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<blockquote data-quote="kel" data-source="post: 1338679" data-attributes="member: 17197">Not quite the same situation as yours, but I'm looking to make a farmstead somewhere and one of my considerations is necessarily proximity to my parents. I want to get them to move out there, but that might be tough, and farther it is from what they know the more of a pain it'll be to convince them, or at least my mom, she's very set it in her ways (it wasn't all that long ago that she was talking about going to south America to retire, as a lot of boomers without the money to retire in the US are apparently doing). Neither of them have dementia, but they're your typical boomers who lived kinda shitty lifestyles and caring for them is undoubtedly in my future - if I'm lucky I'll have another ten years before it's a necessity, if I'm unlucky maybe quite a bit sooner.Anyways, I don't have an answer for either of us. My plan right now is to get a place that's sorta near where they live/I grew up, sorta near other family, and which coincidentally is kinda centrally located for a lot of the people who might be joining this farmstead. But, my mom would probably chuff at the idea of moving to the opposite end of the city she currently lives in, so I know it'll be a challenge. To be honest, at a certain point I'll call her bluff, say &quot;I'm moving here, I'd like you to be there, but if you don't want to that's your choice. Your grandchildren will be happy to see you whenever you decide you can come out for a day here or there&quot;. In the end they're just one of many factors, and while they're my parents and I do have a responsibility to them, I have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of things I need to consider in this brave new world that's coming, I can't let boomer stick-in-the-mud mentality overrule everything.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="kel, post: 1338679, member: 17197"] Not quite the same situation as yours, but I'm looking to make a farmstead somewhere and one of my considerations is necessarily proximity to my parents. I want to get them to move out there, but that might be tough, and farther it is from what they know the more of a pain it'll be to convince them, or at least my mom, she's very set it in her ways (it wasn't all that long ago that she was talking about going to south America to retire, as a lot of boomers without the money to retire in the US are apparently doing). Neither of them have dementia, but they're your typical boomers who lived kinda shitty lifestyles and caring for them is undoubtedly in my future - if I'm lucky I'll have another ten years before it's a necessity, if I'm unlucky maybe quite a bit sooner. Anyways, I don't have an answer for either of us. My plan right now is to get a place that's sorta near where they live/I grew up, sorta near other family, and which coincidentally is kinda centrally located for a lot of the people who might be joining this farmstead. But, my mom would probably chuff at the idea of moving to the opposite end of the city she currently lives in, so I know it'll be a challenge. To be honest, at a certain point I'll call her bluff, say "I'm moving here, I'd like you to be there, but if you don't want to that's your choice. Your grandchildren will be happy to see you whenever you decide you can come out for a day here or there". In the end they're just one of many factors, and while they're my parents and I do have a responsibility to them, I have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of things I need to consider in this brave new world that's coming, I can't let boomer stick-in-the-mud mentality overrule everything. [/QUOTE]

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