Frivorced, past-the-wall single mom gets even pickier

[AnonymousBosch]

I feel sorry for her. The Christian purity culture messes women up, but combined with feminism it's quite the cocktail of delusion.

I'd argue the problem is simply any woman's lack of strong commitment to any opinion, spiritual belief, vow, child or man. If it possibly stops them getting something they want, it will be discarded with no further thought, and no guilt will be felt for doing so.

Women full stop are masters at spinning their hamsters to absolve themselves of their sins, so it's not like it's unique to Christian Girls. It's just that their hypocrisy is even more pronounced, and their rationalisations show greater desperation.

 

[Bad Hussar]

The reason she is extra picky now as a "single mother" is that she mistakenly believes she could have done better when she first married. Now she is trying to correct a perceived mistake by being extra picky. She is hilariously wrong, since she is now both older and fatter, but doesn't see it.

Women in general will almost inevitably think that they could have done better. Ether immediately after a marriage, or more likely after the initial feelings have worn off after a few years. The reason is because any individual woman can always fuck a "better" man than the best man who will marry her. This is essentially a law of nature and stems from biological differences between men and women and has all sorts of consequences for both men and women. To me this fact is so central to an individual woman's life it is essentially the "Female Condition".

So this woman is half right. She could have done "better", but not as a wife, only as a fuck buddy. The inability to realise that just because she could have slept with better men at the time she married her husband doesn't mean any of them would have married her is where she goes wrong. After all the emotional turmoil a woman standing at the alter can be assured that the man she is marrying is the best she can do. It is essentially that a mirror is being held up to her for the first time. The value of the man she marries is her value at that point in time.

If she could do better she would do better.

 

[samsamsam]

At least her ex is strong enough not to give into her nonsense.

I read this post by mikecf at dangerandplay. http://dangerandplay.com/2011/12/16/arthur-schopenhauer-on-women/

He posted the writings of Arthur Schopenhauer, a German Philosopher. It had some deep insights on women.

Hence, it will be found that the fundamental fault of the female character is that it has no sense of justice.

I would read justice as also being fair, honorable, respectful. She doesn't treat her ex at all in with any of those qualities.

 

[WD-40]

Regardless, the whole experience got me thinking about what kinds of things might knock my socks off on a first date enough to get me to agree to a second.

[...]

I’d rather curl up with boxed white wine and a novel than go on a second date I’m not excited about.

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Don’t expect sex on the first date: I’m a mom. I know where babies come from. The end.

Don't expect sex on the first date + second date only with a guy who knocks her socks off = she bangs on the second date.

 

[DarkTriad]

Just to be clear, she is NOT a "single mom."

A single mother is a woman who was left by a man to raise a kid alone. She is a DIVORCED WOMAN WITH A CHILD. There is a difference.

This woman is usurping the title "single mom" so she can claim "heroic victim" status. This demeans the women who actually rise above circumstances they were FORCED INTO but this woman chose.

The media lumps all women with kids and no husbands together as "single moms" for political reasons -- to make them seem "empowered." Let's not do that here.

This is a pet peeve of mine. It pisses me off to no end the way the media and feminists manipulate the language to make them all seem like hapless victims when they're the VICTIMIZERS, like in this case.

This is a good point. A widow is a 'single mom' and so is the woman who got pregnant by a jamaican apple picker that left on the next plane out of Toronto.

I have no problem pulling the rug out from under women who claim this, they'll say "something, something...its hard being a single mom" and I would say "getting paid to be single with a free babysitter every other weekend is called being a divorcee, a widow with a dead husband and no life insurance is a single mom"

I feel this is something important. Mansophere should introduce a new terminology and spread it so that English language would have ways to differentiate between different kinds of single moms. Perhaps someone should make a RoK article on this.

There are the innocent single moms:

1)Widows
2)Legitimately raped women who choose not to abort. (Some will debate the innocence of this)
3)Abandoned women

and evil single moms:

4)Frivorcees, divorcees,
5)Single sperm donor users
6)Sperm thieves
7)Professional "baby mommas" who collect "baby daddies" and their kids.
8)Divorced lesbians or single women who adopt children (celebrity style) (some will debate the evil of this)
9)Women who were technically abandoned, but that is because they were just plain insufferable. (debatable)

Too many shades for a single term.

Hate to say it, but for dating, the "abandoned" moms are some of the worst. Most guys wont desert the mother of their children...it just doesn't happen the way it does in the feminazi narrative very often, they have to actively DRIVE away a guy with daily horrific psychotic behavior to the point where he has to pick where he'll be best for the kids - jail, mental institution, or far from her.

If she's addicted to those bottom of the barrel losers that actually will desert their child (in a society that has never had such a surplus of White Knights and beta providers willing to take care of her and be a good father), then you're going to have a damn hard time connecting with her as a productive human being with some kind values or Code of Conduct.

 

[WD-40]

The reason she is extra picky now as a "single mother" is that she mistakenly believes she could have done better when she first married. Now she is trying to correct a perceived mistake by being extra picky.

That may be true, but don't think that is the actual reason for her no-first-date-bang "pickiness".

IMO it is a game-theoretic strategy to punch above her SMV weight by selecting for men who are unaware of their true SMV.

Let me explain: A divorced overweight woman over 30 with 2 kids who barely rates a 6 on her best cutesy pic has a real SMV that is pretty close to zero.

Any man who has SMV and is even somewhat aware of SMV dynamics will know that a woman like her doesn't stand a snowball's chance in hell unless she bangs on the first date.

So, a man that she would be willing to date again and who is willing to go on a second date with her must a) have SMV and b) be unaware of her true SMV and c) be unaware of his true SMV. Because if a) were not true, she wouldn't want to see him again, and if b) and c) were not true, he wouldn't want to see her again unless she had banged on the first date and done good.

Hence, Jenny is screening for beta chumps. She wants a guy who will overestimate her SMV and underestimate his own SMV, because a dude like that is going to be more malleable LTR material than a dude who gets it.

Which is fair enough.

 

[DarkTriad]

Sigh.

She got into her marriage due to social conditioning.

She got out due to social conditioning.

Now she is staying single due to social conditioning.

Do you see a common pattern?

I feel sorry for her. The Christian purity culture messes women up, but combined with feminism it's quite the cocktail of delusion. If she'd be smart, she'd buy her husband a copy of Married Man Sex Life, or be realistic about her dating options.

What's wrong with women being taught to stay virgins for marriage?

1. I seriously doubt she was a virgin when she married. She talked about dating numerous guys who broke her heart before she married.

2. Her problem is that she married someone she wasn't attracted to. There's nothing biblical about this.

When society emasculates everyone willing to stand up and be a husband/father, it's hard to blame so many guys for simply deciding to be a Player. The amount of Alpha needed to run a household nowadays (in the face of Divorce Rape and such) is plenty to maintain a large rotating harem.

"But I want kids!"

And if there is one thing we've learned here is how infrequently guys get to keep their kids. What a crock.

 

[DarkTriad]

Mansophere should introduce a new terminology and spread it so that English language would have ways to differentiate between different kinds of single moms.

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and evil single moms:

6)Sperm thieves

Too many shades for a single term.

I further move to have all "sperm theives" dubbed "sperm-jackers" by the manosphere in the future.

I really like the punchiness of that term.

I've always preferred "Baby-Raped".

"What happened to Jimmy?"

"He got baby-raped by some crazy chick, he's doing double shifts at the factory every night now."

 

[Hades]

Jesus. She looks like Jack Nicholson.

 

[soup]

What does "frivorced" mean?

 

[2Wycked]

^Frivolous divorce.

Basically, the concept is that the woman is leaving simply because she is "unhappy." Wrecking her husband's life, her kid's life and causing unnecessary financial and psychological damage to her family.

 

[soup]

^Frivolous divorce.

Basically, the concept is that the woman is leaving simply because she is "unhappy." Wrecking her husband's life, her kids and causing unnecessary financial and psychological damage to her family.

Well, here's the problem..

I believe that being unhappy is a good reason to get divorced.

The issue is her lack of foresight.

It's like all those women who get cats. A cat is a 17 year investment of time. You can't just give them away when you get bored or whatever.. unless you have no empathy.

I don't see any other answer to this aside from avoiding marriage.

 

[AnonymousBosch]

It's like all those women who get cats. A cat is a 17 year investment of time. You can't just give them away when you get bored or whatever.. unless you have no empathy.

Soup, I'm on local Facebook group for trading goods in my town, and I'm amazed at the number of women who post, trying to give away their pets for frivolous reasons. Easily a post of this nature every two days: "Don't have the time"; "Landlord doesn't like it"; "Need a quieter pet"; "Moving house and the yard is smaller"; "Want to get another puppy - a full-sized dog is too much work." No sentimentality or empathy whatsoever.

It's odd, given the female 'nurturing / caring / overemotional' stereotype, (which I always thought was a myth anyway). Women are starting to treat their pets like men.

 

[Rutting Elephant]

I notice boxed wine is very popular with divorced or unhappily married women. When not drinking alone, they find it easy to act shocked that all of it is gone -- because the container is not transparent.

 

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

That may be true, but don't think that is the actual reason for her no-first-date-bang "pickiness".

IMO it is a game-theoretic strategy to punch above her SMV weight by selecting for men who are unaware of their true SMV.

Let me explain: A divorced overweight woman over 30 with 2 kids who barely rates a 6 on her best cutesy pic has a real SMV that is pretty close to zero.

Any man who has SMV and is even somewhat aware of SMV dynamics will know that a woman like her doesn't stand a snowball's chance in hell unless she bangs on the first date.

So basically knowing the basics of the sexual market is its own attraction factor. Excellent thought.

 

[Sp5]

Jenny is the gift that keeps on giving, if you regard rationalization and hypocrisy as a gift.

 

[AnonymousBosch]

I'd been thinking about Female Typists for a while, and am considering a theory. As a thought experiment, this is what happens when you remove every sentence from her article that involves the phrase “I”, “My”, “Me” or “We”:

Dating at almost 31, as it turns out, is much different than dating as teenager.

Here are 10 tips if you’re trying to impress a single mom on the first date.

Tip well:. Along these lines -- be nice to the waitstaff.

That’s all the information you need to know right now.

And never defend him:

They are awesome kids.

Don’t ask when you can meet them: You can meet them the fifth of never if you’re overly eager to insert yourself into their lives -- for any reason.

Enjoy your work:

Don’t expect sex on the first date

Be yourself: Didja follow that? Bottom-line: Just be real and keep it real.

Taking it further, here’s what happens when you remove any instruction on how to function as the desired Actor in a Narcissist’s Play.

Dating at almost 31, as it turns out, is much different than dating as teenager.

They are awesome kids.

But since she had no concern for her children's well-being by removing them from her father since, even by her own admission, nothing prompted the divorce, they also function as Actors in her play. So, by removing them, you're left with this:

Dating at almost 31, as it turns out, is much different than dating as teenager.

The only statement in the entire article that isn't, in some way, All About Her.

 

[Cr33pin]

I foresee lots of these in her and her daughters future.

 

[kbell]

There needs to be a automated way of doing that. It would make a lot of women's righting much easier to read.

 

[Glock]

Jenny Erikson's descent continues.

She recently published a stomach-twisting article about how she is using diet pills, along with a bunch of other TMI about her medical problems.

While I find it commendable that Jenny wants to do something about her weight, she states in the article that she's merely trying to keep herself in the range of a size six. She's not even trying to be thin and feminine. This is the worst of both worlds: the body of a fatty with all the mental damage of a bulimic. (Indeed, Jenny suggests that she has had an eating disorder -- surely a preview of some future article when she quickly runs out of new things to write about.)