I can't speak for other men's LTRs, but this one has been an all singing, all dancing circus live freak show in terms of sex. That was part of the problem. I married a 19 year old who told me I could do anything and she would do anything, no matter how experimental. So when the kids came, this changed, obviously, then sex was just very good. That's satisfactory, but still a step down in quality of life. The adventurous part was taken out.Well, what did you do for the past 20 years when the sex got dull? Since from your words you're implying that you might have been faithful to your wife for this time, and while this is a noble thing to do(and be), us men here know that long term relationship sex is not exactly a rock concert.
You could also speak with your wife and let her know that you feel she has become too preoccupied with your kids and that she needs to enjoy life more like going to gym or hiking or whatever. Or going on vacations. CAREFUL not to push her into wanting to become a slut at old age such as sleeping with the "cute gym instructor"
The sex issue can be fixed by doing sex tourism trips or finding a sugar baby, you say you like asians, well then, you're good to go. See your sugar baby few times per week during day time in order not to rub it in in your wife since she will most likely catch up on it at some point.
It really is that simple. If you blow up your marriage for the 2 week thrill of a tight fun young girl you will regret it forever
In essence, yes, I really don't want to blow up my marriage. I'm just telling guys on here who are dreaming of a wife and children, if you get it, even if she is attractive, the kids are beautiful, this is no happiness guarantee. You've not made it. Life goes on. Women who seem perfect at 19 will not be at 41. And then the only option man has is to do it all over again with someone else. So basically, either we cheat, or we go with someone else where we know the exact same issues will come up all over again. Or you stay and end up with a crumpled 55-65 year old that looks and acts like a horror show. You can't win.