Filipina Long distance

Max Roscoe

Ostrich
Orthodox Inquirer
2. The noisy environment doesn't really allow people to delve into intellectual pursuits. Honking, endless chatter. munching on food, loud music and karaoke, constant drinking and partying, and 50 cafes and restaurants on every street make for constant distraction. I'm convinced precious silence makes them nervous. They all love noise pollution.
Sounds like an environment with little to no introverts.
Introverts are typically the smart nerds who are needed to have a strong economy.
I think the only place introverts would go to in the Phillipines would be out in the provinces, where they would not be doing any meaningful economic activity.

By contrast, the west has an excess supply of introverts / incels / whatever you want to call them. Men trapped in front of screens, missing out on forming families and just punching their time card. Neither is a good solution.

There is definitely something wrong with the Filipino society though. They are smart, productive, and obedient enough to have a rich and prosperous society (Filipino Americans are I believe the #1 wealthiest foreign group in the US and I knew a couple in college who just worked hard, didn't party and were super good Christian guys). There is something systemic in their bureaucracy or society that is a structural flaw that is holding them back. It's still a fairly patriarchal and Christian society, which are the first places I would start looking, so I can't quite put my finger on it.
 

Dilated

Woodpecker
Other Christian
^ It’s an IQ issue.

S. America is the same. There is so much chaos from the minute the day starts they don’t even realize it. They haven’t made the connection between chaos mitigation and success/development.

Imagine telling me your kids’ school is important…then having all the cousins over to do homework at the kitchen table while the adults listen to music and drink?

Imagine trying to have a productive conversation with any of these people beyond the weather and which local shitty soccer team won that day?

You can explain it to them. They can hear your words. But, they can’t understand it to the point that it has utility for them. Even if you show them the most obvious examples they cannot understand it. There is a breathtaking disconnect between cause and effect. I’m continuously baffled and surprised everyday EVEN THOUGH I KNOW ITS COMING.

They simply cannot do it.

The kids are loud and disruptive. Dogs are barking at all hours. Car alarms. Reggaeton. Cars stopping in the middle of busy streets. Dogshit on the sidewalks. Trucks selling propane blaring their announcements at 6am.

These all appear to be small things…but when added together have a huge effect. They simply aren’t capable of fixing it. And we (USA/Western Europe) shouldn’t feel bad about it.
 

GWYW2015

 
Banned
Orthodox
I'd really like to find someone with a little bit of introspection--emphasis on lil bit. But even that may be asking too much. Your wife seems to follow your lead so at least you got that.
She makes up for that with a great work ethic and is bright. I take her for who she is. I need her to accept me the same way.
 

La Águila Negra

 
Banned
Other Christian
There is definitely something wrong with the Filipino society though. They are smart, productive, and obedient enough to have a rich and prosperous society (Filipino Americans are I believe the #1 wealthiest foreign group in the US and I knew a couple in college who just worked hard, didn't party and were super good Christian guys). There is something systemic in their bureaucracy or society that is a structural flaw that is holding them back. It's still a fairly patriarchal and Christian society, which are the first places I would start looking, so I can't quite put my finger on it.
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Mate you next thing would be to say that there are honest, trustworthy and reliable.

Two more things, 1. income per country of origin in the US is measured per household. Filipinos like to live in multi-generational households thereby seriously skewing this metric

2. The Philippines is neither patriarchal nor Christian. The matriarchical aspect can easily be witnessed through the females hypergamous nature and their habit of having several kids with different fathers. The Filipino lifestyle in itself is deeply anti-Christian and consists of cheating, scamming, lying, manipulating, pre- and extra-marital sex and many other sins. All of this is not only condoned, but in many cases even encouraged. They are very good at putting up smokescreens though, due to this face thing. I've been to over 50 countries anf the Philippines (together with Cambodia and maybe the DR) ranks rock-bottom in terms of (Christian) morality

There are some born again denominations here that I respect and whose followers seem to be serious about their faith (like the Baptists and the Iglesia ni Christo) but they are small minorities. InC is a masonically inspired group in itself, for what it's worth.
 
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stonesfan99

Chicken
Catholic
OP, I will say this. I met a Vietnamese girl some years ago. She was 20 and I was 27. She was very clingy at first, always called me, wanted to video chat, etc. I think some of these women are very desperate to leave and marry to, what they perceive as, someone who is wealthy or offers them more opportunity than they would have back home. You have to be very careful. I would suggest you take a few weeks, go there, meet her, meet her family and friends, and spend time with her. Look for red flags and green flags. You likely won't be able to bring her back without getting married.

But honestly, I wish I had that opportunity again with my Vietnamese lady. Even years later when she got married and moved to Japan, we stayed in touch as friends, she said her partner was aware and didn't mind because we were just friends. She said she really did love me and I think I allowed negative people in my life, who didn't want to see me happy, that talked me out of it. I should not have listened to them. I should have gone there, married her and brought her back to the US.

It sounds like her and her partner are happy, have kids and are enjoying life, at least from what I can see. I'm alone in my house with no one really. I pray to God to give me that opportunity again, wished upon a shooting star also, so who knows, maybe God will lay that opportunity in front of me again. Go for what makes you happy. Sure, listen to people who try to give you advice, but don't let them make the decision for you. Good luck!
 

CaliforniaBased

Woodpecker
Catholic
If she does not ask for money...you MAY have a keeper. Of course, you will have to meet her in real life.
I am sure the money thing is in the back of her head there is no question about it. But if you are a manly guy and girls like you, then she should be able to be a nice companion who appreciates you for you and as well as your money. Why not look for an immigrant girl who is already located in the USA so you can meet her in person and see how she is. I also think girls who are virgins that are high school graduates are pretty rare in general. I am not sure I would believe that part. Also, you are a white guy I assume . Why are you not looking into white girls or if you prefer the foreign girls (they are better) an European immigrant .

Remember, it is important to seek foreign women because you like them better than those avaibale in the states, not because you can't handle the American girls.
 
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bmw633

Woodpecker
My Filipina wife has a cousin who is a 28 year old virgin who wants to get married. Very sweet nice traditional woman, devout Catholic. Would be nice if a good guy in Virginia could meet her.
 

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Gazza

Woodpecker
Other Christian
My Filipina wife has a cousin who is a 28 year old virgin who wants to get married. Very sweet nice traditional woman, devout Catholic. Would be nice if a good guy in Virginia could meet her.
Looks like she’s got an appetite for lapu lapu
 

MRBR1908

Robin
Other Christian
My thoughts on the photo, lovely young lady and looks fairly demure. Which is nice. I joined and then deleted Filipino Cupid just for a little bit of feeling good about myself, because the dumpster fire of American online dating considers me over the hill.... got rid of it after a month, and got back on purpose. I'm okay with that, I wasn't going to lead anyone on for months and not get over there anytime soon since I can't get in with no jib jab in the arm.

Unless you got the money and time to go meet in person and make a family then in my opinion online dating is just avoidance of things you should be working on instead. Good luck to all in this world looking for relationships.
 

bmw633

Woodpecker
My thoughts on the photo, lovely young lady and looks fairly demure. Which is nice. I joined and then deleted Filipino Cupid just for a little bit of feeling good about myself, because the dumpster fire of American online dating considers me over the hill.... got rid of it after a month, and got back on purpose. I'm okay with that, I wasn't going to lead anyone on for months and not get over there anytime soon since I can't get in with no jib jab in the arm.

Unless you got the money and time to go meet in person and make a family then in my opinion online dating is just avoidance of things you should be working on instead. Good luck to all in this world looking for relationships.
I met my wife on FC, but really have to vet them. Most are scammers.

My story: already had passport, one year multi-entry Visa and a plane ticket before I started even looking. We met in person 2 months after first chat, spent 8 weeks together island hopping.

You can go to Philippines without a jab, but need to quarantine in a quarantine hotel 5 days and test negative. Takes that long to get over jet lag, coming over from on US.
 

Viktor Zeegelaar

Crow
Orthodox Inquirer
My Filipina wife has a cousin who is a 28 year old virgin who wants to get married. Very sweet nice traditional woman, devout Catholic. Would be nice if a good guy in Virginia could meet her.
Screen hard bruv. Don't fall for any platitudes. Women lie all the time about bodycount etc. Vet her for a year, do your due diligence about her past and what kind of woman she really is then take a step. I see so many guys in their idealistic mindset trample over themselves to find the ideal woman, then to be finding that women are opportunistically and have no problem at all with lying, cognitive dissonance and mental gymnastics to present themselves better and more pure than they are. All I'm saying is vet carefully and take heed.
 

bmw633

Woodpecker
Screen hard bruv. Don't fall for any platitudes. Women lie all the time about bodycount etc. Vet her for a year, do your due diligence about her past and what kind of woman she really is then take a step. I see so many guys in their idealistic mindset trample over themselves to find the ideal woman, then to be finding that women are opportunistically and have no problem at all with lying, cognitive dissonance and mental gymnastics to present themselves better and more pure than they are. All I'm saying is vet carefully and take heed.
If I did not know her personally, I would agree with you. She has been helping my sick Mother-In-Law since we have been in the US.
 
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