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<blockquote data-quote="Magnus Stout" data-source="post: 1508641" data-attributes="member: 17448">I wanted to chime in (lots of good advice) but add something else: where things are headed, you do *not* need a female who can't (1) follow your lead and (2) be loyal. I would say that the spiritual pressure cooker has just started. That might be a blessing in disguise (much better now than in a divorce).I promise that your 40-year old self would look at things very different than your 30-year old self. I actually found my wife after a similar break up situation (we've been married 11 years so far). I just took a view similar to Nate_Drake above. Women can sense desperation, and there is value to both parties when you can rise above your neediness (read about Stoicism). A good leader must govern himself first before he can lead/govern others.Don't deny the pain or attempt to dull it (that leads to drug abuse and psychopathy). Recognize it and accept that &quot;it is what it is.&quot; Remember that wise phrase, apt in the very best and worst of life's situations: this too shall pass. A woman should never be your mission; your mission should be your mission.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Magnus Stout, post: 1508641, member: 17448"] I wanted to chime in (lots of good advice) but add something else: where things are headed, you do *not* need a female who can't (1) follow your lead and (2) be loyal. I would say that the spiritual pressure cooker has just started. That might be a blessing in disguise (much better now than in a divorce). I promise that your 40-year old self would look at things very different than your 30-year old self. I actually found my wife after a similar break up situation (we've been married 11 years so far). I just took a view similar to Nate_Drake above. Women can sense desperation, and there is value to both parties when you can rise above your neediness (read about Stoicism). A good leader must govern himself first before he can lead/govern others. Don't deny the pain or attempt to dull it (that leads to drug abuse and psychopathy). Recognize it and accept that "it is what it is." Remember that wise phrase, apt in the very best and worst of life's situations: [B][I]this too shall pass[/I][/B]. A woman should never be your mission; your mission should be your mission. [/QUOTE]

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