go. It also doesn't feel very "masculine" to stay here because of a female

 

[Papaya]

If she's not worth marrying then she's not worth sacrificing career opportunities for

Where can you move that a mans wife cant go?

 

[Roosh]

Are you having sex with her? If so, your attachment could just be lust.

 

[Geronimo]

I am having coitus with her indeed but I also like just being with her.

I don't want to take her with me because my living conditions over there will be subpar (at least for a bit) and she'll constantly have to rely on me for everything as the place is unknown to her. She also won't be able to work there either. Not that that's bad, but It'd be too much of a distraction to me to have her on me 24/7

 

[UnW]

I've had this same situation happen a couple of times. So far each time, I've gone with the opportunity that benefitted me in the long term - but then again I'm in my late 20's now so I didn't put a LTR at the top of my priority list, It was establish career and finances then LTR etc.

Goodbyes aren't ever easy.