Good challenge to the guys who want to get married because...

[MHaes]

IDK how I feel about the issue of cheating on your wife because she isn't having sex with you anymore. Actually scratch that - I know how I feel on that. Both parties deserve to have fulfilling sex lives, and if you're wife isn't fulfilling your sex life then you should seek other options. But I am worried about the can of worms that this opens up. Wouldn't it be just as valid, then, for a wife to justify cheating on her husband because he wasn't fulfilling her sex life?

I understand one scenario is much more subjective than the other, but at the root of each scenario is dissatisfaction with your sex life.

It seems to be a bit of an ethical dilemma. I guess what I am saying is that the ethics of cheating due to a lack of sexual satisfaction in your marriage seem to say that it is morally wrong to cheat for that reason, and that the right thing to do is divorce your partner. But with how bad divorce courts are nowadays, that isn't really a feasible option either...and in that situation, I definitely see myself cheating rather than divorcing whomever I'm married to, regardless of the ethics.

Forgive my rambling, just putting my thoughts together. I'd love to hear what you guys think.

 

[MrXY]

Men traditionally dealt with this by having mistresses or going to prostitutes-marriage was about economics and procreation primarily-not romantic love

 

[Vicious]

Suits, what "relevant statistics"?

The ones detailing how much marital sex that average man can anticipate.

Show, don't tell.

In addition, I don't expect a forum member here to go into this kind of union all doe-eyed. Rather he'd be managing it from the get-go.

 

[iknowexactly]

Wouldn't it be just as valid, then, for a wife to justify cheating on her husband because he wasn't fulfilling her sex life?

Definitely not equal. A cheating wife can get pregnant, or more easily bring home a disease as the receiver of fluids.

Also, women are too stupid to differentiate the value between a cad who fucks a married woman and a more honorable guy who was nice enough tot marry her declining ass.

Men and women are not equal.

 

[The Lizard of Oz]

There is nothing wrong with this. No sane society would conceive of the idea that marriage means you never fuck strange pussy.

A real woman wants to know that she is your #1. If she is your wife, she is the one you take seriously and you don't leave her if she holds up her part of the bargain. As long as that's the case, she will overlook your ONS with random sluts or professional whores, and will secretly respect you more for them. Affairs are a different story -- they threaten the basis of the marriage and should be avoided.

It should go without saying that the standard for the woman, as opposed to the man, is absolute physical fidelity.

This is reality; all the rest is feminist propaganda.

All of which is perfectly expressed in this great song:



Friends tell me i am crazy
And i’m wasting time with you
You’ll never be mine
It’s not the way i see it
‘cause i feel you’re already mine
Whenever you’re with me {ooh...ooh...ooh...}

People always talkin’ ‘bout
Your reputation
I don’t care about your other girls
Just be good to me {ooh...ooh...ooh...}

Friends are always tellin’ me
You’re a user
I don’t care what you do to them
Just be good to me {ooh...ooh...ooh...}

You may have many others
But i know when you’re with me
You are all mine
Friends always seem to listen
To the bad things that you do
You never do them to me {ooh...ooh...ooh...}

^Without derailing the thread, could you explain how you resisted the urges for strange?

Eventually I stopped resisting it, and I had sex with other women.

The aftermath was predictable. However, the marriage remained intact and, strangely enough (or not, if you understand female psychology as this forum does), my wife seems more strongly bonded to me than before. I won't deny that the resulting fights were epic and nearly collapsed the union, but I convinced my wife of the truth--that I had no intention of dissolving our marriage or leaving her and our children, and had fucked other women purely for the sex.

The other women I laid using bar and club game. I never romanced or "wined and dined" them or engaged in long phone conversations--it was just classic night game, with at most one "date" (hookah bar for drinks, then to her place for the bang) or a one night stand. Because indeed, I only wanted them for sex.

 

[MHaes]

Men and women are not equal.

True.