I am happy that you found luck but this is an extremely romanticised image of the situation in the Philippines.
Everybody on here should know that relationships over there are transactional. That includes Filipino - Filipina relationships. Older guy brings in money and therefor an improved lifestyle for her (and her family!). Younger woman in return shacks up with older guy
If you want you find out if she's really into you pretend that your broke and say that your money stream has dried up. Keep that play up for a couple of weeks. I'll give you a 10-20 percent chance she'll stay with you. Why do you think she's fishing for strange, 30 years her senior foreigners online anyway?
Also, don't marry 18 days after meeting her. Remember, divorce doesn't exist in the Philippines and with that marriage will come several financial and legal duties.
Instead vet her thoroughly by living with her for months or even years, vet her family even more thoroughly as her loyalty to her family will be stronger than her loyalty to you. And boy are the male family members lazy, money, hungry and immoral. If necessary hire a prive detective to find out who this girl really is. But please, don't marry after 18 days.
The last paragraph is typical orientalism. Feminism is indeed not as big of a problem as it is elsewhere, but that doesn't make the Philippines anything of a paradise.
There are more measurements that could and should be used. The intellectual culture for instance (completely absent). Corruption is another (rampant in each and every layer of society). Also the authoritarianism, the collectivist saving-face mentality, the lack of values and morals, the poverty, etc.
Also, rest assured that feminism is definitely making inroads here. Upper class Filipina chicks in Manilla are more obnoxious and entitled than your average White chick in the States. That's not even a stretch. Another example. I was at an SM megamall in a provincial capital last week. Cardi B's new song wet ass pussy was blaring through the speakers at max volume whilst yours truthfully had to wear eyeshield+ facemask, enforced by armed soldiers (not security guards) at the entrances.
You really can't run away from clown world anymore
LOL, middle class Filipinos pay up til 30-35k USD to get student visas in Australia/Canada/ the US and by extension acquire residency in any of those countries. Marriage scams run miles deep, don't believe the MSM when they say that the plug has been pulled on that shit. It's still happening
The ones without money try to shack up with foreigners 40-50 years their age (happens all the time). And if all that isn't possible they move to the Middle East to clean toilets and be treated like modern slaves
I vetted for three years but still had some problems. But despite everything, she still seems pretty devoted. But then we have a kid on the way. I do wish I had done a debt/credit check in the relatively early stages of the relationship. But I did not realize a third world woman with little collateral could get into such major debt. I would not have broken up with her, but I would have saved up the money to pay off her debt, while still in the States.
I can't get over the lack of an intellectual culture. And the bookstores I see are actually more like stationary shops. My significant other is intelligent, but has little interest in discussing books, science, politics, etc.,.... I've heard the Thai people are quite different in this regard, and love the arts and sciences. And as for the state of national dysfunction, I am amazed at how the average citizens tolerate it. I've heard Koreans like to come here, in part to look around and say to each other that they are grateful they were born Korean.... And then they get local women pregnant, and of course run back home to Korea, where the government shields them from taking any responsibility.
I've been fairly isolated and I'm not sure if I have ever met Filipinos from the top ten percent of the socio-economic pyramid. But I can only imagine how stuck up many of their women are to others. I have yet to really properly explore Manilla and some of the huge shopping malls.
I can't get over your story of being in a big mall where they actually played WAP over the speaker system! The lyrics to that song are so sexually explicit! If I went to a mall and they played that song, while I was with my four stepdaughters, I would be talking to security, mall management, and then raising hell online about it.
"Most Filipinas don't want to leave the Philippines,"
WHAT?!!!!!! LOL! You have much to learn... The bottom 2/3 of the population dream of getting the hell out of here! My significant other's favorite cousin took me aside, and said that he fully understood if I took my lady and her kids back to America, because it would give them a better life. This is a man who spent several years working in Hong Kong and saved his money to build a beautiful large home for his wife and kids, not too far from me. He has a brother who did the same, but via a job in Canada. And now that brother is debating staying in the Philippines, or taking his family back with him to Canada. He is the general manager of a fast food restaurant in Vancouver.
I've heard not wanting to move to America is a common thing with Latin American women, but NOT Filipino females! Once her girls are grown and gone, my SO says she may want us to move to the States. But that would change things a great deal in terms of power dynamics, though it would be about fifteen years down the road.
So many Filipino children barely know their kids due to parents who work overseas. It is so sad and even tragic. A shy little neighbor girl who my stepdaughters befriended, had both parents working overseas. She lived with her cousins, but she considered our home, her second home. When a local dog bit her (she ended up okay) she ran not to their house, but ours! My significant other carefully cleaned and bandaged her wound.
My SO liked in the past to torture me, by saying that she would get an overseas job in Canada. She prefers Canada over the U.S., saying that Americans are crazy and violent. And yet she is with me, an American. She says that she supports the closing of the American bases, because of the criminal behavior of a few American servicemen. And so now the Philippines can be bullied by China.
La Aguila, it sounds like you live in a nice area. My area is secluded, but not gated. You made some interesting observations about your neighbors and their mating proclivities. I wonder what percentage of children in the Philippines are hapas? I recently read an article which said though they are embraced in film, music, modeling, television, etc., for their unique and attractive look, that for ordinary white collar work, they often find themselves facing prejudice and discrimination.
I propose that there is a spectrum for viewing the Philippines, with La Aguila Negra at one end, GWYW2015 at the other, and me somewhere in the middle! Lol