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Good article on why women need to be guided away from doing porn. Only posting the relevant parts.
https://www.nationalreview.com/2020/02/doing-porn-is-consent-enough/
Doing Porn: Is Consent Enough?
Young women deserve more than ‘it’s your body, your choice’ platitudes.
In a Jane Austen novel, a woman is bestowed with a fixed sum of (shall we say?) erotic capital which she can either save, invest, spend, or (in desperation) sell. The prudent woman considers carefully whether to accept or decline an offer of marriage and is kind enough to advise her sisters to avoid doing something foolish like running off with a soldier, marrying a pauper, or getting pregnant out of wedlock. Those were strange and frugal times. But human nature — including sexuality — has barely changed at all.
Today, there are those among us who, occupying new heights of mendacity or mercenary guile, argue that a young woman has little to lose, and perhaps even something to gain, from selling everything for next to nothing — behaving like a stripper, prostitute, or porn star. Consider, for instance, messages emitted from popular culture, like at this year’s Super Bowl halftime or as found in the pages of Teen Vogue (recent headline: “Why Sex Work Is Real Work”). Conveniently, for those holding such views, the only moral requirement is to ascertain whether the young woman gives “consent.” But what does consent actually mean? And what about the Internet and online pornography in particular, which have given these concerns a whole new dark dimension?
We must be free to consider these questions without facing charges of victim blaming. How insidiously and thoroughly has porn culture infected the mainstream? Writing “A High-School Porn Star’s Cry for Help” for The Atlantic last June, Caitlin Flanagan noted:
The problem is that there are some very old human impulses that must now contend with porn. One of them is the tendency of deeply troubled teenage girls to act out sexually as a kind of distress signal, an attempt to get the attention of adults who may not be getting the message that they’re in a crisis.
She’s right — and, sadly, it’s a crisis we’ve gotten good at ignoring.
Imagine, for a moment, that we are talking about money: a young man bestowed with a great inheritance, who goes to an older relative for advice on how best to use it. Imagine that the relative has nothing to offer him but inoffensive platitudes such as “It’s your money, your choice.” Would it really be surprising if this young man then proceeded to blow his entire fortune by overspending and placing his trust in those who wished only to exploit and extort him?
https://www.nationalreview.com/2020/02/doing-porn-is-consent-enough/
Doing Porn: Is Consent Enough?
Young women deserve more than ‘it’s your body, your choice’ platitudes.
In a Jane Austen novel, a woman is bestowed with a fixed sum of (shall we say?) erotic capital which she can either save, invest, spend, or (in desperation) sell. The prudent woman considers carefully whether to accept or decline an offer of marriage and is kind enough to advise her sisters to avoid doing something foolish like running off with a soldier, marrying a pauper, or getting pregnant out of wedlock. Those were strange and frugal times. But human nature — including sexuality — has barely changed at all.
Today, there are those among us who, occupying new heights of mendacity or mercenary guile, argue that a young woman has little to lose, and perhaps even something to gain, from selling everything for next to nothing — behaving like a stripper, prostitute, or porn star. Consider, for instance, messages emitted from popular culture, like at this year’s Super Bowl halftime or as found in the pages of Teen Vogue (recent headline: “Why Sex Work Is Real Work”). Conveniently, for those holding such views, the only moral requirement is to ascertain whether the young woman gives “consent.” But what does consent actually mean? And what about the Internet and online pornography in particular, which have given these concerns a whole new dark dimension?
We must be free to consider these questions without facing charges of victim blaming. How insidiously and thoroughly has porn culture infected the mainstream? Writing “A High-School Porn Star’s Cry for Help” for The Atlantic last June, Caitlin Flanagan noted:
The problem is that there are some very old human impulses that must now contend with porn. One of them is the tendency of deeply troubled teenage girls to act out sexually as a kind of distress signal, an attempt to get the attention of adults who may not be getting the message that they’re in a crisis.
She’s right — and, sadly, it’s a crisis we’ve gotten good at ignoring.
Imagine, for a moment, that we are talking about money: a young man bestowed with a great inheritance, who goes to an older relative for advice on how best to use it. Imagine that the relative has nothing to offer him but inoffensive platitudes such as “It’s your money, your choice.” Would it really be surprising if this young man then proceeded to blow his entire fortune by overspending and placing his trust in those who wished only to exploit and extort him?
