I would have gotten engaged years earlier but there was a serious immigration issue with my wife which prevented it.
When I was younger I ignored much of the advice my father gave, a stern, religious man who was incredibly serious yet successful. He would tell me how the current younger generation suffers from an unwillingness to commit. Commit to a wife. Commit to raising a family. Commit to being the head of the household and provider. Commit to the biggest sacrifice and selfless act in life which is raising successful children, which becomes your legacy and lasting impact on society once you're gone. To commit to laying roots somewhere and owning them.
Now that I'm a young parent, I agree with him. I look around at all the people I went to school with who are mid to late 30's, alone, living at home, dead end jobs, miserable as hell. They will grow old, alone. And I come away thinking, they failed to commit. They were afraid. Afraid to set down roots. Afraid to take on the responsibility of manning a household. Afraid to be the provider.
So my advice is, when you find the one, commit. Then work every day on being the best husband, provider and father you can be. Be successful at work. It all ties into a larger purpose.
And the rewards are there. All three of my dad's siblings are old, alone and miserable. Life has little purpose for them at this point. Yet he and my mother have 8 grand children and are racking up the memories each and every holiday.
Think about legacy. Consider your eulogy. How do you want to be remembered. Because that sacrifice starts in your 20's/30's.
Not sure if that's exactly related to engagement game. But I would say when you find the one and and will commit to the above, everything else feels natural and falls into place. The timing is natural. The ring, whatever. Do what feels right. How long you're engaged. Well, is she's the one you get engaged and start planning the wedding. True "game" comes natural. There isn't any of this overthinking. You simply, do.
When I was younger I ignored much of the advice my father gave, a stern, religious man who was incredibly serious yet successful. He would tell me how the current younger generation suffers from an unwillingness to commit. Commit to a wife. Commit to raising a family. Commit to being the head of the household and provider. Commit to the biggest sacrifice and selfless act in life which is raising successful children, which becomes your legacy and lasting impact on society once you're gone. To commit to laying roots somewhere and owning them.
Now that I'm a young parent, I agree with him. I look around at all the people I went to school with who are mid to late 30's, alone, living at home, dead end jobs, miserable as hell. They will grow old, alone. And I come away thinking, they failed to commit. They were afraid. Afraid to set down roots. Afraid to take on the responsibility of manning a household. Afraid to be the provider.
So my advice is, when you find the one, commit. Then work every day on being the best husband, provider and father you can be. Be successful at work. It all ties into a larger purpose.
And the rewards are there. All three of my dad's siblings are old, alone and miserable. Life has little purpose for them at this point. Yet he and my mother have 8 grand children and are racking up the memories each and every holiday.
Think about legacy. Consider your eulogy. How do you want to be remembered. Because that sacrifice starts in your 20's/30's.
Not sure if that's exactly related to engagement game. But I would say when you find the one and and will commit to the above, everything else feels natural and falls into place. The timing is natural. The ring, whatever. Do what feels right. How long you're engaged. Well, is she's the one you get engaged and start planning the wedding. True "game" comes natural. There isn't any of this overthinking. You simply, do.
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