Finding a Husband during Corona

I am willing to take the risk of not seeing a gal again after the first date if I don't pay. If that eliminates me as a prospect on here for gals then so be it. This Bad Boy turned Christian is not for everyone.
 

Eusebius Erasmus

Woodpecker
I am willing to take the risk of not seeing a gal again after the first date if I don't pay. If that eliminates me as a prospect on here for gals then so be it. This Bad Boy turned Christian is not for everyone.
That's an okay approach, nothing against it. However, don't expect to get a traditional girl this way -- she would expect you to be the provider.
 

jarlo

Woodpecker
This thread is descending into chaos.

Eventually, as Christians, we must return to traditional match-making, in which family and friends pick a husband or wife for you.

When you're young (or middle-aged even), one lacks the maturity and balance to pick a spouse.

As long as your family are devout Christians who trust in the Lord, they will pick a good spouse for you. Our modern notions of romantic love are silly anyway; love takes daily struggle and work.
I think traditional matchmaking is a good ideal for strong Christian families whose children are reaching marriagable age (e.g. 18-21). Those kids don't have experience with which they can screen the wheat from the chaff, and nothing is gained from them messing up by themselves, so it is better that parents guide the process. However, traditional matchmaking is predicated on having parents who are capable of aiding in finding a spouse. Most of the Christians on this board don't have such parents, and so I don't think it's practically useful for such guys to find a wife through "traditional matchmaking".
 

budoslavic

Owl
Gold Member
I am willing to take the risk of not seeing a gal again after the first date if I don't pay. If that eliminates me as a prospect on here for gals then so be it. This Bad Boy turned Christian is not for everyone.
but no shame on your sister for coming off nasty huh? Got it. smh.

Knock it off. You're hijacking this Ladies Forum thread. And you called yourself a Christian?


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Its cool Kitty, bash me some more, I can take it. You're the happily married one. I'm the jerk, my feelings don't count.
I am just an idiot stranger on the internet, I don't care what people think of me nor do I need people to agree with me.
This Bad Boy turned Christian is not for everyone.

Textbook internet tough guy. Please take your punisher profile picture, cringey one liners, and bad opinions somewhere else.
 

Sparkaii

Chicken
Woman
I'm really enjoying this thread, such juicy material! I will return to feast my eyes of the content that's been mentioned here. Mind you, I'm quiet fortunate with the Church I attend there are regular Zoom hangouts after Sunday service or midweek where I get to interact with members I know. I am still in the process of a full restoration so even though my heart is in a right place, I know the Christian men are hesitant around me. I aim to visit other Churches that start at different times once Covid is over (April 12th Outdoor restaurants will open & June 19th hopefully everything should be opened in the UK), in order to increase my choices and pickings of good single Christian men, I need to get out and take as much advantage as my youth and beauty as much as I can to find the best spiritual masculine male suitor for me to settle down with for marriage.
 
Hey ladies

There's a catfight in the ladies forum

And it's not us :cool:

Well you know he reminds me of this poster:
I went out to a different town last night to go out. After the club I got into a massive fight against 30+ local white knights. Why? Because one cheeky bitch started shoving me in the club.

Obviously I'm gonna shove back. This inspired hatred from WKs on the dancefloor who were trying to group up on me. The bouncers saw the beta behaviour of the WK and told them to calm the fuck down.

As the club is closing I hear 5 different people saying there's gonna be trouble waiting for me outside. They were right. 30 or so WK came up talking shit, but were too scared to hit me in the face, instead they went for bitch shots to the back of my head.

Despite their numbers, their pussyness means I was barely hurt. 2 black eyes and a cut nose, no big deal. I could sense the fear in them so as they were walking I chased them down and told them to "go home". They all left like little girls.

Unlike the WKs, I had no trouble from the bouncers. One guy even agreed that this all started over some dumb bitch pushing me.


If you are looking. Little Dark is that you?
 
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messaggera

Woodpecker
Woman
What would a Godly woman be doing in a bar or club lol??? Isn’t the point of those places to participate in hedonism, drunkenness, and hook-up culture? For what it’s worth, I’ve never been to a bar or club so I don’t really know but that’s what I assume... Maybe your research sample is biased toward promiscuity.

Bars and dance clubs are spots intended to promote debauchery and promiscuity. The type of dancing in clubs is a form of [erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse] for promiscuous individuals.
 

messaggera

Woodpecker
Woman
Thank you @CaptainWestern.

Given your response to a thread titled, Wife refusing sex and not enjoying it? in the men's Marriage and Family Life forum you have provided an opportunity to address a disturbing issue: the advice being given by some men in that forum.

All the comments in that thread advising a husband to the cheat on his wife, to have a "French style marriage," or to divorce are coming from men who are lacking strong spiritual leadership as a husband.

Strong Christian husbands are the spiritual leaders of the family.
A Christian wife will completely submit to her husband when he is spiritually leading the family.

Perhaps the OP is in a secular relationship seeking advice? If so to entertain the idea of cheating on his wife for his own lustful needs he may want to tread with caution.* Substituting lust (flittering, cheating, engaging in pornography, etc.) for companionship mentally and spiritually damages the individual and the family unit.

@RKS made a raw, but truthful statement for secular relationships:

You cant turn a housewife into a ho, and vise versa. If she is otherwise a good women and mother, this is your fate now.

*
What happens when a husband becomes impotent? Well according to the advice given within that forum are we not going to apply the same secular advice for the secular wife?
 
Thank you @CaptainWestern.

Strong Christian husbands are the spiritual leaders of the family.
A Christian wife will completely submit to her husband when he is spiritually leading the family.

This sentiment has become widely held in modern day Christianity. Dalrock has spoken extensively about it.
mad-dog-chandler; also https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2019/03/04/did-i-lie-about-matt-chandler/

Speaking of Pastor Matt Chandler. A quote from one of his famous sermons, Women's hurdles:

Really, men, here is a great way to gauge how you’re serving, loving, and practicing your headship. If the most secularized feminist in the world showed up in your home and began to kind of coach your wife toward freedom and liberation from your tyranny, our wives should be so well cared for, so nourished, so sowed into and loved, they would say, “What you’re describing is actually tyranny. I love where I am. I am honored. I am encouraged. My man sacrifices so that I might grow in my gifts. He will oftentimes lay down his own desires in order to serve me more. My husband goes to bed tired at night. He pours into our children. He encourages me. All that comes out of his mouth, sans a couple of little times here and there, is him building me up in love.”

Men, here is a good opportunity. If you’re like, “Well, gosh, I don’t think she would say that at all,” then, men, I think on the way home, you should probably repent and confess before the Lord to your wife.

So you see, it's become very fashionable to take the Biblical responsibility of submission from wives and twist it to turn it into submission that is ultimately generated by male headship. Therefore if a woman doesn't submit, the responsibility can be outsourced to the husband for failing to lead properly. Problem is, that's not Biblical.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1 Peter 3:1

So you see, its the responsibility of the wife to submit to their husband whether they are a strong spiritual leader, or not. But this Scripture is antithetical to modern day feminism, which staunchly resists any type of female accountability. And unfortunately, this type of feminism has seeped into modern day doctrine, teaching, and preaching.

I have no doubt, Messagera, that you would submit to a strong spiritual husband.
But many women would not, and do not. And I believe they need to be held accountable to the word of God for their part.
 
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