Feeling unable to connect with society after self improvement/redpill/politics

[The Catalyst]

It's been like this throughout my life but recently it's becoming more certain. By connect, I mean I don't feel like I can identify with the unwashed masses, nor do I feel like people can truly understand me. I don't think I've had a close friend in a long time.

By self improvement I mean game, weights(calisthenics), style, that sort of thing. It's not really something that happens in the mainstream anywhere but it's rather bad in NZ. I don't feel that unless you're a gymbro and into weights or a fag/hipster and into style that you can really identify with anyone.

In terms of politics, I mean how everyone is either very neutral or anti-Trump, for instance. Or they repeat insane left wing progressive talking points, especially about refugees and other SJW babble like gender equality and homosexuality acceptance(to say nothing of tranny acceptance and the like).

Those two alone isn't a big deal though. I can probably connect with someone cool who otherwise is too lazy(or "chill") to self improve and also is neutral politically, but is interesting to get to know nonetheless. But I feel the dominant culture in NZ at least is simply work, mindless social circle, mindless weekend drinking/"partying"(but there's nothing interesting about it- just hanging around being drunk), rinse and repeat. I feel there's something more to life, like either achieving something with your work or hobbies or going on adventures or doing something cool. But it doesn't seem like everyone else cares about those things.

I wonder if there's more a problem with society in general or with me, and am curious about other forum members' experiences.

 

[YoungBlade]

Find a social hobby and stick with it: going to the gun range, tabletop roleplaying (hint hint https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-55269.html), running clubs, dance lessons, etc. Find something you and others can enjoy together, then you will connect on that level, and likely many others the deeper you connect.

Birds of a feather flock together.

 

[R_Niko]

I got into jiujitsu in my mid-20s and it got me through a lot of shit. I burned off energy, killed dull evenings, built new skills, made new friends, earned real accomplishments (belts and medals), and had another interesting thing to talk about. One of the best things I've ever done.

 

[anthony]

I ride a motorcycle. That is the greatest way to disconnect from the hamster society.

All other suggestions are pretty good as well.

 

[wi30]

It's just a phase. I went though a bit of an anger/detached phase when swallowing the red pill. You'll get over it and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness of the left.

Find a hobby that surrounds you with people you can to relate to and have either consciously or unconsciously taken the red pill. Masculine hobbies are your best bet. And also try to meet up with other forum members. This forum is a great place to make new friends.

 

[IvanDrago]

It's just a phase. I went though a bit of an anger/detached phase when swallowing the red pill. You'll get over it and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness of the left.

And you will feel even better after that and can learn to laugh at the ridiculousness of the right too. And even better still when you can learn to laugh at people who group people in only two categories such as left and right.

 

[Captain Gh]

No worries mate you're just in that "Red Pill" Rage moment where you simply don't get how can anyone cannot see the obvious & how it's destroying our society! Until you feel that way: 1) Don't make any rash decisions on your career (if you work in some type of 9 to 5 office job & don't open your mouth if you're employed by a corporation.

Your emotions are quite high right now, so a career change to a more "Red Pill" field will probably not work if you're doint it to escape the "Blue Pill" world instead of desiring this line of work (I've done this mistake... and blew 10K cause of it!) You're emotions are quite high right now... but don't put in jeopardy how you put your Chicken Breast on the table! Down the line, your Red Pill view + a nice physique + charisma will get you really really far too!

 

[John Michael Kane]

Don't hyper-saturate yourself with information. Much of ingesting the red pill is a very bitter process. It is best to focus not too much on feminists, SJW's, etc to the point that it wears you down mentally. Take a break from the internet, hit the gym, make some new friends at the gun range. Stay active and forge friendships with men of similar background. Many of them are just waiting for someone to red pill them. Do it slowly and small dosages. That's the best way for you to win people over and make new friends.

 

[MOVSM]

Don't hyper-saturate yourself with information. Much of ingesting the red pill is a very bitter process. It is best to focus not too much on feminists, SJW's, etc to the point that it wears you down mentally. Take a break from the internet, hit the gym, make some new friends at the gun range. Stay active and forge friendships with men of similar background. Many of them are just waiting for someone to red pill them. Do it slowly and small dosages. That's the best way for you to win people over and make new friends.

Ain't that the truth.
You can always get yourself a new hobby (shooting etc.) and make new friends.

 

[John Michael Kane]

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[wi30]

And you will feel even better after that and can learn to laugh at the ridiculousness of the right too. And even better still when you can learn to laugh at people who group people in only two categories such as left and right.

My comment was in response to this:

In terms of politics, I mean how everyone is either very neutral or anti-Trump, for instance. Or they repeat insane left wing progressive talking points, especially about refugees and other SJW babble like gender equality and homosexuality acceptance(to say nothing of tranny acceptance and the like).

I'm not sure how you came up with thinking I believe in a binary political spectrum from something as vague as my comment.

 

[Crisp]

Travel

Just a guess that you're young and I don't know if you've ever left NZ, but visit somewhere new. Shake things up a bit. Researching a location and planning the trip will also be a distraction from politics and people around you.

 

[The Catalyst]

Travel

Just a guess that you're young and I don't know if you've ever left NZ, but visit somewhere new. Shake things up a bit. Researching a location and planning the trip will also be a distraction from politics and people around you.

That's the long term plan. I probably want to save enough to visit EE. In the meantime I'll work on looking into hobbies.

 

[Glaucon]

Hiking in the mountains, biking and generally being in nature helped me the most.

 

[LeoneVolpe]

Don't hyper-saturate yourself with information. Much of ingesting the red pill is a very bitter process. It is best to focus not too much on feminists, SJW's, etc to the point that it wears you down mentally. Take a break from the internet, hit the gym, make some new friends at the gun range. Stay active and forge friendships with men of similar background. Many of them are just waiting for someone to red pill them. Do it slowly and small dosages. That's the best way for you to win people over and make new friends.

^ Agreed.

I doubt if humans were ever intended to really connect with society-at-large anyway. OP, don't focus on a macro connection, start on a micro level -- find or create a small tribe, a trusted inner circle of people who share your values and beliefs. I could be wrong on this, but I think you'll find it isn't the quantity of people you come into contact with that matters, it's the quality.

 

[The Catalyst]

I doubt if humans were ever intended to really connect with society-at-large anyway. Don't focus on a macro connection, start on a micro level -- find or create a small tribe, a trusted inner circle of people who share your values and beliefs. I could be wrong on this, but I think you'll find it isn't the quantity of people you come into contact with that matters, it's the quality.

I think I phrased it wrong. By society I meant individuals within society. That's the thing- I don't feel hopeful I could actually have a trusted inner circle/tribe because I have to keep my worldview on the downlow.

 

[LeoneVolpe]

Not sure where you're located, but perhaps you could attend an RVF meetup sometime. You'd certainly be among good company and not have to worry about being politically incorrect, that's for sure.

 

[Paracelsus]

OP, the surest cure for your condition is to read a few of Kona's posts.

 

[Leonard D Neubache]

Are you in a progressive city?

Can you move?

I live out in the sticks and although it's inconvenient at times, I sure as hell don't have to worry about misgendering anyone.

 

[Easy_C]

It's a phase. Keep in mind that much of the stupidity(both blue pill and the crazier right wing elements) are that way because they live too much on internet and television.

Get off the web and spend some time around real people. We're ALL nuts, just most are less so off the internet. Look for people who don't follow the herd but are still successful. Some groups have already been mentioned. My favorite environments are bikers, boxing gyms, etc......just get away from social groups that exist only to consume and are unites by shares, masculine interests.