Family and Friends who are haters! How do you deal with them?

[MikeCF]

Just give them shit right back dude. Ask them why they want to have the same routine every week until they're 65 so they can buy pointless material name brand shit to help themselves forget that they're gonna be stuck in the same routine until they're 65.

Call them pussies for not having the balls to do what they really want to do and remind them that if they want to up and move somewhere, they can't because they're tied down to a mortgage, a car payment and a bunch of other monthly bills for shit that nobody actually needs.

You're still in their frame, which is based on being toxic and acrimonious.

Shatter the frame.

Have a relationship problem with a girl? Break up with her.

Someone is saying something you don't want to hear? Walk away.

Your boss is an asshole? Quit.

Never enter a frame you don't want to be in.

Many guys have hung out with me. Everyone will tell you the same thing - I am about having a good time. No drama, no bullshit, no fucking around with nonsense.

If someone in my crew is about that bullshit, we just don't hang out again.

Same with my family.

It really is that simple.

Remember something. It's your life. Not theirs. Live it as you see fit.

 

[Suits]

See I'm the kind of person who if they talk shit too I snap. I tried being humble over the years and just take their "criticism" lightly and tried not too care much. But being humble only made things worse and they continued to run me over which eventually got worse and worse to the point I can't take it anymore and feel like Im going to snap any minute. Thanksgiving is tomorrow and many people are looking forward to see their family. Not me. Im going to Mexico in December and when the question of "What are you doing for Christmas pops up" Im probably going to snap.

Don't go.

I am 100% serious.

My family started giving me grief for moving to California. I didn't go home that Easter. They dropped it.

They learned that I live my life on my terms. I don't live for my parents or friends or cousins. If you want to be in my life, we engage in fellowship as peers. No one is superior or has a right to criticize me and vice versa.

Be a man. It's your life. Own yourself.

Do not go to Thanksgiving. Give no explanation other than, "I have other things to do."

If you do go, you're a pussy. It really is as simple as that.

Yep, don't even call to apologize or let them know you aren't coming. Just don't show up. Turn your phone off.

Next time they'll be glad that you showed up at all.


Alternatively, bring a real whore with you to dinner.

 

[jacknap]

Fuck. I wish I could just next my family. They have very low respect for boundaries but I'm an idiot and worked on other areas of my life other than financial so they use that power over me to be shitty. However, the shiftiness of them is still a hell of a lot better than my job prospects so I deal.