The thing you need to look out for is she might import her entire family down to her 4th cousins to your country if you marry her.
La Águila Negra said:I have no idea what you are on about. Tossing away the first hand experiences of tens if not hundreds of long term expats online - with thousands more that choose to just suck it up and move on, is beyond arrogant.
'They ain't like me. I am young, tall and handsome. And I got my shit together'. Whatever that means. First of all: people that have their shit together don't move to the Philippines. They stay in their respective countries or choose the expat life in First World East Asian countries. Unless they get emotionally reeled in by a manipulative Filipina of course. Babytraps are definitely a thing, I am speaking from first hand experience here
Noone comes to the Philippines with the intention to get cheated on, taken advantaged of or being kept on a leash. Many of the older expats you like to piss on are US vets. Hardly the autistic, socially awkward easy targets you make them out to be. Yet they still get f-ed over at an alarming rate. It's a pity that the old Philippines Thread in the Travel Section isn't online anymore. There were some real nuggets of wisdom on there about the Filipino mindset and their psyche
I might come off a bit strong here but I feel like I need to counterbalance you. You are giving horrible advice to the OP. Filipinas are known, worldwide, for their unreliable, untrustworthy, lying, scamming, cheating, manipulative, promiscuous, money hungry and status obsessed nature. The OP needs to get that in his system before he chooses to continue with this girl
Also, this is not, as you mentioned earlier, a socio -economic phenomena. It's purely cultural. Filipinos don't lie and cheat because they are poor, they lie and cheat because it has become a normal thing for them. There is no societal backlash, no accountability, no being held responsible. In fact in many families it is being supported and encouraged.
Which means that finding am upper class girl won't save you.
No morals, no values and God won't mind because He'll forgive them if they repent in church
But alright. Let's for the sake of your argument say that he *does* manage to find an honest, conservative and church going girl that has the right set of morals.
Then what? Would he be out of trouble and would they be ready to start their own family without outside interference?
Of course not. Now the family comes into play. So now you gotta start screening entire families (of freeloaders) as well
Good luck with that!
Guy has an online relationship with a Filipina for more than a year and he sends her modest amounts of cash each month.
She is quite open about the fact that she previously lived with a guy and they had 2 kids together who now live exclusively with her, but they separated a couple of years previously and she's never seen him again. Eventually the guy saves up enough money and plucks up the courage to visit her in The Philippines. She collects him at the airport and takes him to her house, however, on arrival it transpires her brother is living temporarily in the same house with his own 2 kids and the only have 2 bedrooms. It was quickly arranged that the brother would sleep in the 2nd bedroom with all 4 kids to allow the couple some degree of privacy and it worked out well.
10 days into his vacation he is talking to one of the (nosy) neighbors who was curious who he is etc and he explains that he is her US boyfriend visiting on vacation. The neighbor is a bit nervous but tells him the man who is her brother is actually her husband and they have 4 kids together....DANG!