Having Children Young

You are still a boy, and the average teen female has probably more game than you.

Attractive women at your age are looking for the fun guys. Artists, bikers, world travelers and whatnot. You give off a very serious vibe, which is something that women your age do not appreciate. If I were you, I would pretend I was an artist of some sorts, and never mentioned my boring yet stable life plans. The truth is, that the west does not allow a young man to raise a family in a single earner scenario. Get over it, and adjust to the current times.

You sound too serious for your age. And this is coming from an introverted Computer Engineering major.
Sounds good; but maybe skip the deception. (And taking up an artistic or musical hobby FOR REAL might enhance your inner life, as well as appeal to women.)
 
Looks like the thread derailed from the original topic. If you're young and you have a father, you're rich. Invest wherever you want it's your money. I don't want to say this but not everybody will be willing to work under the sun in the field after helping their father go bankrupt but that's just how it be sometimes.

Pro tip: Give money to rich people they will feel obligated to pay you back. Poor people only need help.

Money invested is money lost for that day.
For beginners: I could have 0 balance in my account but people around me will consider me a millionaire if I spent a million yesterday. Never feel poor. Make your own bed before going out, dress sharp to feel good. Confidence comes from within and from turning heads.

The pen will always be mightier than the sword. Invest in books that will help you land a stable job.

If you want to use your hands after getting tired of using your brain, blue collar workers are some of the friendliest people. They will happily teach you their skills, learn happily.

Never sleep hungry, learn to cook or have women around you who will cook for you. You just have to ask.

Fun fact: You're lucky.
 
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infowarrior1

Hummingbird
It's good to first invest in your career for a few years. But I don't think it's good to marry too late for men either.
Because you will soon grow too old to keep up with your children too soon.

Especially once you reach your 30's especially mid 30's when you decide to marry a woman younger than you.

Unless you are a freak who remains younger for quite a longer time than is ordinary for men. Like some men who seem to retain their youth and vigor longer.
 

tractor

Robin
It's good to first invest in your career for a few years. But I don't think it's good to marry too late for men either.
Because you will soon grow too old to keep up with your children too soon.

Especially once you reach your 30's especially mid 30's when you decide to marry a woman younger than you.

Unless you are a freak who remains younger for quite a longer time than is ordinary for men. Like some men who seem to retain their youth and vigor longer.

From my experience, starting having children at 30 (for a man) is almost too late, especially if you root for at least 3 kids. I noticed that around this age my physical condition deteriorated a bit. Not in the sense of physical shape and sport performance but how your body reacts to other forms of stress. For example, hangovers got worse, so I quit drinking. It's much harder to change habits and routines (with kids you have to). Having a good sleep is more important than in your 20s. It all adds up. But at this age, you still can handle it if you really take care of yourself.

What REALLY helps is if you live close to your parents who can help out with cleaning etc. Only in this case, it's possible that you can concentrate on your career without being constantly needed at home. Me and my wife live in another country, this means I have two full time jobs, basically - breadwinning and housework :squintlol:
 
From my experience, starting having children at 30 (for a man) is almost too late, especially if you root for at least 3 kids. I noticed that around this age my physical condition deteriorated a bit. Not in the sense of physical shape and sport performance but how your body reacts to other forms of stress. For example, hangovers got worse, so I quit drinking. It's much harder to change habits and routines (with kids you have to). Having a good sleep is more important than in your 20s. It all adds up. But at this age, you still can handle it if you really take care of yourself.

What REALLY helps is if you live close to your parents who can help out with cleaning etc. Only in this case, it's possible that you can concentrate on your career without being constantly needed at home. Me and my wife live in another country, this means I have two full time jobs, basically - breadwinning and housework :squintlol:

My significant other's parents live a ten minute walk from us, and when one or more of my stepdaughters are fed up with me, they go live with grandma and grandpa for a few days or weeks. It sure is a nice safety release valve! But it is kind of funny, when grandma has had enough of them, and they get delivered to our front door! Lol
 

Dr Mantis Toboggan

Kingfisher
Gold Member
One thing to keep in mind is your kids' relationship with their grandparents, my parents had me in their mid-30s, I had my first child in my mid-30s, my parents will be close to 90 by the time she graduates high school (and subsequent kids will be even worse).

Waiting until your mid-30s for kids obviously has its benefits (more financially stable, more experienced, etc), IMO having kids in your early 20s has its benefits as well (they're out of the house by the time you're around 40, many years with their grandparents and even great grandparents). I would recommend trying to avoid having kids in your mid-late 20s, seems like the worst of both worlds to me.
 

tractor

Robin
My significant other's parents live a ten minute walk from us, and when one or more of my stepdaughters are fed up with me, they go live with grandma and grandpa for a few days or weeks. It sure is a nice safety release valve! But it is kind of funny, when grandma has had enough of them, and they get delivered to our front door! Lol

Great that you have that option. Although I personally would be wary of entrusting my parents with my kids for so long a time, cos we're not exactly on the same page as regards parenting (I'm a Christian growing more and more traditional, they grew up in communism and are very materialistic). But if you're lucky to share the same values with your parents and other relatives (unfortunately, it's not always the case nowadays), go for it.
 
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