Filipina Long distance

GWYW2015

Woodpecker
You're a green-card dispenser and a status symbol to her. Nothing more. She'll lie as much as she needs to get out of the PI. Once she gets here, she'll flood her facebook account with every single move you make so she can show off to her friends and family in the PI. I can't tell you how many times I've seen this.

Why do Filipina women show off their White husbands too much?
Nov8
Filipina women who marry white husband claim high status in the Philippines. White men are considered as the most stunning and great men in this country. So, single women here are so proud to walk with white guys. They usually show off their white husbands to relatives, friends and even strangers on public.
Filipino women and White men (Photo: youtube)
In the Philippines, having a white husband is the pride for her family and siblings, as well as relatives. It does not matter who old he is, a white spouse is viewed as the special status in the family. Most of Filipino women, their parents and siblings, try to show off this white guy every time they have a chance. When she has a half-white kid, they show off this kid as well. This is the routine that happens to most of Filipino-wife-White-husband families.
It is about the culture and society. The white is always better than dark color. Also, most Filipina ladies are taught to look for a better man than them. They always try to marry up for better. Another reason is that the bad rumors from Filipino men about domestic violence make them scared of marrying a local man. The poor living condition is also the reason they want to look for a white husband. Most of them are trying to get out of the country where they can’t find a bright future. They are trying to marry a white man to have an opportunity to work and earn dollars in the Western nation.
Back to our topic, Filipinos consider white skin is the better. Most of them are trying to change their skin color by using skin whitening products to have a whiter skin. Marrying a white dude is the dream that comes true. Their children will have the best white skin ever. They are proud to be white. When a Filipina married a white husband, he is like her high brand. Of course, she will show off her husband wherever she has a chance. Her parents will show off their grand-children as well. Every one in her family will show off this white dude too.
It is about the culture. The Philippines people show off the good things and hide the ugly things. When a Filipina girl who married to a Caucasian, certainly, he is her pride. She is proud of herself. She thinks her life is on the higher status in the society. When she walks with a white spouse, she feel confident, safe and proud. She is happy with a white, tall and handsome husband. Then, it is okay for her to show off with other people.
Many of single women in the Philippines who signed up at our free dating site to find Western men try to show off their “cool” and “high-level” husbands after marriage. I think it is okay to do so if you are proud of yourself about your husband.
However, there are some Filipina girls who completely changed their characteristics after they married a Caucasian husband, this is not good. They think that they are considered as the high status and living condition. Their behavior has changed. They don’t talk to the neighbors and friends. They think these neighbors and friends are “low” class so they don’t talk or even look at anymore. This isn’t right at all.
Anyway, the Filipina ladies who marry white husbands show off with their friends and even strangers. Especially their mothers always try to show off their son-in-laws in front of people. I mean, they are too proud to have the white dude as a member of the family.


RK
I married a Filipina and petitioned her to America on a spousal visa and have never once gotten this impression personally, nor seen it from other Fil-Am couples we know here. You may have seen this a lot and I have heard it a lot but it doesn't match my own experience. Most Filipinas don't want to leave the Philippines, that's where home and family is. We are moving to the Philippines as soon as we are able to, that's where her heart is.

I think there is a little too much stereotyping in the article.
 
I met my wife online, invested heavily in our communication and proposed to her in 18 days then made a beeline to the Philippines to marry her. We have beaten the odds here in America (so have many others) but if you are able to retire in the Philippines and marry someone you are likely in the safe zone. We want to retire there as soon as practical because I think my wife would be happier there.

Well, as Max Roscoe said, the culture in the Philippines hasn't been ruined by feminism so a Filipina who has been in America for a long time could possibly be more liberal than a woman who has been in the Philippines her whole life.

I am happy that you found luck but this is an extremely romanticised image of the situation in the Philippines.

Everybody on here should know that relationships over there are transactional. That includes Filipino - Filipina relationships. Older guy brings in money and therefor an improved lifestyle for her (and her family!). Younger woman in return shacks up with older guy

If you want you find out if she's really into you pretend that your broke and say that your money stream has dried up. Keep that play up for a couple of weeks. I'll give you a 10-20 percent chance she'll stay with you. Why do you think she's fishing for strange, 30 years her senior foreigners online anyway?

Also, don't marry 18 days after meeting her. Remember, divorce doesn't exist in the Philippines and with that marriage will come several financial and legal duties.

Instead vet her thoroughly by living with her for months or even years, vet her family even more thoroughly as her loyalty to her family will be stronger than her loyalty to you. And boy are the male family members lazy, money, hungry and immoral. If necessary hire a prive detective to find out who this girl really is. But please, don't marry after 18 days.

The last paragraph is typical orientalism. Feminism is indeed not as big of a problem as it is elsewhere, but that doesn't make the Philippines anything of a paradise.

There are more measurements that could and should be used. The intellectual culture for instance (completely absent). Corruption is another (rampant in each and every layer of society). Also the authoritarianism, the collectivist saving-face mentality, the lack of values and morals, the poverty, etc.

Also, rest assured that feminism is definitely making inroads here. Upper class Filipina chicks in Manilla are more obnoxious and entitled than your average White chick in the States. That's not even a stretch. Another example. I was at an SM megamall in a provincial capital last week. Cardi B's new song wet ass pussy was blaring through the speakers at max volume whilst yours truthfully had to wear eyeshield+ facemask, enforced by armed soldiers (not security guards) at the entrances.

You really can't run away from clown world anymore

Most Filipinas don't want to leave the Philippines,

LOL, middle class Filipinos pay up til 30-35k USD to get student visas in Australia/Canada/ the US and by extension acquire residency in any of those countries. Marriage scams run miles deep, don't believe the MSM when they say that the plug has been pulled on that shit. It's still happening

The ones without money try to shack up with foreigners 40-50 years their age (happens all the time). And if all that isn't possible they move to the Middle East to clean toilets and be treated like modern slaves
 
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GWYW2015

Woodpecker
I am happy that you found luck but this is an extremely romanticised image of the situation in the Philippines.

Everybody on here should know that relationships over there are transactional. That includes Filipino - Filipina relationships. Older guy brings in money and therefor an improved lifestyle for her (and her family!). Younger woman in return shacks up with older guy

If you want you find out if she's really into you pretend that your broke and say that your money stream has dried up. Keep that play up for a couple of weeks. I'll give you a 10-20 percent chance she'll stay with you. Why do you think she's fishing for strange, 30 years her senior foreigners online anyway?

Also, don't marry 18 days after meeting her. Remember, divorce doesn't exist in the Philippines and with that marriage will come several financial and legal duties.

Instead vet her thoroughly by living with her for months or even years, vet her family even more thoroughly as her loyalty to her family will be stronger than her loyalty to you. And boy are the male family members lazy, money, hungry and immoral. If necessary hire a prive detective to find out who this girl really is. But please, don't marry after 18 days.

The last paragraph is typical orientalism. Feminism is indeed not as big of a problem as it is elsewhere, but that doesn't make the Philippines anything of a paradise.

There are more measurements that could and should be used. The intellectual culture for instance (completely absent). Corruption is another (rampant in each and every layer of society). Also the authoritarianism, the collectivist saving-face mentality, the lack of values and morals, the poverty, etc.

Also, rest assured that feminism is definitely making inroads here. Upper class Filipina chicks in Manilla are more obnoxious and entitled than your average White chick in the States. That's not even a stretch. Another example. I was at an SM megamall in a provincial capital last week. Cardi B's new song wet ass pussy was blaring through the speakers at max volume whilst yours truthfully had to wear eyeshield+ facemask, enforced by armed soldiers (not security guards) at the entrances.

You really can't run away from clown world anymore
I appreciate your comments, I really do. Naturally, a Filipina wants (and should) want an older guy who is financially able to help her, provided he really loves her too and will be good to her. I am under no illusion that my wife didn't marry me with the idea of a better life, but keep in mind, good Filipinas also don't want their husbands to help, they want to earn the money themselves by working in his country. It is shameful for her to not send money back home, and I am aware it is practically obligatory for her to do.

This doesn't mean that she is not going to try to be a good wife. You mentioned the liberalism of the city girls like Manila and my wife would agree with that. The provincial women make better choices to me but my wife says a good one still can be found anywhere. Air Supply and Lobo and The Bee Gees were more likely to be played when I was in Davao than modern stuff they call music today.

You mentioned her loyalty, some use the word love instead, either way, a lot of being able to be with a younger Filipina comes down to being realistic. Her love and loyalty for family is very strong (some may say forced but I don't want to get into that). I do well to not try to compete with them. I just want to love her. If I do that well, she will respond to me. I won't dispute "transactional" but that doesn't mean that she can't develop feelings for her husband and be the best wife he could ever have. That's the way I feel. I was 53 when I married her. She is giving me the best life I could have and I like it.

If you had a daughter, would you want her to marry someone with means or someone without, if they both had feelings for her?
I have a good wife and believe she will be with me until the end, which will likely be in the Philippines, where I think most Filipinas prefer to be, not millions of miles away from home.
 
I appreciate your comments, I really do. Naturally, a Filipina wants (and should) want an older guy who is financially able to help her, provided he really loves her too and will be good to her. I am under no illusion that my wife didn't marry me with the idea of a better life, but keep in mind, good Filipinas also don't want their husbands to help, they want to earn the money themselves by working in his country. It is shameful for her to not send money back home, and I am aware it is practically obligatory for her to do.

I wouldn't mind her working when the kids are older. But it does run contrary to the idea that Filipinas are traditional, quiet and loyal housewifes

I also have a major problem with her family leeching off her (and by extension you). The only way to stop that is to move away from the family and break your girl loose out of their tentacles. Good luck with that

Or marry a rich(er) girl of course, like I did. But those are usually not up for grasp for older guys (no hate)


If you had a daughter, would you want her to marry someone with means or someone without, if they both had feelings for her?
I have a good wife and believe she will be with me until the end, which will likely be in the Philippines, where I think most Filipinas prefer to be, not millions of miles away from home.

I'd say it depends on both their SMV. A rich guy will know his worth here, and therefor there will always be a chance of him breaking up the marriage/relationship in favor of a younger woman

Especially given how socially acceptable cheating/de facto divorce are here.
 
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GWYW2015

Woodpecker
I wouldn't mind her working when the kids are older. But it does run contrary to the idea that Filipinas are traditional, quiet and loyal housewifes

I also have a major problem with her family leeching off her (and by extension you). The only way to stop that is to move away from the family and break your girl loose out of their tentacles. Good luck with that

Or marry a rich(er) girl of course, like I did. But those are usually not up for grasp for older guys (no hate)




I'd say it depends on both their SMV. A rich guy will know his worth here, and therefor there will always be a chance of him breaking up the marriage/relationship in favor of a younger woman

Especially given how socially acceptable cheating/divorce is here.
Hmm, the idea Filipinas are traditional, quiet and loyal houswives...I admit that I knew very little about Filipinas when I married her, other than many men felt they made great wives. I would say traditional still applies, at least to a provincial woman, quiet and loyal sounds about right to me being married to one for over five years. But she in all likelihood is going to want to work even if her western husband has Bill Gates type money. That is irrelevant to her. She must work because her family expects her to AND because she has enough self respect to not want her husband to feel like she is mooching off him.

Until she has the children she wants very much, why shouldn't she work? The worst thing a guy can do is marry a Filipina and trap her inside the house so she can learn to regret her decision. She needs to be out there using her skills, developing her skills, making a few friends, and earning money for both her and her husband. She will always send money home though, unless she has her own children with the westerner. I have heard form two Filpinas that sending money back home ceases when they start their own families.

A good Filpina will do her best to shield her husband from family members over reaching for help. She has hard decisions to make sometimes. It is not true that she will ignore her husband and send all her hard earned money back home. That may happen but that is another story. Our house is right where the action is and I am find with some family staying with us as we have a big enough house there. I decided that she needs to be where she is happiest and that is around family. I love her family too and they figure to be a big part of our lives when we retire there. I also trust her to be able to handle family asking for money. That is a decision all men married to a Filipina have to make if they retire there, personally I prefer to be right there with the family I have grown to love myself, but that is only my decision. I realize why guys might want to have some distance from her family but it can't be too much distance.

I just wanted to get married. I wasn't looking for someone 27 years younger but believe God put us together. Having a younger wife is wondeful but has, like anything else, its own set of challenges.
 
Hmm, the idea Filipinas are traditional, quiet and loyal houswives...I admit that I knew very little about Filipinas when I married her, other than many men felt they made great wives. I would say traditional still applies, at least to a provincial woman, quiet and loyal sounds about right to me being married to one for over five years. But she in all likelihood is going to want to work even if her western husband has Bill Gates type money. That is irrelevant to her. She must work because her family expects her to AND because she has enough self respect to not want her husband to feel like she is mooching off him.

Until she has the children she wants very much, why shouldn't she work? The worst thing a guy can do is marry a Filipina and trap her inside the house so she can learn to regret her decision. She needs to be out there using her skills, developing her skills, making a few friends, and earning money for both her and her husband. She will always send money home though, unless she has her own children with the westerner. I have heard form two Filpinas that sending money back home ceases when they start their own families.

A good Filpina will do her best to shield her husband from family members over reaching for help. She has hard decisions to make sometimes. It is not true that she will ignore her husband and send all her hard earned money back home. That may happen but that is another story. Our house is right where the action is and I am find with some family staying with us as we have a big enough house there. I decided that she needs to be where she is happiest and that is around family. I love her family too and they figure to be a big part of our lives when we retire there. I also trust her to be able to handle family asking for money. That is a decision all men married to a Filipina have to make if they retire there, personally I prefer to be right there with the family I have grown to love myself, but that is only my decision. I realize why guys might want to have some distance from her family but it can't be too much distance.

I just wanted to get married. I wasn't looking for someone 27 years younger but believe God put us together. Having a younger wife is wondeful but has, like anything else, its own set of challenges.

You and I are both talking from our own experiences.

My experiences are different. When I look around me I just don't see the picture that you are describing. Again, I am happy that your surroundings seem to be more wholesome than mine

A disclaimer, I am currently living in a gated community in a more rural part of the country (surrounded by the much lauded province girls). The people that live here could be described as middle class- upper middle class. Definitely not the top 10 percent though

It's usually landowners that want to live in a safer area and OFWs/ former OFWs that use their foreign paycheck to acquire a house in a much more expensive gated community (or village, subdivision)

What I see around me are families torn apart by their parents decision to work abroad (OFWs). They are raised by their grandparents, uncles, or one of the parents. Some of these kids here tell me they haven't seen their parent(s) in over two years. That's not healthy. Also, I think we both know what happens in those countries halfway across the globe where they are anonymous and where there is zero social control

Another thing I see here are children born out of wedlock. The parents might still be together but more often than not they break up. I think I read somewhere that more than 60 percent of the children these days are born out of wedlock. Expect that number to go even further up. This is not a feature of traditionalism

There are also a lot, and I mean A LOT of women here that have several kids from different fathers. You usually don't know (saving face) until you start to get to know the family a little better. The new guy often has no qualms raising the other guy's kid. If he does have a problem with it though, it can result in abuse

It's different when there is a foreign father involved. I believe there are up till 10 women here who have one brown kid and one or two (always younger) Eurasian kids. Or sometimes the kid is half- Japanese or half- Korean. This subdivision is very small, I think 1500 people max

Many of the women just let themselves get knocked up by a foreigner. If he stays she wins the jackpot. If he doesn't she'll raise the baby (which will have better genes and will be regarded high status) by herself + her family. In her mind there is no losing, the kid will later obviously disagree

Single mothers are not that common though. That is not because the mothers don't break up and live in modesty, its because there is always some Filipino chump ready to move in and bail the mom out

Until one of them pulls a runner too of course, and so the cycle continues
 
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GWYW2015

Woodpecker
You and I are both talking from our own experiences.

My experiences are different. When I look around me I just don't see the picture that you are describing. Again, I am happy that your surroundings seem to be more wholesome than mine

A disclaimer, I am currently living in a gated community in a more rural part of the country (surrounded by the much lauded province girls). The people that live here could be described as middle class- upper middle class. Definitely not the top 10 percent though

It's usually landowners that want to live in a safer area and OFWs/ former OFWs that use their foreign paycheck to acquire a house in a much more expensive gated community (or village, subdivision)

What I see around me are families torn apart by their parents decision to work abroad (OFWs). They are raised by their grandparents, uncles, or one of the parents. Some of these kids here tell me they haven't seen their parent(s) in over two years. That's not healthy. Also, I think we both know what happens in those countries halfway across the globe where they are anonymous and where there is zero social control

Another thing I see here are children born out of wedlock. The parents might still be together but more often than not they break up. This is not a feature of traditionalism

There are also a lot, and I mean A LOT of women here that have several kids from different fathers. You usually don't know (saving face) until you start to get to know the family a little better. The new guy often has no qualms raising the other guy's kid. If he does have a problem with it though, it can result in abuse

It's different when there is a foreign father involved. Again, I believe there are up till 10 women here who have one brown kid and one or two (always younger) Eurasian kids. Or sometimes the kid is half- Japanese or half- Korean. This subdivision is very small, I think 1500 people max

Many of the women just let themselves get knocked up by a foreigner. If he stays she wins the jackpot. If he doesn't shell raise the baby (which will have better genes and will be regarded high status) by herself + her family

Single mothers are not that common though. That is not because the mothers don't break up and live in modesty, its because there is always some Filipino chump ready to move in and bail the mom out

Until he pulls he runner too of course, and so the cycle continues
Yes, there are problems everywhere in the world, just like where I am in America, and I mean with relationships. It is sad but it is all real. Nothing at all in this world is ideal. But I would rather take my chances finding a decent wife than to throw in the towel and be alone for the rest of it. Risks are part of life as you know. I could find a good or bad woman so I focused on looking for a Christian Filipina. That doesn't mean she is perfect of course as I sure am not, but I expected certain struggles or challenges as simply part of life.

I don't think my wife or I had a long checklist. We wanted a Christian who could be trustworthy and will spend the rest of our lives doing that.

Also, I have never liked the idea of OFWs leaving their children behind. It's tough when survival is on the line. I can see why a Filipina would find marrying a westerner so appealing, but many of these men mistreat these lovely women, so they better be careful and discerning too.
 
I am happy that you found luck but this is an extremely romanticised image of the situation in the Philippines.

Everybody on here should know that relationships over there are transactional. That includes Filipino - Filipina relationships. Older guy brings in money and therefor an improved lifestyle for her (and her family!). Younger woman in return shacks up with older guy

If you want you find out if she's really into you pretend that your broke and say that your money stream has dried up. Keep that play up for a couple of weeks. I'll give you a 10-20 percent chance she'll stay with you. Why do you think she's fishing for strange, 30 years her senior foreigners online anyway?

Also, don't marry 18 days after meeting her. Remember, divorce doesn't exist in the Philippines and with that marriage will come several financial and legal duties.

Instead vet her thoroughly by living with her for months or even years, vet her family even more thoroughly as her loyalty to her family will be stronger than her loyalty to you. And boy are the male family members lazy, money, hungry and immoral. If necessary hire a prive detective to find out who this girl really is. But please, don't marry after 18 days.

The last paragraph is typical orientalism. Feminism is indeed not as big of a problem as it is elsewhere, but that doesn't make the Philippines anything of a paradise.

There are more measurements that could and should be used. The intellectual culture for instance (completely absent). Corruption is another (rampant in each and every layer of society). Also the authoritarianism, the collectivist saving-face mentality, the lack of values and morals, the poverty, etc.

Also, rest assured that feminism is definitely making inroads here. Upper class Filipina chicks in Manilla are more obnoxious and entitled than your average White chick in the States. That's not even a stretch. Another example. I was at an SM megamall in a provincial capital last week. Cardi B's new song wet ass pussy was blaring through the speakers at max volume whilst yours truthfully had to wear eyeshield+ facemask, enforced by armed soldiers (not security guards) at the entrances.

You really can't run away from clown world anymore

LOL, middle class Filipinos pay up til 30-35k USD to get student visas in Australia/Canada/ the US and by extension acquire residency in any of those countries. Marriage scams run miles deep, don't believe the MSM when they say that the plug has been pulled on that shit. It's still happening

The ones without money try to shack up with foreigners 40-50 years their age (happens all the time). And if all that isn't possible they move to the Middle East to clean toilets and be treated like modern slaves

I vetted for three years but still had some problems. But despite everything, she still seems pretty devoted. But then we have a kid on the way. I do wish I had done a debt/credit check in the relatively early stages of the relationship. But I did not realize a third world woman with little collateral could get into such major debt. I would not have broken up with her, but I would have saved up the money to pay off her debt, while still in the States.

I can't get over the lack of an intellectual culture. And the bookstores I see are actually more like stationary shops. My significant other is intelligent, but has little interest in discussing books, science, politics, etc.,.... I've heard the Thai people are quite different in this regard, and love the arts and sciences. And as for the state of national dysfunction, I am amazed at how the average citizens tolerate it. I've heard Koreans like to come here, in part to look around and say to each other that they are grateful they were born Korean.... And then they get local women pregnant, and of course run back home to Korea, where the government shields them from taking any responsibility.

I've been fairly isolated and I'm not sure if I have ever met Filipinos from the top ten percent of the socio-economic pyramid. But I can only imagine how stuck up many of their women are to others. I have yet to really properly explore Manilla and some of the huge shopping malls.

I can't get over your story of being in a big mall where they actually played WAP over the speaker system! The lyrics to that song are so sexually explicit! If I went to a mall and they played that song, while I was with my four stepdaughters, I would be talking to security, mall management, and then raising hell online about it.

GWY wrote:
"Most Filipinas don't want to leave the Philippines,"

WHAT?!!!!!! LOL! You have much to learn... The bottom 2/3 of the population dream of getting the hell out of here! My significant other's favorite cousin took me aside, and said that he fully understood if I took my lady and her kids back to America, because it would give them a better life. This is a man who spent several years working in Hong Kong and saved his money to build a beautiful large home for his wife and kids, not too far from me. He has a brother who did the same, but via a job in Canada. And now that brother is debating staying in the Philippines, or taking his family back with him to Canada. He is the general manager of a fast food restaurant in Vancouver.

I've heard not wanting to move to America is a common thing with Latin American women, but NOT Filipino females! Once her girls are grown and gone, my SO says she may want us to move to the States. But that would change things a great deal in terms of power dynamics, though it would be about fifteen years down the road.

So many Filipino children barely know their kids due to parents who work overseas. It is so sad and even tragic. A shy little neighbor girl who my stepdaughters befriended, had both parents working overseas. She lived with her cousins, but she considered our home, her second home. When a local dog bit her (she ended up okay) she ran not to their house, but ours! My significant other carefully cleaned and bandaged her wound.

My SO liked in the past to torture me, by saying that she would get an overseas job in Canada. She prefers Canada over the U.S., saying that Americans are crazy and violent. And yet she is with me, an American. She says that she supports the closing of the American bases, because of the criminal behavior of a few American servicemen. And so now the Philippines can be bullied by China.

La Aguila, it sounds like you live in a nice area. My area is secluded, but not gated. You made some interesting observations about your neighbors and their mating proclivities. I wonder what percentage of children in the Philippines are hapas? I recently read an article which said though they are embraced in film, music, modeling, television, etc., for their unique and attractive look, that for ordinary white collar work, they often find themselves facing prejudice and discrimination.

I propose that there is a spectrum for viewing the Philippines, with La Aguila Negra at one end, GWYW2015 at the other, and me somewhere in the middle! Lol
 
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GWYW2015

Woodpecker
I vetted for three years but still had some problems. But despite everything, she still seems pretty devoted. But then we have a kid on the way. I do wish I had done a debt/credit check in the relatively early stages of the relationship. But I did not realize a third world woman with little collateral could get into such major debt. I would not have broken up with her, but I would have saved up the money to pay off her debt, while still in the States.

I can't get over the lack of an intellectual culture. And the bookstores I see are actually more like stationary shops. My significant other is intelligent, but has little interest in discussing books, science, politics, etc.,.... I've heard the Thai people are quite different in this regard, and love the arts and sciences. And as for the state of national dysfunction, I am amazed at how the average citizens tolerate it. I've heard Koreans like to come here, in part to look around and say to each other that they are grateful they were born Korean.... And then they get local women pregnant, and of course run back home to Korea, where the government shields them from taking any responsibility.

I've been fairly isolated and I'm not sure if I have ever met Filipinos from the top ten percent of the socio-economic pyramid. But I can only imagine how stuck up many of their women are to others. I have yet to really properly explore Manilla and some of the huge shopping malls.

I can't get over your story of being in a big mall where they actually played WAP over the speaker system! The lyrics to that song are so sexually explicit! If I went to a mall and they played that song, while I was with my four stepdaughters, I would be talking to security, mall management, and then raising hell online about it.

GWY wrote:
"Most Filipinas don't want to leave the Philippines,"

WHAT?!!!!!! LOL! You have much to learn... The bottom 2/3 of the population dream of getting the hell out of here! My significant other's favorite cousin took me aside, and said that he fully understood if I took my lady and her kids back to America, because it would give them a better life. This is a man who spent several years working in Hong Kong and saved his money to build a beautiful large home for his wife and kids, not too far from me. He has a brother who did the same, but via a job in Canada. And now that brother is debating staying in the Philippines, or taking his family back with him to Canada. He is the general manager of a fast food restaurant in Vancouver.

I've heard not wanting to move to America is a common thing with Latin American women, but NOT Filipino females! Once her girls are grown and gone, my SO says she may want us to move to the States. But that would change things a great deal in terms of power dynamics, though it would be about fifteen years down the road.

So many Filipino children barely know their kids due to parents who work overseas. It is so sad and even tragic. A shy little neighbor girl who my stepdaughters befriended, had both parents working overseas. She lived with her cousins, but she considered our home, her second home. When a local dog bit her (she ended up okay) she ran not to their house, but ours! My significant other carefully cleaned and bandaged her wound.

My SO liked in the past to torture me, by saying that she would get an overseas job in Canada. She prefers Canada over the U.S., saying that Americans are crazy and violent. And yet she is with me, an American. She says that she supports the closing of the American bases, because of the criminal behavior of a few American servicemen. And so now the Philippines can be bullied by China.

La Aguila, it sounds like you live in a nice area. My area is secluded, but not gated. You made some interesting observations about your neighbors and their mating proclivities. I wonder what percentage of children in the Philippines are hapas? I recently read an article which said though they are embraced in film, music, modeling, television, etc., for their unique and attractive look, that for ordinary white collar work, they often find themselves facing prejudice and discrimination.

I propose that there is a spectrum for viewing the Philippines, with La Aguila Negra at one end, GWYW2015 at the other, and me somewhere in the middle! Lol
Many Filipinas would like to work in America to help their families and most would like to do that, however my wife told me that if they could, they would prefer the Philippines to be close to family, provided they could be provided for. That's why we built a house there to live in, in retirement. My wife hates how America is so expensive too. There really isn't anything here for her. We'll go to the Philippines as soon as we are able.
 
If you do the smart thing when you get with a Filipina, and relocate to the Philippines, this is a good video about building a house there. This three bedroom, two bath home is being built for around $14,000.


My significant other's friend bought land and built a house for a total of $25,000. It's a two story affair, four bedrooms, two baths and a very nice upstairs terrace. It's on a quarter acre of land. And this is located in a small city, about an hour from Manilla. He worked in Hong Kong for two years, to save up the money. Afterwards, he married and had kids.

Keep in mind, you cannot legally own a house or land in the Philippines as an expat. And so your Filipino partner will own it, which makes this whole thing a matter of trust. You are allowed to own a condo, but not the land underneath it. It is a renter's/buyer's market for condos right now.
 

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If you do the smart thing when you get with a Filipina, and relocate to the Philippines, this is a good video about building a house there. This three bedroom, two bath home is being built for around $14,000.


My significant other's friend bought land and built a house for a total of $25,000. It's a two story affair, four bedrooms, two baths and a very nice upstairs terrace. It's on a quarter acre of land. And this is located in a small city, about an hour from Manilla. He worked in Hong Kong for two years, to save up the money. Afterwards, he married and had kids.

Keep in mind, you cannot legally own a house or land in the Philippines as an expat. And so your Filipino partner will own it, which makes this whole thing a matter of trust. You are allowed to own a condo, but not the land underneath it. It is a renter's/buyer's market for condos right now.
We also have a house in the Philippines. Land is so valuable over there. Thanks for sharing the video. Land to build a house and a car are prized possessions.
 

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