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<blockquote data-quote="Sol-lek" data-source="post: 1263689" data-attributes="member: 16677"><p>I'm beginning to think that some societies are more "evolved" towards monogamy.</p><p></p><p>What I can't figure out is if its by virtue of extreme cultural and societal standards, or perhaps some form of (compartively speaking) evolution in the short term.</p><p></p><p>Allow me to explain. I am an Arab American, grew up in an Arabic family, with a large extended family, cousins, uncles, aunts, etc.</p><p></p><p>My family, for the most part, seem to represent what I call the perfect blend of eastern and western values, living for the most part an American Lifestyle, whilst keeping Islam and culture close.</p><p></p><p>Now, of every major "group" (group being a broad term here, but I hope I can make my point clear), I have noticed that Muslims seem to have the most successful marriages, with the lowest divorce rates, as well as infidelity. Overall happy family lifestyle, many children, and overall: Balanced Happiness.</p><p></p><p>Now again, I can't account for what goes on behind closed doors, as we all have skeletons in our closet. However, I can speak based on what I see and experience.</p><p></p><p>I myself have been in a relationship with a fellow Muslim lady for a number of years, and while we have our ups and downs, we are still in it for the long run. I can attest to her character, as she prays 5 times daily, reads the Quran with love, and attempts to be a better Muslim as much as she can. </p><p></p><p>She is, quite literally, a better human than I (religiously speaking).</p><p></p><p>The key here is to find a women who ACTUALLY fears God.</p><p></p><p>Not someone who merely follows a faith half wittedly because she was born into, but someone who actively seeks to practice it everyday as much as she can, because she genuinely loves it. Because she fears God.</p><p></p><p>How will you know? Simple, the years have taught me; She has to push YOU to follow a faith more closely. She has to push YOU to pray more, read scripture more. No drinking, no pre-marital sex, nothing. But this must be done with balance, as an over-bearing religious heart is pretext for compensation for unseen sin and vice (as in when one partner cheats on the other, the cheating partner will attempt to shower their partner with gifts, attention etc in a vein attempt to make up for what they did, in their minds)</p><p></p><p>Social awareness and understanding of human nature helps you screen out for this type of person. Life has taught me, and perhaps few of you will believe me, but they do exist. I promise, I swear. But they are incredibly, incredibly rare. There is a certain luck factor involved, akin to winning the lottery.</p><p></p><p>As I've said before, I don't know if these types of women exist because of Nature or Nurture, but regardless...</p><p></p><p>Islam is merely one conduit for this, Christianity works just as well. All these religions are merely conduits with different rituals to worship the same One, True God. </p><p></p><p>The only method for finding a good spouse, is through religion, is through God. There is NO other way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sol-lek, post: 1263689, member: 16677"] I'm beginning to think that some societies are more "evolved" towards monogamy. What I can't figure out is if its by virtue of extreme cultural and societal standards, or perhaps some form of (compartively speaking) evolution in the short term. Allow me to explain. I am an Arab American, grew up in an Arabic family, with a large extended family, cousins, uncles, aunts, etc. My family, for the most part, seem to represent what I call the perfect blend of eastern and western values, living for the most part an American Lifestyle, whilst keeping Islam and culture close. Now, of every major "group" (group being a broad term here, but I hope I can make my point clear), I have noticed that Muslims seem to have the most successful marriages, with the lowest divorce rates, as well as infidelity. Overall happy family lifestyle, many children, and overall: Balanced Happiness. Now again, I can't account for what goes on behind closed doors, as we all have skeletons in our closet. However, I can speak based on what I see and experience. I myself have been in a relationship with a fellow Muslim lady for a number of years, and while we have our ups and downs, we are still in it for the long run. I can attest to her character, as she prays 5 times daily, reads the Quran with love, and attempts to be a better Muslim as much as she can. She is, quite literally, a better human than I (religiously speaking). The key here is to find a women who ACTUALLY fears God. Not someone who merely follows a faith half wittedly because she was born into, but someone who actively seeks to practice it everyday as much as she can, because she genuinely loves it. Because she fears God. How will you know? Simple, the years have taught me; She has to push YOU to follow a faith more closely. She has to push YOU to pray more, read scripture more. No drinking, no pre-marital sex, nothing. But this must be done with balance, as an over-bearing religious heart is pretext for compensation for unseen sin and vice (as in when one partner cheats on the other, the cheating partner will attempt to shower their partner with gifts, attention etc in a vein attempt to make up for what they did, in their minds) Social awareness and understanding of human nature helps you screen out for this type of person. Life has taught me, and perhaps few of you will believe me, but they do exist. I promise, I swear. But they are incredibly, incredibly rare. There is a certain luck factor involved, akin to winning the lottery. As I've said before, I don't know if these types of women exist because of Nature or Nurture, but regardless... Islam is merely one conduit for this, Christianity works just as well. All these religions are merely conduits with different rituals to worship the same One, True God. The only method for finding a good spouse, is through religion, is through God. There is NO other way. [/QUOTE]
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