This is great advice. Could you please elaborate on what you mean by men being pre-screened at the grocery store? Does that mean that a man by himself at such a store is single? I also had my interest peaked when you said a woman started the interaction with you. In my experience guys seem like this at 1st but if you keep initiating then they don't. In "Lady" it says to let the world come to you (passive energy attracts active energy) and if you do the work for a man in the beginning you will have o do the work for him to the end. I don't think I can wear the pant in the relationship b/c I have a high degree of feminine tendencies and behavior which are not conducive to a leader. Do the rules get changed/lax w/ covid? Or stay the course?
Actually I didn't even think of that, yea I suppose if they are doing their own shopping they are most likely single. But I was going with the angle that if they're not being friendly and talkative to you because of the plandemic well that probably isn't someone you want to be with anyway, or of course they just aren't interested so don't waste your time. Also if they are shopping for themselves they probably have some decent life skills which seems to be in really short supply for guys these days even grown men.
I definitely agree about not wanting to make the first move but things have changed and as much as I hate to admit it the old ways need a bit of adaptation. I really don't think you making the first move, again "move" being just being friendly and open, would necessarily mean that the man would be a lazy loser. Look I'm not trying to toot my own horn here and sound like a conceded idiot but I'll tell you this just because I think it will help.....
I'm 6'1 235lbs I workout 5 days a week in the gym, I was a college wrestler, I come from a strong catholic family who taught very strong morals and traditions, I'm well educated, I've been told I'm very attractive (objectively of course), I'm a successful multiple business owner, I believe in being a strong man for the people in my life, I'm very old fashioned and I treat my woman like queens of the earth just like I treat my mom and my sisters. But when it comes to making the first move....I'M SHY! Not in some weirdo socially awkward I don't know how to talk to people kinda of way I've never had any issues talking to the opposite sex but just in the way of that I was always taught to be humble and be a gentlemen first which to me means that just outright hitting on a woman without her making some type of initiation to where she would be receptive to it would be almost disrespectful. When we go out my friends make the joke that i have “the most ammo but don’t do any damage”. I've tried to fight against that because of things I went through, long story, but it's hard to change who you are and how you were raised, that's just who I am. So if we walked past each other in the supermarket and you didn't show me in some way that hey you're a nice friendly girl who wouldn't mind talking to me.....nothing would happen. I'm using myself as an example like a jackass obviously but I hope you see my point in that, not making any assumptions just trying to be helpful from my perspective.
Again not trying to act like I'm some amazing man or I have all the answers but if you want real world input well that's mine right there......
