Come clean friend... Is it sex that you're after? What is your experience of sex? Will you be able to satisfy that young woman? Who proposed to who? Plainly, sex in marriage is for people who cannot control themselves. What, were you not able to control your edges and decided to tie the knot?I'm just gonna get to the point; I'm 17 and want to get married.
We've been dating for a 3 months but have known each other for 9. By the time the marriage actually happens, we will have known each other for 1.5 years. She knows my intentions and even knows roughly when I'm planning to propose.
This is a good woman and I know we can make the marriage work. I don't think either of us are crazy in love or anything, but I don't want to waste time dating around with other women until I find the "perfect" girl. The way I see it, you pick a girl and love her.
Is this a bad idea? I have been getting mixed responses from everyone. Some people say it is traditional to get married young, and we don't need to know each other for years and years as long as we know each other well enough to make this type of commitment. Some people are telling me there's something wrong with me for even considering it. I wanted to ask... what do you guys think?
Keep in mind that due to Christ's teachings on the matter, divorce is absolutely out of the question for me under any circumstance.
How is your faith?
Faith, as it were justifies marriage as we know it. The perfect partner would follow this pattern. Again, HOW IS YOUR FAITH?
Nothing is so powerful in drawing the spirit of man downwards as the caress of a woman.
People who have spend time on themselves spiritually, contract true marriage, and because, a man in his wife's arms does one of these two things; either he concentrate icily on her and forget the rest or look forward to heaven when he embrace her like a statue.
... this is somehow tactless of you at this age, young, hot blooded and no history.
God has made us for Himself and our hearts are restless until they rest in HIM and HIM alone.
I haven't understood you the least in your post. You say 1.5. We don't count the number of smiles in knowing a person, but rather fights. How can you say you know her when you haven't even stayed a cause? Have you ever seen her tears? When do they come out?
The holy fountain of life is dirtied by lust, even in the tidy garden of marriage.
How are you going to feed her? Don't you know that this is a man's venerable point? If you should fall short of her desires, are you going to stand the inescapable penalty of that?
Lust can only be justified by a desire to procreate. Are you ready to head a family, screaming toddlers, bills, child birth scars? Will you love her chastely, or you're going to see another one more prettier?
Young man, what is the purpose of your marriage?
Is it offspring? Is it indissolubility? Is it fidelity?
Suppose the wife cannot conceive? What are you going to do?
I have written a post yesterday in the language of moral theology, perhaps you may take a leaf there.
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