Has putting on muscle resulted in homos hitting on you?

[Stallion]

Gay dudes have been hitting on me/approaching me since I was a teenager, even before I bulked up. I think I have the "cute innocent boy" face they like. It doesn't happen often, once or twice per year at most.

Generally if you politely decline they just leave you alone. A simple "No offense, but I'm not into guys, don't waste your time on me" is enough every time.

I think where I grew up most of them had bad experiences in the past, and are afraid of crossing the line and getting into trouble. One even told me "Ok, I won't bother you anymore, I don't want to be beaten AGAIN".

Groped is a different story, no idea how I would react. I got fatties do that in the past, but just ignored.

 

[eatthishomie]

I think I put out a masculine enough vibe that gays don't fuck with me most of the time. They ain't about to waste their time on a lost cause. Masculine gay dudes generally go for feminine gay dudes, and feminine gay dudes generally don't make the first move.

 

[mikeymike]

I think I put out a masculine enough vibe that gays don't fuck with me most of the time. They ain't about to waste their time on a lost cause. Masculine gay dudes generally go for feminine gay dudes, and feminine gay dudes generally don't make the first move.

lol or they just don't think you're good lookin

If youre in a city with a huge gay population that is overwhelmingly gay friendly like San Fran and Vancouver, you're going to get hit on by dudes if you're good looking. It's just a fact of life. They know we're not gay they just don't care. There is no real harm in there taking a shot. Much like we hit on women and if we strike out we don't give a shit. Guys are gonna be guys, just different targets for gay guys.

 

[kaotic]

Wednesday night, I was with a date, in a nice fitted polo shirt.

I have alot of facial hair as well. He flat out called me "hot".

I haven't been the same since, I can't go out on dates, I can't even anything.


While a gay dide hit on me, in all seriousness, it's only happened I think 3 times in my life.

I simply said thanks, turned to my date to say something, and he took off.

I made a joke about I'm THAT good looking I attract everyone, laughs were had.

 

[Anabasis to Desta]

I've noticed that a lot of guys pretend to be annoyed and outraged at gay guys hitting on them while at the same being extremely flattered. Why else would they bother letting everyone know? I chuckle whenever some guy goes ...

"Dude this fucking fag straight up came up to me last night and asked me for my number. Next time this happens imma knock a homo out."

 

[CaptainChardonnay]

^ I would say no. When I was younger I had a massive guy, was over 6 feet tall and at least 250 pounds, pick me up and tried making out with me. So no. Fuck no

 

[cascadecombo]

Anabasis you've gad some awfully gay friendly [gay ish if you count saving the dick pic] posts recently. What's up with that?

 

[Sidney Crosby]

Haven't noticed much yet, but my Dad is jealous of my gains these last few months. Not sure if Homo.....

Once I'm at the point were fags grope me I guess I've made it.

 

[kaotic]

Is it beta if a gay guy hits on you ?

 

[Mercenary]

Anabasis you've gad some awfully gay friendly [gay ish if you count saving the dick pic] posts recently. What's up with that?

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[vinman]

It really has nothing to do with you. Guys are guys, and they're just testing to see if they can get laid. Years ago when I was a bouncer I would have guys flirt with me very casually. It was so low key and subtle that it didn't register until much later, or someone would point it out to me. I was completely oblivious to it. Once I had a guy in a club walk up shake my hand, grab me by the upper arm, wink and walk to the men's room. My friends all gave me a weird look and asked who was that? I responded that I thought he was a friend of one of you guys. Then one yelled "holy shit! You just got molested", and we all laughed. It happens.

 

[Sonoma]

I've had gay guys hit on me a lot. Learn to just decline and be chill about it. Gay guys can either be the ultimate cockblock or the best encourager of their female friend's promiscuity, it's up to you to angle for the latter

 

[RichieP]

I've had gay guys hit on me a lot. Learn to just decline and be chill about it. Gay guys can either be the ultimate cockblock or the best encourager of their female friend's promiscuity, it's up to you to angle for the latter

Precisely! Anyone getting offended by it is missing out on a huge opportunity to befriend and leverage the connection to hook up with chicks.

This is 10x more true if you're the "exotic foreigner" and local gays are hitting on you.

Being friends with a classy gay guy in a foreign country yields huge returns and signals all sorts of good things about you: open minded, socially smooth, not "snobbish expat", sexpat or trashy backpacker, etc.

One local gay friend is like a strategic partnership - he will continually bring female friends for you to bang. And he will encourage them to hook up with the 'hot foreign guy' and bring out their sluttiness. The fact that the gay guy wants your cock gives the girls license to want it also, free of judgement. He basically frames you as a no-downsides sex toy for the chick.

You can even deliberately engineer it. Cheers them in bars or even buy them a shot, be cool and friendly but mention you're new in town and tastefully mention you're straight early on. A good percentage of the time you get brought to a mixed group and intro'd to a single girl. It's a warm social circle intro and you're "in", avoiding all the usual barriers and stereotypes most lone wolf foreigners have to deal with.

Works best in countries where you have "exotic foreigner" value, but still gets you into social circles and enable you to meet cool chicks (and cool ppl in general) very rapidly in any liberal city.

 

[Stallion]

Being friends with a classy gay guy in a foreign country yields huge returns and signals all sorts of good things about you: open minded, socially smooth, not "snobbish expat", sexpat or trashy backpacker, etc.

One local gay friend is like a strategic partnership

Never thought of it that way, but this is so true. In thailand I knew a local gay guy (not a ladyboy, a normal gay guy). Everytime I met him in the club, he introduced me to the hottest and most high-so girls I ever spoke to in Thailand (models, actresses, daughters of CEOs...).

My game was too lame at that time to do anything about it, but this sounds like an easy strategy to infiltrate tough social circles.

 

[RichieP]

^ yes exactly. It's such effective social proof, and also just great *positioning* - the gay guy does all the work of framing you as a no-strings sexual prospect or at least a cool desirable guy, and encouraging his single female friends.

There are a good number of girls in these circles who WOULD hook up with or date a high-quality western guy, the problem is there it's just such a hit to their reputation for them to accept approaches from random club dudes who are nearly always arrogant expat/vulgar backpacker, that they insta-reject. So a social-circle intro cuts through that like a hot knife through butter.

It's also cool because the right gay guy will keep introducing you to more and more of his single friends.... he wants as much status, "gaining face" and social proof as he can get with his myriad of female friends. He does that by farming you out to girl after girl It's really bizarrely good, haha.

 

[zatara]

Totally agree with RichieP. I've got a very professionally/socially successful gay friend and hes constantly surrounded with the hottest girls I've ever seen. I've fucked more hot girls by virtue of being mates with him than thanks to any of my normal wingmen who have good game. A gay friend can be a great aid to game.

If you live in a big city in the West I think its impossible to completely avoid being hit on by gay guys, if you look good. With random gay dudes hitting on you you just have to be very clear with them you're straight, and not interested. Aggressively clear if need be. And don't put yourself in a situation where you could be taken advantage of - don't be getting hammered in a gay bar or anything. Otherwise, just take it as a compliment to looking good.

 

[AnonymousBosch]

I've had gay guys hit on me a lot. Learn to just decline and be chill about it. Gay guys can either be the ultimate cockblock or the best encourager of their female friend's promiscuity, it's up to you to angle for the latter

Precisely! Anyone getting offended by it is missing out on a huge opportunity to befriend and leverage the connection to hook up with chicks.

Quoted for truth. For a while there, the hottest accessory for a Hot Girl was a Fashionable Gay. Probably makes them feel a little less suburban. All you need to do is charm him in a friendly way, and they'll cheerlead for you instead of cockblocking access to the hottie, wanting to keep the beefcake around.

That being said, I'm noticing a dip in this. Maybe Pet Gays have become last years shoes. I suspect Hot Girls didn't understand just how dysfunctional degeneracy is, which is why probably why Gays used to natually pair off with the Fat Girls back when I was in school.

From what I've observed, there's two subsets of gays, and what they value is different:

- One set is obsessed with the Young and Pretty. There's a predatory nature to them, like they're vampires who feed on the appearance of innocence, or are just compelled to corrupt beauty.

- The other set is obsessed with traditional masculinity and strength, and have a combination of awe of dominant straight men coupled with a need to feel bullied into a subservient role to us. They imitate masculine appearance and behaviour, but since they reject the effort it takes to earn it, the majority never really understand it, and it becomes little more than a fetish. When they do understand effort, they deeply-respect and champion it: this is Jack Donovan and Milo.

I doubt anyone else will see this coming, but if /pol/ gets their way, and everything goes full-1488, I suspect a good portion of the gay community will immediately get in line behind them, wanting to be led.

OP, being jacked attracts the attention of the later camp, but it kind of attracts the attention of everyone, straight or gay. Everyone seems to wants to feel big muscle. Accept your life is going to involve a lot of swolestation. I wouldn't overthink it. Laugh it off.

 

[kaotic]

I've had gay guys hit on me a lot. Learn to just decline and be chill about it. Gay guys can either be the ultimate cockblock or the best encourager of their female friend's promiscuity, it's up to you to angle for the latter

The gay guy who hit on me, walked away telling my date she'd better fuck me.

People are going to hit on you, it isn't a big deal.

Most aren't going past complimenting.

It's not like you're gonna go alpha brah fight me mode on a gay dude for complimenting you.

And if you do in this day and age, that's a hate crime.

Relevant:

 

[debeguiled]

Anabasis you've gad some awfully gay friendly [gay ish if you count saving the dick pic] posts recently. What's up with that?

Worse than that, he is flashing his elbows, which is in its way, more personal and disturbing:

 

[Atlanta Man]

I am 257 pounds of pure muscle at 6'5, I used to be 210 . Yes , homosexuals have been more aggressive toward me especially on South Beach. I am not mad though, the homosexuals just are guilty of good taste.